braids=dreads wtf mom?

So I told my mom. She told me it look dreads look dirty and make you look unkept. She said she drew the line at dreads and would cut them off in the night.

The next day I was playing with my hair. She asked if I really wanted them. I said yes.

For some reason she told me all I need is a friend to braid my hair. WTF? I don't understand how she thinks braids= dreads?

*sigh*

She also called me insane because I refuse to shave. It's note normal. Who the hell wants to be normal?

 

I know you wont, but dont braid it then back comb it! Some numpty did it on 3 of mine, still suffering now
Good luck
Alex

 

"numpty"

hehe!

 

numpty...lol.

Yea, I'm still just letting my hair do what it wants. I just section it and such.

 

Do you still live with your mom?

 

yeppers

 

my mom's cool with my getting dreads

 

you're legally an adult....you can do whatever the hell you want

 

I'm a mom and my kids think I am nuts for dreading! kinda wierd.

 

I know, it's just annoying to hear her bitch about it. She doesn't know what she's talking about and won't listen to me, and I do know what I'm talking about. >.<

 

i would get frustrated if someone was willfully ignorant and controlling of me.

your mom is right, locks can look unkempt... actually it basically is hair that isn't brushed, so yeah in north american and UK society it is essentially messy hair.

i dont know what you're planning to do for a career, but the hair can be a problem. i work in a kitchen and Chef tells me if i want to go really far there, i'm going to need to cut my hair. i don't know if he doesn't like the locks, or the fact that its long, or if its a safety hazard. im giving it time though, if its one of the first two i'm sure he'll acclimate. your mom may be concerned for your future as a working person.

your mom could learn to accept it without even realizing it. if you go the natural way, the changes are pretty gradual. she might think your hair is turning into fat ropes overnight and the change in her mind is drastic, but if you simply stop brushing your hair, the locks just happen. "mom can i have locks?" "nope" "well too bad because they're already here"

 

Yea, ignorant and controlling that sums her up.

Job wise I work at a pizza place. I wear a hat, and if it came down to it I would wear a wig over. I have about 7 or more years of school ahead of me, I don't have to worry about career yet. I plan on going into psychology or anthro or something like that. Working in the field, not an office, so I assume I would be okay.

Well right now my hair is...bleh. I giant nest of hair. I try to get her involved. Told her we could get beads (don't think she thought that was a neat idea). And she did like my hair long, so she get's something I guess...

 

Basically. But since the whole world is under US/UK dominance in some way or the other, we dreads gotta just take it as it is. I feel like family are the worst to deal with because they just want you the way they want you to be.

My family isn't against me dreading, but they're against the way I'm going about it. The natural mode is too much for them and one of my aunts suggested I go back and visit Jamaica to see the "Bobo Dreads" with their hair all over the place. My stepmom told me that I have "homeless person hair". She thinks it's one thing to be a Rasta with the dreads that I'm getting but since I'm not a Rasta I should just get my hair done. They want me to go to a salon and waste money on some stupid braids/twists or whatever but I'm NOT doing that.

Not to mention the ignorance of dreads in history.

 

Just curious...what horrid atrocity happens if you try to dread braids?

 

they either stay as locks, or they become super locks.

 

my mate sam started his plaited/braided, i dunno if he backcombed them when they were plaited, but i do know that they look awesome now.. (i think they do)

heres a piccy..



i think theyre 3 years old now? something like that,, but he started his as looads and loads of tiny plaits, and now theyre dreadies

 

She's concerned because its not the 'norm'. Fuck that. As far as I see it the norm isn't that great and hasn't helped in any way. Why would I want to be just another face in the crowd when I can stand out and be a little different?

She also fails to realize I know what I'm talking about. She's calling this my "rebelling against what's normal stage". >.>

 

That's what mt family said too when I started rebelling against their redneck views as a teen. 17 years later and not much has changed....man, its been one hell of a long phase!

 

I hope my "phase" lasts for many, many years, until death...even then I may try and rebel against death. XP