boyfriend wants to try anal tonight?

my boyfriend is coming over to try anal i've had really small things up there before so how do i deal with the pain that he will cause? i'm planning to get a bit drink aswell
any tips?

 

First you guys should play with it. Using those small things first to help loosen you up. Then move on to lubed up fingers. Have him finger you ass slowly, don't have him just shove them in. When it comes time for his dick to go in, lube it up and lube up your asshole. Once again, go slow, make him take his time going in so your asshole can adjust. Once in, go a slow and steady rhythm. Once you feel comfortable, then you can go faster. Also, deep breathing on your part can help relax your body, which is important. You don't wanna tense up.

 

Dont tense your bum hole either, when your taking things up it loosen your hole, kind of like going for a poop, it will relax the muscles and he will find it easier to get whatever it is inside you. but as Photodude said, work your way up, lots and lots of lube and take it very slow! If something hurts then go back to the smaller sized thing x

ETA: Good luck and Have Fun!! xx

 

Booze & pain pills

 

dont use alcohol or drugs, itll just set you up to not enjoy it. going slow and getting very hot is very important and when it comes to getting him in, you sit on him and control the speed of insertion, dont let him jam it in hard! make sure you're super hot tho, that seems to be the most important for me (tho thinking about it makes me hot, so...)

 

I would recommend AGAINST taking pain killing drugs. Pain is your body's way of letting you know something is wrong, and believe me, you do not want some kind of intestinal tear and not be aware of it because you're pilled up. That could be dangerous and more painful in the long term. You can have a little to drink to loosen you up but don't numb yourself ever when having anal sex, its dangerous.

There is no shortcut, it's all about foreplay! Lots of touching, licking, kissing, playing, loving, laughing. There is no shortcut. When you are ready to take him that way, so will your asshole, just be patient, and make sure he is patient, you don't wanna rush or force this.

 

So, How did it go?

 

dont take pills or alcohol, lay down on your stomach and let him giva u a massage then let him lick your butt hoel for a bit first. Let us know how it went.

 

there are lots of threads on this very topic in this section of the forum, i suggest reading as many as you can before doing it.

good luck.

 

Would all of you men recommend to stay away from men that say "Take the pain. It will go away"?

I'm pleasantly surprised by the posters that understand that it takes time for the female body to warm up to anal sex, and it may not happen overnight. I feel like some people want to penetrate right away.

I had an ex in college years ago that even said how he and his male friends thought that women who couldn't take the pain were wimps. I don't think it's healthy for a man to see his woman in pain.

 

absolutely, guys like that are just pricks, and dont understand women, or their needs.

steady as it goes is the way you need to do it.

 

What's funny is that butt plugs give me great pleasure, but I've yet to have a pleasurable anal experience with an actual man.

Whoever created butt plugs was a genius. They knew how to make it in a way that fits your ass nicely and they make it pink and glittery....so it's nonthreatening.

 

do u find getting the thickest part of the plug slightly uncomfortable getting it past the sphincter muscle, because that muscle can be difficult for some women to relax sometimes, because of the way it squeezes closed.

once the plug is in there, im told it is a great feeling, and i do know one girl who has a vibrating one in her anus quite a lot when just out and about, and turns it on when she is actually sitting down while driving her car.

something like this one without the battery bit hanging off the end, hers is just a curved flat surface that sits against the outside of her anus, and the battery is inside the plug.

 

Ha ha, you're going to get fucked like an animal proper.. and there will be poo poo. Its not like in pornos, that's a fantasy. Think about it.. he will see your shit, as long as you're okay with that

 

You are an idiot and have probably never had sex in your life!

 

Isn't it past your bedtime?

 

So, on 11/11 OP says she's about to have anal and looks for advice. Four days later, no reports from OP. What a waste of time from someone who's just looking to be an asshole!!

 

I hope she wasnt killed in the process

 

Ilovelaura is that you again?

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