So about a month ago I met this guy online. That night we went and saw a movie, and then did some cuddling at his house. We hung out a few more times that week. A week later after meeting him we made out and stuff. Did some stuff below the belt. After that night he seemed to get really busy. A week and a half passed before I got to see him again. We went out for lunch and snuggled by the TV after. We did some kissing on the lips but nothing further then that. Two days later we got lunch, and that was the last time I saw him. I feel like im in a long distance relationship. He just moved back home and now lives about 30 minutes away. We usually talk on the phone once a day, sometimes not. It is my first relationship since middle school days. I think I just have too many hopes for us, and none of them are seeing the light of day. The problem is he added a lot to it. Whenever we talked he always made these 'future' plans that involved the both of us. Like long-term talk stuff. He probably was talking and didn't realize what he said. But I took it to my heart. This Wednesday will be 2 weeks since I last saw him. It's killing me. I wake up thinking about him. He's on my mind all the time. And worse is I know I am probably just setting myself up for sorrow. So I guess what I am wondering is did he just want to 'get some?' At this point I feel like I am just being pulled along. Then my horoscope today says: It's not that you are giving up; it's just that you have the ability today to see your future through a new lens. One thing's for sure: it's not going to be quite what you expected. Pay attention to how your perspective is changing now, but don't try to put your thoughts into action until later in the week. I think I know what's going to happen. I probably won't see him, and if I do, the 'relationship' part is probably over. I think I just fell way too easily and way too soon. It just sucks because I thought he'd be the one to help me out of the closet. Someone I could introduce to my friends. I guess I'll just keep looking.
Unfortunately a lot of times when gay men have sex (or mess around) too early in a relationship, or before they get to know eachother, it really does spoil any possibiltiy for a quality committment to blossom from it. That's not the case 100% of the time, but the vast majority of the time it does. It's happened to me plenty of times. It's like after it's all done, all we can think to do is whistle to ourselves and twittle our thumbs. In most cases, the best bet for 2 gay men to have a good relationship is to wait on the sex, as difficult as it can be. Emotional and mental bonds have to be developed before the physical love-making part can mean anything other than just "getting off". That's what I've learned.
The other night I dreamt that I quit my job and decided to see what it might mean. Boy was it spot on. Quit To dream that you quit your job means you wish to get out of a relationship or stop an annoying situation in real life. It also suggests that you are very frustrated and possibly angry.
Definetely agree with Exopose the truth ,Bonds really need to be devoloped before any real sex.For whatever reason usually if there not it ends up being a quick fling and does'nt mature much.That also been my expirience too.
