BF doesn't want sex but will jack off to inet porn

My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years, he never has been very sexual in bed. He often doesn't stay hard for the entire time or has a very short intimate spurt when he does have sex.

What I don't understand is why he watches internet porn to jack off. He at first denied it completely. I found out that he had been doing it and then he says it was to get his dick to work again so he could have sex. So why not watch it with me? I'm into that and have stated that I would be interested in being proactive with him. Instead I get shamed for trying to watch it myself with him in the room or even if he's not around.

So I find out that he waits until I'm gone to jack off, caught him another day. This hurts considerably, I simply don't understand it. I am lucky if I can get him to have sex once a month but when I'm out of town he will jack off several days in a row to porn. Not to mention that I have to feel like I'm dragging him into having sex when we do have it.

He says he loves me, I have no doubt about it. He's told me that he doesn't have any interest in other women but he also told me that he didn't use inet porn either. He's 12 years older than me and in his early 50's, I'm horny and don't know what to do.

Any advice??

 

I had that problem with an ex...he was majorly addicted to porn.

I'd say its definitely an addiction and he needs some help for it. Especially if he's hiding it and won't watch it with you

 

Thats a good thing to know. He tells me if I need it that bad to go and find it, I'm not wanting to do that but feel like I may have no other choice.

 

Try women instead.

 

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Oh honey thats horrible. I dont know what advice to offer but you must really love him to be able to put up with that. I don't know if i could take that kind of behaviour long term personally. While sex is not the only factor that keeps people together the feeling of rejection when the sex part is dysfunctional does alot of damage.
Your partner sounds like he has a problem but by not getting help for it he's creating another in you and with your relationship which just isn't fair- at all. I would suggest to him that if he truley loves you he needs to demonstrate that by seeking help for his problem.
How do you cope??

 

he sounds like a weirdo, sorry.

 

My girlfriend had this exact problem with her ex (husband). In the end she went out on the town without him, she met me, and we ended up satisfying eachother! She hadn't had any for over a year, poor girl!

 

ask him if you two can act out the scenes....maybe get a projector or some kind of adaptor to connect his computer monitor to a large screen.

 

I would agree with heeh2, thats quite good advise, however my instincts just say get shot of him. You're worth a lot more.

 

my bf says sometimes its just easier for someone who may be old enough to have problems. "i could jack off on many drugs i could never come while having sex on."-him

if you can get him to resist it enough his body's sexual requirement may change and he may be able to get back into a sexual rythm with you.

prostate checkup also

 

Good Suggestion But I Very Much Doubt This Is The Root Of The Problem.

Since He Is Jacking Off Succesfully It Would Appear The "Plumbing" Is Working O.K,

So The Problem Has To Be In His Mind....

At The Age Of 50 Men Go Through The "Change Of Life" Just Like Women Do,

Maybe Even More So, I Think She Should Take This Into Consideration Before Doing

Anything Drastic Like Sealing Him In A Drum Full Of Concrete And

Dumping Him Overboard 5 Miles Out To Sea....



Cheers Glen.

 

What you want to get ? Normal sex live, without masturbating, or wanna your husband use you indeed to masturbate ?

 

What kind of porn is he watching?

He has a hard time (no pun intended) maintaining an erection when fooling around with you. Watches porn in secret and refuses to watch it with you.

I'd try to figure out what kind of porn he's watching, it might reveal the root of the problem.

 

the reason he doesnt care about sex is because he gets it all done and out when he jacks off oooooor he could just be gay.

 

it's not you baabbby don't worry. your boyfriend is so used to watching plastic, airbrushed females with the idea that that is what's "sexy" that its probably hard for him to seperate real from fantasy.

 

I'll be honest, I don't really have any advice. All I can say is it's not all that rare. This video talks about guys who prefer porn over the real thing. It mentions a guy with the problem who abstains from watching porn for a few days to come home and have great sex with his wife.
I guess you have to try figuring out a way to get him off porn for a while.
Good luck.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qAuL-IbS68w

 

Ever thought of making your 'own' mini film?
That way watching you + him may * Inspire *
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First of all, almost all men at some time in their relationships resort to masturbating themselves. It's just very convenient. You might be a pain in the ass in bed. Or you might just not be any fun to have sex with. I've met lots of girls who suck in bed and they never get a return call from me. If you complain a lot, (which it sounds like you do), that's the most unsexy thing in the world. Especially if you complain during sex. I had a girl tell me that her knees hurt while we were having sex. And last, lose weight.

 

Do you have man hands? lol. If you are hands are small and delicate, nothing gets a man harder but if you got hands like you've been a brick mason for the last 10 years, you might have a problem.