Are you self-concious?

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  1. fruit bat

    fruit bat All dumplings are real.

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    I know I am pretty confident in myself generally, but I do have my insecurities. If you care to share, what are you ladies self-concious of?
     
  2. Sage-Phoenix

    Sage-Phoenix Imagine

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    Only really if people are obviously watching me. Like a presentation or something, utterly fucking hate those. The last bastion of my shyness. Am so aware of myself and trying to put on a good show, then get convinced I fucked up.

    I'm not usually too bad though, have a good figure and am used to being 'a freak' so meh whatever.
    My friends are far worse in general, so it's usually me giving them pep talks.
     
  3. mynameiskc

    mynameiskc way to go noogs!

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    absolutely, i'm self-consious. but i'm pretty good at pretending confidence, so it all works out in the end.
     
  4. KozmicBlue

    KozmicBlue Senior Member

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    I'm like that too. I don't like showing my insecurities to people so I most of the time appear confident, but in reality I can be really insecure and self-conscious about myself.. Oh well.
     
  5. Apples+Oranjes

    Apples+Oranjes Bekkasaur

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    Im not really self concious....
    There is a whole list of things I dont like about myself, but GENERALLY I dont let it affect me...

    Though i dont particularly care for the way I look, I have no problems going around naked or in a swimming suit... And i have no issues with going makeup-less

    Its more or less Im self concious about my...geeky persona :p
     
  6. Ocean Byrd

    Ocean Byrd Artificial Energy

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    It depends on both my mood and state of mind, really... Sometimes, I'm self-conscious; other times... I'm not. :)
     
  7. Lazuli Blue

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    Well, I go bright red when attention is on me, even when it's not... I'll bump into an old friend and go red, someone asks my advice and so on, I even blush on behalf of others - it was the accountant's b/day today and everyone sang happy b/day and I went red for her! Stupid huh! Sometimes I don't even know I'm blushing!
    Looks-wise I'm not self confident - I don't give a shit what anyone thinks about my looks. So yes and no :)
     
  8. Sera Michele

    Sera Michele Senior Member

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    Ditto.

    But the less I care about my appearance the more confidence I seem to find. My lack of confidence does start to show up when I am in the presence of skinny, tan, manicured, barbie-doll women, though....I start to feel upset when I think that this type of woman is what society expects and wants me to be.
     
  9. Sera Michele

    Sera Michele Senior Member

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    And I thought I was the only one! I even find myself averting my eyes and blushing for people in uncomfortable circumstances on the TV!
     
  10. Ocean Byrd

    Ocean Byrd Artificial Energy

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    I know it probably doesn't mean much, but, hey... at least you're not in my situation. :)
     
  11. ZePpeLinA

    ZePpeLinA Jump around!

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    yeah i could say that i am. but it also depends on my mood and how good i feel. lately i've been feeling less self-conscious than normal, which is a good thing.... i too get really self-conscious when i have to do presentations and speaking in public, but its not that bad as it used to be.

    I mostly worry about people making fun of my accent, which is pretty stupid, considering i speak really good english, but you always get the assholes that will have a good chuckle when they hear something different.... i'm fully aware of that and that makes me more self conscious than anything...but i'm starting to not give a fuck about that anymore. Can they say they are bilingual?...most people at my uni arent. so fuck them.
     
  12. Shampoo

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    i am REALLY really selfconscious but i think im just @ that age
     
  13. mynameiskc

    mynameiskc way to go noogs!

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    i feel exactly the same. but i finally realized that the quality of men hitting on my sister-in-law and her ilk was nowhere near the standard i had developed and had every right to expect. the men who preferred my just seemed to expect more from a woman, and had more to offer her. therefore, i decided to rest on my laurels, ultimately, i'm treated better.
     
  14. skankleft

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    I find I am getting more comfortable with my body and self as each week goes by. I've never been a very confident person.. always very self-concious. I used to be self concious of my body but now I am learning to accept what I have.. I am more self-concious of my face now.. if that makes sense.
     
  15. skankleft

    skankleft Member

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    I agree. I am generally okay with my apperance but then I see those fake clone-like women and how most men drowl over them and it just makes me upset. Not that I'd want to be with any man that loves the superfical plastic look.. but still it just really upsets me that the majority of society still prefers the fake opposed to the real. And then I begin to question my apperance etc.
     
  16. Spiderweb Sitar

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    I'm pretty self-confident in the sense that I usually do not care what other people think. I can get up in front of 800 people and perform, but in more intimate settings, it's really hard. I didn't have many friends as a child (up until about 8th grade), so I'm pretty insecure about that. Physically, I'm pretty much okay with myself, except for my stomach, but my boyfriend is helping me with that. :)
     
  17. Elle

    Elle Senior Member

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    id say im not typically self concious. i think...or know rather....that i used to be and i wasnt even aware of it. like when i was 16-21...between that age i was most definaltey self concious although i didnt think too much about it then..looking back i see i was terribly. i dont know what changed...if i am just more comfotable about being myself now that i am older and wiser....but i cant say i ever really feel self concious these days. there are things about myself i am not thrilled with and sometimes i think it would lovely to just be kate moss (i think she is beautiful) but i know how ridiculous that is. somtimes if i am in the presence of a really cute guy i do get to thinking "oh what if looking at me and thinking all these negative thoughts" ...but ya cant please everyone. if i am happy with myself i know thats what matters.
     
  18. Ruby

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    I'm pretty confident. I don't really care what people think of me and I'm not worried about embarrassing myself or anything! But when I'm forced into a situation and forced into being the centre of attention, I can be a little self concious because I go really red. I don't even know why because in my mind, I'm not nervous or worried at all, but it is most irritating! Just things like when I'm in one of my new evening classes and don't know anyone, the tutor might pick me out, get me to stand up and give my answer to something, and I go red. Its really annoying!
    Apart from that though, I don't really get self concious. I used to be, but I went through some bad stuff and it seems to have got rid of all that!
     
  19. mint

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    im not self conscious about my body or features but ive always had dark circles under my eyes and i am very self conscious about that. i hate it.
     

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