I tense up so easily. It irritates me. Even when I'm masturbating, I relax totally, but then a few seconds or a minute later I tense up again. It is so difficult for me to relax. Do you find it difficult when you're alone to do so? What about when you're having sex? And do you find the orgasms to be better when you're totally relaxed, or when you're totally tense? I find they are a looot better when I relax, then intentionally tense, then relax, then tense. Much like breathing, and everything. ...It's just when I tense up unconciously that it isn't so nice.
