Any Good hippy men? give me hope...

Are there any attractive men out there who arent strung out on drugs and can have an actual mature relationship? By attractive i basically mean just an all around nice guy, who puts others needs ahead of his and knows who he is as a person.( i also have a strange attraction to longer at least ear length hair)dont ask. it just seems guys who have the hippy style like i am attracted to... longer hair, natural unpreppy clothes, loves good music and concerts,...yadda yadda..the things that first attract a person by sight.. well the people like this that i have met always end up being totally into drugs, drinking, and can be assholes (in my experience) i am not saying there are no good people like this.. i am just saying i have not yet come across one. I am just sick of how i keep being treated and most of it ends up being over drugs, alcohol, and sex.. all of which are not the most important things to me in life... i dont drink but would think about trying weed even though its not somehting i feel i have to do. its just uncomfortable and a big turn off to hear these attracive guys talking about how trashed they are going to get during the weekend. it just sounds retarded to me. is there anyone out there who doesnt need alcohol or lsd to have a good time? i think its just the town i live in but its really starting to make me lower my standards because i cant find anything better out there.. thinking it doesnt exist. i just want a clean(of drugs) hippy guy who can have a long term mature relationship and be optimistic and willing to make things work for love, and who is capable of doing romantic and fun things for his lady, because god knows i can go all out for my man. i just feel like my great relationship potential is being wasted.

 

A teenaged type of guy who isn't a big user of drugs or booze? Who can respect a woman and be in a mature relationship?

They're out there, but they're rare. You kindof have to shovel through piles of men who aren't at all what you're looking for to find a couple of decent ones, in my experience. Maybe if you try to find hippie-types in post-secondary education... those tend to be a bit more mature than other boys out there.

 

im in college and thought that men in their 20's would be more mature.. but oh god as of yet it is actually worse than highschool.

 

Just move your age bracket up a notch. I wont' date below 18, but I'd say my preferred age range is 20-26 somewheres, depending on the person. Also, a guy who lives on his own or with a roommate and has a job is usually a bit more mature, since they have to deal with real life. Or, that's what my experience has been.

 

well im one, but im actually very picky of who i get involved with.

 

Well, I don't know where a lady such as yourself would rate me in terms of attractiveness, but ... I think I might qualify. =) I'm not strung out on drugs, but I do smoke herb to take off the edge of life (I don't drown myself in it, though), and occasionally I'll smoke Salvia divinorum (or perhaps another entheogen/psychoactive) to have a good, spiritual, insightful experience ... but I'm more the type of guy who would meditate or try to bring insight into a drug, and try to gain something from it.

And, I'm all around nice, methinks. I'm the kind of guy who helps out other people, and would pull over to help a dude with his broken down car unless I was late for work or somethin', haha. I know exactly who I am; I haven't always known, and I'm still discovering some really deep things about myself, but I definately know who I am at the core. And uh ... I've got hair that's just a little beyond ear length. It's not going to stay that way, I'm going to grow it out and eventually wear it up in a top-knot like a samurai, and wrap some of it off with hemp twine, but ... hey, it's all good, aye?

I don't have too many earthy-like clothes, I'm still kind of stuck in t-shirts and jeans, but hey, I'm a poor college kid; I can't really afford decent clothes. That, and I have a bunch of Blind Guardian (my favourite band) t-shirts. Uh ... let's see ... I have a hemp backpack, a hemp wallet, and I've pretty much either given away or stopped wearing all of my clothes that have animal products in them (did I mention I'm vegan?).

If you haven't ever tried Cannabis (or something else), I'm the guy who will give you the real, complete story, and give you a (mostly) unbiased opinion. And ... I never really get trashed, like ... to the point where I can't control my impulses. I don't really enjoy getting that screwed up ... save a few rare occasions (like ... St. Patty's Day (happy St. Patty's Day to all of you, by the way!) or when we get our old high-school group together to chill and enjoy ourselves). I have a little policy where, if you want to try something, and it's your first time, it's on the house. =) It's my way of spreading kindness and knowledge.

I'm kind of a computer nerd, but I don't act too much like one. I'm a computer science major at my college, but I'm going to be taking a minor in philosophy as well. As for stuff I'm into ... philosophy and metaphysics and the like, Airsoft (which is like paintball, but there is no paint, and it's extremely-realistic; basically, it's a battle-reenactment kind of game, based on an honour system where you say when you're hit and don't cheat), martial arts (but focused mainly on kendo/iaido and fencing; swordsmanship, that is), snowboarding, languages (I can speak German just fine, and I'm learning Japanese and planning on learning Latin).

So ... I don't know if that gives you any hope but ... hey, I gave it my best shot.

 

Hey, I'd resent that, if it weren't for the second part. =P

 

I'm not strung out on drugs. I drink on occasion,but there's way more important things in life than getting wasted.

I definately fit into the hippie looking category-long hair,beard,tye-dyes & patchwork

Not to be egotistical, but I consider myself to be kindhearted,sensitive, and put others needs in front of my own.

 

wow Hikaru, i find it funny that a few days ago i saw one of your posts on a thread and i was going to post just to say that if that is you in your picture that your a very beautiful person, so i was surprised to see you actually answered this post, so yeah that and the other dudes response does give me a bit of hope. and by earthy clothes, i basically just meant anything opposite of that damn gap and abercrombie preppy look..argh cant stand it. shirts and jeans would go in the earthy category in my opinion, its simple, i consist of band t- shirts and jeans most the time too... kinda dissapointing only 2 guys could respond to this.. you must be a minority like i thought. good for you!

 

Hikaru Zero: It is getting completely freaky how people i see on this forum today are expressing themselves in actuality as direct representations of the type of person illustrated in my devine source books "The Secret Language of Birthdays" by Gary Goldshneider. I have given two readings today, and read several others of people who fit their discriptions to a t... you are another example of it. Let me first say that you remind me alot of my ex of two years, who i loved with all my heart, but it couldn't work out. I have often seen your face and thought of him...anyway, to illustrate my point as to the above discussed issues....regarding your response...

November 5.... "THE DAY OF ACTUALITY"
Those born on November 5 are realists first and foremost. They are driven to speak the truth as they see it, as well as to exemplify the current state of things in the way they live their lives.These then are the people to watch if one wishes to know the times. Those born on this day are highly representative in symbolic terms of the character of their family, occupation, social circle or religious group.
November 5 people will often wish to debunk myths and expose lies and half truths for what they are. "
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There is a full page of info that could be of interest to you, if you care to learn more....
Even though i have given literally a thousand plus readings for people, i owned a used bookstore in so cal and read for customers daily.... it never ceases to amaze me...i have been kind of volunteering this today cause i had some extra time and will for a few more months while i am here.... (check out the other Keanua Otter posts for two others today and see the patterns. )
If you would like to have a reading typed for you i would be happy to type one for you, as i am inspired by your sincerity...it is something i do for fun, but am getting ready to take it a step further in my life when i relocate to Kentucky this spring... i am always learning, and am ever amazed at his profound accuracy and intuitive insights.

anyway, as to the young woman above, VooDooPirate, please know that the universe provides for us exactly who and when we are to love...We have no control over who comes to us and when...it is all destiny, designed to teach us our lifes lessons at the precise time we are to learn them, by the perfect person.....everything in the universe is sychcronized at a level of vibration and perfection that we cannot even begin to understand, but as we mature and see the patterns and study the realities of our own lives and others, we can see that the lessons are there, teaching us everything we came here to learn. Even the bad experiences....even the dry spells when love seems so far away or lost or whatever....Great Spirit never leaves us, and if we are true to our hearts as you seem to be, your magnetic energy will go out into our universe and attract the exact person you are supposed to know without you having to do anything. It just happens when it is should. Trust me..i have been around a long time and am a real gypsy psychic..... My grandfather was a Romanian Royal, but that sounds so bizarre i ususally don't tell people but it's getting late and iv'e written alot here today and i'm getting a little less inhibited....as time goes on i will prolly reveal alot more about myself...just believe what i say and have faith. We all have to learn how to trust, and sister it can be hard!!! Just know that god knows what she is doing! Everything will happen in your life, to bring you love.

 

I'm sorry that it couldn't work out for you two ... I guess we all just have a limited number of people that it can work out with, even if both people try really hard. =\ C'est la vie, I suppose.

As for your reading, I am driven to speak the truth as I see it, and make examples of situations (like this one, lol), and I do like tearing apart worthless cliches and exposing lies and half-truths.

However ... I'd have to argue that I'm not representative of my family, occupation, social circle, or religious group. Actually ... I pretty much hate my family; my dad was basically an ex-Marine half-child abuser, and I can't stand him. My mom constantly backstabs and blackmails me to get what she wants as well. I try to be everything that my family isn't, and because my family is hypocritical and thinks they know it all, I think that kind of DRIVES me to pick apart lies and false truths, and to really try and open my mind.

Hmm ... okay, I'm a little representative of my occupation: computer programmer. Well ... it's really, really hard to be a programmer and NOT represent yourself as the stereotypical programmer, lol.

And ... I'm currently the only one I know of that believes (religously) as I believe, so I don't know how I'd be representative of that.

 

Interestingly enough, my ex was abused by his father as well, and by his mother who allowed it to happen, (although she is a very good person who was just caught up in the syndrome, and regrets letting it go on out of her own fears of getting beat more herself ).......his birth day astrology also has issues of "battering down competitors or detractors", basically anybody who dared to challenge him in the slightest way....not fun to be on the recieving end of an abused child/mans latent anger...along with his added issues of being a very powerful, determined person prone to this behaviour as well !!! It is all in our stars and i forgive him and love him regardless...but it was very very difficult and traumatic. As you indicate, your family brought out the issues you deal with today...another example that, to me, indicates that we choose the people we call family, precisely to trigger the reactions in us, to get our issues out in the light of day, so that we can deal with them and make them something positive. I am sure that my ex is going to heal himself and not hit anyone again, thanks to what he went through with me...it scared us both....and... He was young... Interestingly, that issue is featured in our relationship together, in Gary's other book, "the secret language of relationships". Ours was very intense and deep and meaningful... we also had to part so he could experience alot of other things, namely being a father himself. I pray for him and his child everyday and wish them all the absolute best love in the world. And the same to you, as you grow, learning to overcome the hardhip of being abused....i am sure you will be a wonderful influence on your own kids someday, if you have them, being able to see clearly and understand yourself and what your core beliefs are.

 

Sorry to get off topic here sister VooDooPirate who started the thread, but maybe in a round about way you can extract some wisdom here...relationships teach us about the deepest parts of our lives...they are not just about having fun and feeling good all the time, although that part is nice while it is happening! you sound like you have your eyes wide open and are self aware...this is a very essential tool in avoiding disaster! Keep your boundries up, and your standards high...just remember that all men have issues...you just have to get very very clear on exactly how severe they are before you lose your heart. Even though that is fate too! It is all so difficult sometimes!

 

I know... But it really makes me wonder when I can't find a nice girl my age who isn't obcessed with sex, drugs, and etc, either. I mean, for me, a little brownie seasoning doesn't hurt every month or two, but other than that, I don't care for anything else and could give that up in a heartbeat as I only do it once a month or less when I'm with one of my friend's and his sister if we have nothing to do some weekend. My poison of choice has always been love. I don't even like it when people smoke cigarettes or drink alcohol in the house. People get too messed up and lose hold of their lives... But the only girls that don't have control of their lives to the point where they aren't like that I have ever met are all insanely christian and are really uptight. ...

 

well girls your age mostly have no clue who they are or why they do what they do, wait a few years

 

thats the problem i have with guys.. the ones who arent hard core into all that stuff that i dont do are like really christian or wear pikachu shirts and play magic cards non stop.... im not saying there is anything wrong with that its just something i really am not attracted to in a guy... the ones that attract me at first visually are the type that end up being chainsmoking potheads... not something im looking for.

 

Ahahaha... I know... but so do most guys. It's just so freakin' idiotic.

And yeah, I'll have to agree with you on the magic cards and anime-ness and all of that...

Ahaha... it's like some strange game where everyone is in on it and they try to drive you insane...

 

would you classify me as a nice, easy going guy? - Look at my pics. I am an avid classic rock fan (Dead, Hendrix, ect, ect.), love comedies and have my own style for dress. So by your criteria I think I kick ass (I'm also pretty confident). So, I'd have to say yes to your question - me, and many others (obviously).

Just keep chillin and love yourself and someone will come along eventually.

 

Hey Brother Carlfloydfan, guess what? I checked out your page and read some of your Rants... they are quite powerful, well written and funny...which led me to check out your birthday info, and, as i expected you would have a dynamic, birthday energy... (see my posts above).... you are ...drum roll........"THE DAY OF ROUSING VIGOR"
"Even the most lethargic of souls can be stimulated by the rousing energy of a November 6 person. Those born on this day are generally either invigorating personalities by nature, or involved in creating a stimulating or enthusiastic environment for themselves and others. At any rate, November 6 people surely get the blood flowing.
One reason November 6 enthusiasm is so infectious is that it is not of a superficial variety, but springs from a deep place. Well grounded in technique, fact, self-assurance and conviction, November 6 people display a profound belief in their abilities as well as those chances of achieving success in the world".....
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keep up the good work...if you want more info email me. ps. i totally agree with you about live journals used for personal thoughts...how do people do that? anyway, i know this thread is about finding good men, so everybody just get these books to LEARN who the person really is "in general" if you want to be involved with them. There are gems out there!

 

yeah