Anal sex for heterosexuals

I am a hetero guy, and I am very into anal sex. I find the stigma associated with it very alluring, both of being violated, ravished, and totally under my lover's control, and if I'm giving it, I find it equally alluring to be in total control, and somewhat violating her boundaries (willingly, of course).

I have had a conflict over this for awhile now, and I just want some opinions. Is it really genuine anal sex when a woman fucks a man in the ass with a strap on or other accoutrement (like a feeldoe) that is actually, physically giving her sexual pleasure in the process? I have already ruled out anything other than this as not being genuine anal sex (meaning fingers, butt plugs, dildoes, etc. because they don't have anything to do with the woman's genitals). But if the woman is actually having her genitals stimulated as she fucks the male's ass, then is this actually anal sex?

I have two personal thoughts on it, which are either A) it is true anal sex, because it is in every way equivalent to a male giving a female anal because one's anus is stimulated whilst the other's genitals are stimulated or B) it's not really because there's not a direct biologically attached member involved (rather, the female's sexual organ is indirectly involved).

Tell me what you think.

 

As soon as something penetrates the rectum then its classed as anal sex. It wont make anyone more gay just because you like it up the arse, if anything it will open your mind more and it will add to the experience of your sexual desires

 

Foreign Object + penetration of the shitpipe = anal sex

 

lol

I don't understand why a guy would want to be fucked in the ass unless he's gay, not saying you are, I just don't see the reason, I mean gay men have no other choice but if you're straight you have two great options, is two not enough? lol

I can't see how it is possible for the girl to get pleasure out of it, so yeah.

 

You need to look up in this forums all the people who talk about mindblowing orgasms after prostate stimulation and then maybe anal will make sense.

 

no need for him to do that. guys who find that to be indicative of homosexuality are ignorant cunts who are insecure with their own masculinity.

did i fail to make it clear that all i was curious about was how the action was considered as far as semantics are concerned? i am not in question of my own sexuality, nor of the indications behind the activities i enjoy. fuckin dude missed the point.

 

Excellent point on all counts. I have to say that the literal definition is what people stand by. If there is a sexual act involving the anus, it is considered anal sex. However, if you prefer to enjoy anal sex when both parties have a good time, I won't stand here and say you're wrong. That shows a lot of maturity which tends to be lacking in many sexually active individuals such as some of the posters in this thread.

 

Yeah, okay, I suppose in today's world for me to be completely sound with my sexuality I have to take it up the ass?

For the record I voted on woman on man not being anal sex because the girl's using a toy, unless she's a shemale I see no way that she can get pleasure out of it and in that case it wouldn't be a toy, toy=playtime, not actual sex.

 

You just shouldn't write ignorant assumptions about it. There are many reasons that people do it, so there is no reason for you to write intolerant things like that. The people who like have legitimate reasons and you either don't know them or won't acknowledge them. I just don't think you should be narrow-minded about the idea; i never said you had to practice it.

 

look up a feeldoe, guy. then ask me how women get pleasure.

 

I agree about the taking it up the ass. Fuck that. Penetrating a womans anus ok, but I dont want to feel like a prisoner.

 

I can come up with a reason that is purely "heterosexual".... if you really love and want to be with a person in every way- you could want to do everything with them. That's how I get sometimes and in my life it has little to do with sexuality and much to do with trust and/or love- mostly trust, which to me equals love of some form.

 

I think you're gay.

 

The homophobic remarks are so abundant within this thread; it's ridiculous.

I understand that many straight men will equate anal sex with homosexuality but why the ignorant and demeaning statements?

 

You shouldnt "TAKE IT" personally. It is just joking and people letting loose.

 

The feeldoe is awesome. I've had one for a while now, and my boyfriend loves taking it from me. It's a win-win.

 

Your boyfriend wreaks of back alley homosexual liasons.

 

I believe you mean 'Reeks' and what a silly assumption to make. Men have a prostate that is supposedly very pleasurable to stimulate - Why not do it if you're a man and a woman who are comfortable with each other?

 

Yes, you are correct. I have Christmas on the mind lately so I'm thinking of wreaths. Don't be an English teaching grammatically correcting asshole though.
BTW, your BF has brown hair and loves asian boys. Right?

 

Yes, you're right, you silly little troll. I'm an asshole for correcting someone on hideously mispelled words, and correcting him of his poorly mis-informed assumptions based purely upon an extremely anti-homosexual society.
What is it with males today and thinking that if anything other than toilet paper touches his ass, he's immediately a flaming homosexual?