Before I get started on my little rant, I'd like to say that actually my favorite thing to do is cunninglingus. It turns me on, keeps me horny, and keeps me erect; so if I woman doesn't allow me to do it...we just simply don't work out sexually. Plain and simple. Now to the anal rant. I simply will not be with a woman that refuses to do anal. I don't care if we've been dating for a year or engaged for a year; if I find out she won't do that, ever, then it's over. I'm 28 now and so I look for marriage material, both in and out of the bedroom; no anal = no marriage material. Now before I go into my reasoning, first let me quell all the women's first thoughts. If you are thinking, what an asshole for dumping someone just for that; then these are my responses to you. Most of you would not put up with a man that can't satisfy you sexually, so why should I, a man, have to put up with a woman that doesn't satisfy me? If you don't have to settle, why should I? Also you accusing me of being an asshole for dumping a girlfriend or a fiance' over anal, is just as bad as me accusing a girl that doesn't do anal of being a boring sexless prude in bed. I won't accuse you, if you don't me. Now on to my reasoning. I think we can all agree that problems in the emotional part of a relationship can, if not solved, lead to problems in the sexual side; I think this is also vice versa. Well even though anal isn't even my favorite thing to do, I'd be happy even if it was only once a month, I don't like the idea of being denied it. I would be waking up every morning next to this woman; and the only thing on my mind would be I can never ever do her in the butt. That would lead to me picking the same fight with her day in and day out. I don't want to put up with that and she doesn't deserve the constant hounding about it. That would lead to problems in the relationship or marriage and eventually a breakup or a divorce. While waking up to a woman that I know I can give anal to, even if it's once a month, would have a calming effect on me; because I know I'm allowed access. So that's my reasoning on the whole issue. Basically, I'd rather remain single and spend 7K on a realdoll for the rest of my life, than be married to a woman that doesn't allow me to do her in the butt for the rest of my life.
I could not have said it better. I agree totally. It is a sign that the person is not "open" and experimental. My ex-wife only went down on me before marriage, and never let me near her ass. i thought it would get better with time, but time only had it all grinding away at my patience. I finally divorced her. There were other problems but mostly she just didn't like change or new experiences.
sexual compatibility is important... anal isnt a big deal for me. my bf wants to try it sometime, but its not a super huge deal for him either. but we both love dirty talk and some like d/s type games so we are compatible that way which is awesome. theres nothing wrong wtih deciding nthat sexual compatibility is important to you
If the thought of gettin/not getting anal is the first on your mind every morning then that's your number 1 request for a companion and, no offence, but that's quite pathetic IMO.
I just said that to get my point across. But if I would be denied it, I would eventually keep asking and keep asking, until it became a real problem. But more to the extreme point......since you want to be a jackass about it.. why I'm not going to sit there and settle for some female that can't satisfy me sexually and constantly WISH for the rest of my life that we could do something, when there are plenty of other fish in the sea. And the day you marry some guy that only does you in the missionary position without doing anything else, even foreplay, is the day you can bitch about my sexual wants in a female you freaking jackoff.
If she bites her nails and it annoys you, are you going to spend your life wishing for someone who didn't do that? haha this rant is rediculous
If I really loved the guy then I'd get the other things done by myself. There are people who don't place whether he or she does me like this or that to the first place.
I rather think this rant has a good point to it; definitely not ridiculous. I certainly did not do diculous over again.
I would have to agree! DarkMage, if your partner's particular number 1 desire is to stick cucumbers up your ass would you lay back and take one for the team?! I seriously doubt it! A person not wanting anal sex is totally different to a person refusing to do anything else but missionary. Anal sex is not for everyone, and if you choose to only have partners that will do anal then you are sidestepping thousands upon thousands of women. Still, it's your choice and you have a right to that. But you don't have a right to expect a partner to accommodate your every whim.
Fair enough; but I never said in my rant that I expected my partner to do something they don't want to do. What I said I would do, is end the relationship; which I think is a lot more humane than trying to maybe guilt trip the female into doing it. Now if that means making my life more difficult when it comes to finding the kind of female I want, so be it. I would also like to point out that I never said anal was my number 1 desire; that trophy goes to me going down on a woman. What I said, was it would eventually get on my nerves to the point of causing serious relationship problems, if she flat out refused to ever do anal. I wouldn't even complain if it was like once a month or even once every two months....that is better than never ever ever. I wouldn't guilt trip her into it, I wouldn't throw a tantrum over it; I'd just tell her it's over and give her the reason. You can't guilt trip a woman into anal anyway. If she doesn't truely want you back there, then she won't be relaxed. If she's not relaxed, her anal muscles won't be relaxed; and then there is no way in the pit of hell you're getting up there without causing her serious pain.
So why did you post the rant in the first place? What other requirements do you have for women? Or is no one giving you the backstage pass and that's why you have to explain your views to the world? I'm just intrested.
Just been have some bad luck finding women that do that. My other requirement is that a woman want a man to go down on her. But that's got actual merit behind it. If she won't let me go down on her, considering that keeps me horny and I love it, I'll end up losing interest and go limp; so that's pretty obvious why that's a requirement. Funny thing though, besides having a difficulty time finding woman who will do anal....the last 2 I've met had something against men going down on them. Serious bad luck. Really bad luck.
So take cucumber with a 5 inch girth and shove it up your ass, then you know why you're having such bad luck. It doesn't matter how aroused or lubed or ready you are, it's still far from anything comfortable. As for the other problem, most women are very self conscious about their bodies and appearance, including down there. You see I'm really not trying to insult you but you seem to have either little knowledge about how women think or you're just far too wrapped up in yourself to even try. I'm not surprised you may scare them away if good sex means going down on them and doing anal. Try to see it from a female's perspective for once.
Obligated to let you do what you want to her?! You're sick. If you think women exist for the purpose of doing anal with you, you're way off here. You make it sound like once you do it for her, she has to do it for you. Get yourself an ass-shaped penis pump or something and stop treating other people like things that exist for your whims.
I love my fiance, and if there was something sexually that he was uncomfortable with (which there is) I would not end the relationship just because I don't get my way (sexually). There is a lot more to life than sex, and a hell of a lot more to relationships than sex. If sex is all you consider when with a partner, I hope you find someone who is just as shallow minded as you are. Peace and love
Some people simply put more emphasis on sex in a relationship than others when searching for a partner. It's just another part of the compatibility between people. While I personally don't put much emphasis on sexual compatibility, I still firmly believe that we should all live and let live.
Someone makes a thread about eating food from people's asses, and I'm the sick one. I said obligated because the deal would have been, if I do so and so for her, then it would be my turn. Ever hear of a 50/50, give and take relationship? You take everthing out of context; I'm really disliking you so I'm done responding to your posts in this thread.
its no tlike hes the first. as id mentioned eralier, its just about sexual compatibility *shrugs* just like i couldnt date a really submissive guy or one who is unwilling to perform or receive oral
