i have this really strange thing with anal, i enjoy it, i really do, but 50% of time i have to quit half way. at first it feels great i might even get 'almost there' but then i just feel that i can not stand it and that's it. really strange. BUT i love it when my bf fucks my ass with toys, great orgasms every time. weird
I'm sorry to hear about your problem. My wife and I love anal sex. What do you mean when you say you can't stand it? Is it painful or uncomfortable? Where is the discomfort, inside or at your spinchter?
it's uncomfortable, but im not sure if it's a physical thing. it's more in my mind, at some point all i want to do is stop.
Where do you find it uncomfortable? Is it inside, or on the outside? Are you using a good lube? I highly recommend a silicone based lubricant, such as Wet Platinum. It's condom safe too, if that's an issue for you.
i dont use condoms with my bf. yeah maybe it's lube, i do use some but maybe i should find a different one. i feel uncomfortable alltogether, it might even be more like a psychological thing. i dont feel pain or anything like that. at some point i just feel that i cant go on and i dont want him not to be inside me.
i completely understand what this is ... you actually dont love your bf too much ...you feel you love him but at times while makin out/love with him ...u just feel wtf am i doin....and den just stop it in 1 of the most fucked up ways and im sure u feel irritated/frustrated too after that ...
It could be that you find the idea exciting (as I do) but the act doesn't live up to the fantasy. I have just recently started using toys in my ass while I masturbate, and I've had some great orgasms, but I think its more the thrill than the act itself. There may also be some physical issues. Anal sex is not what the organ is intended for, and some find it just plain uncomfortable. Stick with the toys for now - and use a LOT of lube. Sometimes its best if you use a syringe to lube inside as well. The anus can act as a squeegee which can remove a lot of the lube you use, and end up leaving it outside the sphincter. Beware of the lube though, use a water or vegetable based lube because many of the synthetic lubes act as a laxative (might not affect the act, but you may pay for it later).
thanks Alana when i had my first anal orgasm ( it was the third time i had anal sex) it was the best big O ever. i couldnt believe how good it felt, i'm just so sad i can't enjoy it anymore.
Alanas right, go for vegetable based lubes. Butter works also. It may be the healthiest. Generally, oil based lubes last longer and are superior for anal (vaginal, they increase risks for infections), as water based lubes dry up a bit. Yes, do try to be sure that you have some lube inside of you. With shotening, butter, or vaseline, you can shove wads or chunks inside.
After having anal sex for a while, I got this thing where I would feel uncomfortable (not pain exactly, it just felt weird) unless my clit was being stimulated at the same time...
You enjoy anal sex if your clit is stimulated? I think that's the case with most women who enjoy anal sex. You might want to try using a dildo or vibrator on your clit. Let us know how it turns out.
anyway i think this problem is 10%physical - maybe some better lube will help. and 90% psychological - and i really dont know what to do about that
You need to actually desire it. It sounds like you're only halfway desiring it. Think about how taboo and naughty you're being - a nice girl with a dick stuffed in her most private of holes! Turn the psychological thing into a benefit. Part of the fun of anal sex is that feeling of being naughty and then using that feeling to get off.
Walk through a fantasy in your mind next time, of you enjoying anal sex from start to finish. Try to stay focused, and "in" the fantasy. Pick a really hot theme that usually keeps you in fantasy mode. One that can almost put you in a trance. Thay may over-ride your psychological problem.
