am I bi or not? I'm still wondering. I like dudes. I mean I like them fiscally but I never had feeling to a dude. I always thought that when the ONE shows up I'll now it's HIM. But I never had a huge crush on a guy nor have the need to have a boyfriend. On the other hand I'm not attracted to girls... but I think I'm in love with one. And that seems to be a problem. I'm like obsessed with her, think about her most of the time, if she asks for a favor I can't say no to her... and the other thing is that she is one of the best friends I ever had. Here comes the hard part - she's really straight but always gives me a hug, kiss on the cheek, says stuff like " you're great", "you're cute", "I miss u", "I love u" and stuff like this... And she has a boyfriend who is a great guy it's just I'll aways envy him. I wish I was a boy.. but this things never change... so I want to stop loving her so much and just be friends... How can this happen? And the other thing am I Bi, lesbian, straight...
In my opinion you need to ask yourself how do you really feel. I know you love her, but there are many levels of love. But in addition to that, how does it make you feel when she hugs or kisses you? When she says she loves you, do you find yourself wishing she meant it in the way that you're talking about? Are you physically attracted to her? And I'm going to come right out and ask you this too. If she took your hand and led you to the bedroom - etc. etc. - how would you feel and/or react?
If you get on a messageboard and start a thread with that title, you've already answered that question
And would have answered it poorly, more than likely I would arguably say you're not bi, there is no key attraction (lust) there. Ask yourself why you like her- the chances are you might want to be like her, you may want her life, her look, her mind. I really think it comes down to a certain degree of reverence you have for another. You have to just look at the facts, if you don't want to have sex with her then whatever else that is going through your head is irrelevant to your sexual preference. It's really easy to get your wires crossed, I suppose.
