Age differences between partners

I recently started seeing a girl and we have good chemistry between us. She is clearly older than me. I tend to not discriminate with age differences, or at
least I try not to. I'm 25 and she is in her mid to late 30s, but I never asked her for her real age. I don't beleive this is going to be a long term serious relationship but rather a fling. It's been a long time since I last had sex and I got sexually frustrated. I feel that despite our age differences, we can have a good time together. In society it seems more acceptable for the
woman to be much younger than the man, instead of the other way around. But I feel that the older you get, the less age gaps matter.

 

yes.

i agree. i'm with someone right now that's 27 and i'm 19.
but what's good about non-traditional relationships (we're both guys), is that they're not traditional. :coffee:
like that sux if people'll diss u on your woman bein older.

well even at that, you said it won't be a long-term thing, so who cares.

 

I have always liked people who are older than me. I don't think that age is a problem at all, if you like her then it's all cool!

 

My partner is 14 years older. Do whatever you want, as long as you don't feel taken advantage of or threatened. Don't be afraid to ask her a lot of questions and shit. I mean, you two are both adults and you are the only ones who stand in judgment of your relationship.

 

OP: Given that you're the man and she's a woman, she's more likely to develop wrinkles way faster than you would, look much older than you would, and I cannot see you staying faithful to her all these years, provided that you're already asking people on the internet their opinions on her.

Your post leads me to feel that she is a person you'd enjoy company with, which'd lead you to give false signals, then later you'd have a withdrawal, and she may get hurt. Even if you keep determination all the time that it is a short-term thing, she might think other-wise you never know!

My serious advice to you is to cut it short. You had fun already, but anything more might lead to a more serious relationship that I fail to see as successful. It would be a bit selfish to think of own pleasure and disregard the potential hurt of others. Cut it short mate and find someone whom both your heart and mind tell you that you both have a potential for a long-term thing ongoing, or someone who would be for mere fun i.e. one night stand or a fuck buddy, even though the latter still causes troubles because it is, in most cases, likely to develop for one partner to something more.

Best luck seriously.

 

Well we both talked things over last night after some sex and we have the mutual opinion that although we both really like each other, we are better off as friends with benefits instead of being serious relationship partners.

I feel we are both better off that way. I told her that if she ever found another man she truly loved, she could end our fling and I would have no problems about it.

I'm relieved that we are on the same page with our opinions.

 

I snogged an older lass once. It was a scarring experience, actually.

 

Sounds great. I once had an ongoing fling with a woman who was 19 years older than me. We both went in knowing it was just a fling (She still had a husband and a son about my age) It was great fun and she actually taught me stuff about lovemaking.

Hope you and the lady friend have lots of fun.

 

Age doesnt matter at all......

If 2 people love each other,they should go for it


Good luck Fueled by Coffee!!

 

I tend to believe that being with someone older can be beneficial in a lot of ways, especially sexual. If they've experienced a lot, there's a lot you can learn & what not. I don't really think about age gaps all too much because I mostly talk to older females myself.

Just my $0.02.

 

My boyfriend is 46 and im 24

 

Nothing wrong with that at all.....I WISH YOU MANY YEARS OF UNBELIVABLE HAPPINESS

 

Wow. What a subjective topic for me personally.

If I were in my twenties, I'd probably never go more than four years younger. Hell, after I turned 25, I only dated 25 or maybe a year younger because of that unspoken maturity transition that happens between 23-25. Simply liked women of that age range because they were much calmer and less finicky than their younger counterparts.

But now in my 30's...I could probably go 25 or 26. That would be it though. Anything younger would probably bore me to death with the usual beer-and-party bullshit.

 

I don't think that's a weird age gap at all. My mom is 7 years older than my dad, for example. Once you get past your early 20s, age really stops mattering. Who care what other people think about it anyway?

 

Hubby and I are exactly the same age to the date.

 

I will not date a woman more than 112 years younger or older than me. My wife is 8 years my junior though. I wont date anybody because I love her.

 

Very good,thats responsible of you my friend

 

I'm a believer actually there's more stereotyping behind older male/younger female relationships.

"She's a gold digger."

"He's a pervert."

If you're dating an older woman, it's assumed you have some sort of mental problem rather than a character flaw. Funny how that works.

 

That's true as well. I suppose the reason why that might be is because older men dating younger women has been more widely known for a much longer period of time. Older women dating younger men is still a new cultural shift.

Well our little fling we had going came to a peaceful and somewhat of a mutual end. No hard feelings at all. But thid experience really opened my mind up to new horizons. Throughout our fling she kept her age a secret, I assumed she was in her early 40s. But this was after I guessed she was 38 or 39; she said she was older.

She told me in the end that she 24 years my senior at the age of 49 all along and had 3 kids she chose not to tell me about. I could tell that at some point in her life she was pregnant, and I simply chose not to ask her about it. She said she had fun with me in this little fling. After we first had sex, we both decided that the age difference was too significant for a committed relationship with strings attached.

She told me how she wished she had a man like me when she was my age.

 

12 years between us. What's the deal? Talk to us both and you'd never guess. I seriously think anything under an entire generation isn't worth mentioning unles it's presenting a problem in the relationship.