Age Difference

Do you think if love has no limits on gender that it should also apply with age? and if not, what age difference do you find acceptable...I'm just curious (mainly for personal reasons) but intrigued nonetheless

 

While I can see many problems with age differences, speaking from emotion I would say no limits. However, as a 62 year old bi male I can early see myself with a much younger person. Even in there teens. (Over 18 of course.) On the other hand, I can see no reason why they would want to be with me. But if an offer is made, I would be hard pressed to turn it down. <(^o^)>

 

As a follow up to my previous post: I have made a friend on line here at the Hip Forums. A nice kid, he is like Feign, 17. We have fun talking on line. We have done a lot of P.M. and started I.M. with yahoo. However, I don't hear from him as often as I would like. I turn on instant massager and send him a "Hello" but get no reply. I'm sure that the age difference is a big factor. I am pretty sure that this relationship means much more to me than it does to him. And it is breaking my heart. I probably should not allow myself to get attached to someone online that I have never met in person. Still I have fallen in love with this beautiful young follow, and wish I could spend more time with him. <(^o^)>

 

I'm 17, and I'd go for a 2 year difference at most. I find guys my age the most attractive.

 

That would seem about right to me. At 17 2 years is quite a difference. The older you get the wider that time spread will get. At 60 a 10 year difference will seem like nothing. I can tell you this. When I first met my wife I was 18 and she was within 3 months of turning 14. While we hung out together at a place called the teen center, we did not start dating until she was 15. We have been married now for 39 years. Age difference not withstanding.
<(^o^)>

 

I believe that love does not have age or gender or sight. I mean sure, everyone is at least slightly superficial, and will pursue others that they find aesthetically pleasing, but that's just human nature. I am guilty of it myself. I believe that the age of someone I'm attracted to wouldn't matter, as long as it wasn't a hindrance to my attraction

 

I'm 25 and I've pretty much had a constant maximum of +/- 5 years of age difference with guys I'm attracted to throughout my life. When I was 23 I remember I still liked some 18-year-olds, however, now I just don't find I have anything in common with them. It's weird that a couple of years could play such a difference.

I guess it's different with different people and once you meet somebody and you connect the age doesn't really matter. However, it does seem weird in cases when an older guy goes exclusively for younger guys only.

 

for me it depends on the guy so it really doesnt matter
anyways, i ve gotten with a 26 year old guy and im 18
daym he was fucking worthit

 

for sex...whatever. i guess there's a little more of an understanding with people older or closer to your age...but sex is sex. (personally a prefer women late 20s)

for a relationship...at my age, i'd say that even a 3 or 4 year age difference is pushing it as far as how well the two of you can relate. (pretty girls dating older guys stop kidding yourselves)

 

When I was 16 prime target was a MAN 25-35, emphasis on MAN.

Just on the physical,nowadays, if he's 6ft+, stomach is smaller than the chest and a decent sized wang, couldnt care if he is 26 or 56.

As for "maturity", I dont think guys really ever grow up, we all just like to pretend we do

 

My Experience Over The Years, Has Been That (within the law) Age

Doesn't Matter A Damn.

I Have Only Ever Had About Five Serious Boyfriends, And Of Course The

Occasional Short Term Bonk In Between....

In Nearly All Cases They Have Been Ten Years Younger Than Me.

AND, They Would Only Date Guys About Ten Years Older Than Them.

The Only Exception Was Jason, And During That Five Year Relationship

The Age Gap Was Twenty Years.

It Worked Perfectly For Both Of Us, And The Age Difference Was Only

Ever Mentioned By Losers Who Wanted To Break Us Up So They Could

Latch Onto Him Or Me....

To Sum Up....If It's Legal....And Your In Love....Age Means Nothing....



Cheers Glen.

 

I think GlenGlen has it rignt. But life is complicated. I have falling in love with someone 45 years younger than myself. I know that he is very found of me. And has even stated his love for me. However, because it is a long distant cyber relationship, and the fact that I am already married together with the age difference means that it can only be a fantasy love affair. Besides, he has a boyfriend that is his own age and I do not want to interfere with that. My love for him make me want thing to work out in his best interest, which is not to end up with an old fart like me.

 

I think exploitation is wrong no matter how big or small an age gap. There are some pretty cynical teens and some incredibly naïve middle-agesters out there. Some of them might get on pretty well with each other.

However, any gender/orientation will have its predators, and among them are those who prey on naïvety. For every totally genuine love between a guy and a guy twice his age, there's a guy going after someone half his age because it's easy.

 

i don't really have an age limit... if the person seems right they seem right, attraction mentally and physically can become at any age!

 

If someone was unscrupulous and had a good memory, they could, for example, just remember everything that would've pushed their buttons at 18, and used the self-control and hindsight they now have at 36 to bag any number of naïve kids. When you're young, the idea that someone older than you thinks you're really mature for your age WILL get you into bed, no exceptions. A lot of us aren't shitty enough to exploit that. A lot of us are though. And it doesn't surprise me that a lot of youngsters take a long time to twig that they're being taken for a ride, and that the 40 year old they make love to is just fucking them.

 

that should only abide to people who are naive enough to be with someone like that...

 

Oh, I know. But it's a lot of people. Most of them don't think they're naïve either. I know that maturity and age don't necessarily correlate, but based on experience, there are exceptions to the rule, rather than no rule. We mature from experience, and experience takes time. Anyone who tells you that you have an old soul or anything like that is just trying to get an easy lay out of you.

But either way, I think people benefit from dating within their own maturity range. I've not known a couple with very different maturity, big age gap or not, that lasted long or had a stable relationship.

 

of course your age could have a huge gap but everyone matures differently which is important with compatibility. some people are just naive about being naive...

 

Whenever I'm single I tell myself I don't have a type and really I don't - most men have some endearing feature; a twinkle in the eye means so much more being fit to me

And then, as usually happens, I suddenly find myself with a boyfriend and he's tall, thin, blond and about 25 - and this has been going on for about 10 years now

Sometimes I look back and think, "Hey, that guy was really young" but at the time it always seems so normal

Last weekend I was at Blackpool (England) Pride with an old friend and we were really there just to have a party

Got pretty drunk and at some time of the night this guy walked straight up to me and plucked me out of the crowd and ... you guessed it, he was tall, thin, blond and about 25

I wasn't looking for him - he found me

 

I like older men and about the same age girls.