Age difference

Hey, I'm just wondering what all of you consider to be a too large a age difference between two sexually involved people. I've been chatting to a lovely guy for a few weeks now and he is probably about 35 years older than me. Do you think that talking sexually to someone so much older is wrong? I must admit that I not care what people say, but am just curious as I really enjoy talking to this man.

 

and how old are you?
S

 

Whatever works for you. I personally would never do something like that with someone that much older than me, because it just seems weird, but if you have no reservations, then whatever. Who am I to tell you that you're doing something wrong if you don't feel that way?

 

in my experience, when there is that big of an age gap, usually the older person winds up dominating and controling the younger "for their own good" since they percieve themselves to be older and wiser.

 

Age gaps are great!!! :drool:

 

I see what you mean. I do not think that this person is like that however. My age isnt important. Thank you for your responses by the way. Even though this guy is so much older than I, we still love just chatting over email to each other. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. It's actually very nice having someone older to talk to as sometimes there are things you cant really talk to your peers about.

Anyway - thank you again for your responses I would like to hear some more opinions too though.

 

Only you can really decide, what and who is right for you.

Indeed, 35 years in terms of an age gap is a lot. But it really does not have to mean anything.

Just like with any other human relationships, many things can go right and equally so, many things can also go terribly wrong.

A guy, who has got a lifetime of experience to share; a dude who has been more than just a couple of times around the block; someone, who is fully integrated and secure can be a source of inspiration for you.

Equally so, you ought to know that every relationship always boils down to a trade off of some kind. That comes with the territory. So, beware of all the aspects of the deal before you get into any deeper waters.

KD

 

Thanks for that. Ideally, I would prefer a smaller age gap, but this person and I are just friends. He also happens to live half way around the world so I doubt anything will ever come of it =[

 

If you're cool with it, who are we to tell you otherwise?

Though I'd keep my guard up if I were you.

 

Well, what can happen if he supposedly lives so far away..I mean he could come to my house and hump me but that wouldn't be unwanted Do not worry, I am aware of the dangers of talking to people who you meet on the net and such, but I know he is not a pedophile or anything. Thank you!

 

Don't meet a guy through the internet. Wait for a real relationship.

 

Oh right...

carry on.

 

What do you mean by that?

Oh and mushie - why can I not talk to someone in the mean time if I currently am not in a relationship? I think that I will be able to tell if this person starts trying to pull some freaky shit on me.

Could someone be a bit more specific as to why I should/shouldnt do this? What can happen?

 

i need to know an age then i can think about the age gap in question, i can't make a blanket statement about this, 5 years is not the same as 10 and 10 isn't the same as 20
S

 

oh and an age gap when the youngest is 30 is very different to the youngest being 16
S

 

Okay..I am only 16 years old. He is 51. It is a MAJOR age gap. I know that most likely, nothing will come of it, but it is nice to have someone to look forward to hearing from. From the way this person writes, I am quite sure he isnt a pedophile. Once I told him my age, he immediately said that we shouldn't talk for fear of getting in trouble, but I asked if we could just talk as friends and that is what we are doing. We are just friends, though sometimes, one of us will slip in the little...I dont know, "naughty" comment.

 

well there nearly 15 with my relationship i met him when i was 18, let me think about it and i'll get back to you
S

 

What? I really cannot comprehend what you just wrote there. I'm kinda expecting some kind of long lecture now.

Oh and by the way, why does it keep giving me a message saying: YOU HAVE BEEN BANNED FROM THE HIPFORUMS every couple of times I try to open up a topic??? Its VERY annoying!

 

i would personally be creeped out by any 51 year old lusting after a 16 year old. mind you i also cant fathom dating someone older than my parents, sooo more than 20 year age gap is waaaaay too much for me. mind you even 16 and 36 is a big gap. 16 is so young still (hell im young still and im 21)

 

well i was actually just going to have my dinner and talk about my own experinces, but if your going to be so defensive I don't think i'll bother and as far as the banning message is concerned that has nothing to do with this subject
S