Hello First of all I am sorry I am not meant to do this here/at all. I can take it most people in this forum here are gay/bi or w/e so I have a question or two for you (I have been wondering this for a good while). You are here because you are gay/bi/lesbian but how do you know you are gay/bi/lesbian? Was it something some man/woman/group of people done to you or did you always know it or was it something different? (Again I am sorry if I am not meant to ask this here/at all.)
When its anything to do with sex, love, marriage,parenting; everyone you have ever met your entire life is either keeping the truth from you or lying. Whether it be for your protection, their protection or they think you wont understand or they are worried about what everyone else thinks
How do I know? Simply, I am both attracted to the same sex partners, and I have developed the pattern of homosexual behavior, ie. as in having sex with the same sex partners. That's what defines me as 'homosexual' as opposed to being 'bi' of 'heterosexual'. Nope. No one did anything to me to turn me homosexual. I was always attracted to other members of the same sex. And I always really wanted to have sex with them... KD
i've known all my life. this question is really pointless --- do you go around asking heterosexuals how they knew they liked women? gays know they like guys the same way heterosexual men know they like women. no, nobody ever 'did' anything to me. i had a great childhood.
Which means stuff was done to you, I dont mean anyone touched you in your swimsuit area. But if you were a happy child with a timid temperament then you would have been a lot safer to the girls than other little slightly more agro boys, which means they would have clamped themselves more often to you as the spare dad / spare babysitter. So relative to every other guy you had a lot more girls in and around you and thus the familiarity breeds contempt rule kicks in. You never really got the difference between you and other guys cos you never saw life early on through their eyes. Just cos in adult life its about sex, doesnt mean early on it has to have anything to do with sex. You can see it in your adult life now, there is no such thing as a gay guy that has trouble getting attention from girls, unless he himself wants to avoid that attention. So talking about "choice" in one way its kind of cool, its little 4 year old girls that choose some of the guys that are going to be gay (Some not all)
actually i grew up around boys. there was only one girl in our group and she was someone's sister so she was inevitably part of our hangings at times. it wasn't until 7th grade that i had the next female friend until then i only hung around with boys. And I was more of a troublemaker as a kid. my mom has horror stories about me growing up. so no timid temperament, no girls. and i don't think it would be correct to say that playing with girls as kids would spell homosexuality to some boys. the environment functions only to accelerate or delay the realization of one's sexuality. it doesn't create it.
This is 100% true. Envoironment has nothing, or very little to do with what sexuality you are. But it can have a big bearing on whether you have problems accepting or disclosing your sexuality later on if you are homosexual.
I believe I act less 'gay', due to being brought up in an environment where by I had less choice to act possibly more feminine had I the chance. Environmentally, I should be strait, but I am as gay as they come. I agree it gave me issues, and still does, about coming out. I still haven't to my father, at my mothers request. And for the record, I know I am gay because I don't fancy girls. And no, I haven't had anyone 'do' anything to me, i'm not catholic.
