The other night I was at my local GLBT dance club. It has an alcove that is generally populated with lesbians just off the dance floor. I was standing near there when a couple of fine looking guys came by & briefly talked to me. One then said, "Well, we gotta go, we are looking for a couple of lesbians." At first I thought that they were talking about that they knew a couple of lesbians & were looking for them but as I got to thinking about it I think that they were trying to pick up a couple of lesbians. It kind of creeped me out in a way. Kind of as if they were just after some kind of voyeuristic thing & the women (if they got lucky enough to obtain any) were going to be side show objects or something. That aside, I am wondering if any of you have run into this? I also wonder why the heck would these guys think they could succeed in their hunt? Maybe I am missing something but they didn't say. "We are looking for a couple of bi ladies" That would make much more sense to me.
I hate to have to admit this, but I think the number one male fantasy is lesbians. I myself am the same - but if you think about it, it's obvious why, two beautiful women making love - that's just pure sexy. As for the guys you was talking with, I think you'll find they are just big headed idiots who think they could convert lesbians, and probally get off on the idea of doing so, but as you say, in reality it'll never happen. I'd not worry about it too much if I was you.
its annoying as hell to face guys who think lebian and bi chicks are just a plaything or sexual amusement for them.
I run into these sorts of guys all the time. I'm bisexual, so I get approached quite a bit by males looking for a peep show or to have a threesome with two women. I find it degrading and disgusting that they would think I'd let them watch me make love to my partner, and it proves to me that to many (not ALL) men think that lesbians and bi women are all about sex with other women, and don't consider that we actually have feelings for the same sex, too. I'm not usually uptight about my sexuality because I believe in (responsible) free love, but I've been approached by men since I was 15 about this very thing and I've grown really tired of it!
yeah, well said. it makes me sick. in response to the original post, i havent personally encountered anything like that (yet), no. but im sick of straight men sexualising lesbians. and its not just a feminist 'i dont wanna be a sex object' thing, its bloody common courtesy, its political correctness, its being able to respect my own relationships because i know that others do too. and i find it hard when lesbian relationships are degraded into sexual fantasies.
Don't worry, I went out with my friend and her girlfriend the other night, and at one point they had an audience of 7 guys on the dancefloor, just staring in wild glee at them kissing. It was really pissing all of us off, some guys felt they had a right to touch them, take videos with their phones, and say stuff like "go on, do it again!!"....knobheads.
str8 men think lesbians r cool as long as they can get some kind of fanasty enjoyment out of it. but when they realize i really m a les and dont want to sex in front of them or that les means not bi ie no sex with men for me, they r very very mean and hostile. men i have found really dont have a pos view of lesbians. they have a pos view of women that will have sex with them, if that women will have sex with anouther woman too fine that is good. this is kinda a side issue that has happened to me in this kinda of situation that i think may of been going on with the guys u were talking to, but i have had for some reason, really like sterotypical (u know very femme acting, all the gay guy traits that people assoicate with being a f_g) gay men hit on me! i know it sounds werid, but i have gone to gblt bars or wherever and had gay men that were very much flamers hit on me. i think oh cool a new gay guy freind, and then like down the road there always seems to come up a situation were someting sexual might happen. it does not happen cause i am totally a lesbian, but like the potential was there. like i had a freind of mine that fit the above description, i was spendign the night at his house, and i slept n the same bed as him cause like u know i m a les, and he was gay and had a bf so like i did not think it was a big deal, maybe i dense i dont know, ok and like anyway i wake up at like 4am and he is rubbing under my shirt and trying to hump me! i was like what the hell r u doing? he was like oh sorry, i did not mean to. now i know he sleeps with men and has a bf, and he is not the kind of man i would think of as remotely like women n a sexual way. but it happend. i had anouther friend once again very much openly gay and had a bf, i met him and his man at a coffee shop, and i hung out with them alot. one day i was at the one guys house and we were going to go to the beach and we were changeing clothes in front of each other (wich once again i dont find odd we r both homos) and he kinda started trying to make some moves. nothing happend and later on i talked to his man about the incident, and he informed me that they sometimes like to share a lesbian or two. so they like to ither together or as a couple go out and meet lesbians. after those to incidents and few more simular things i m not surpised by what u said those guys were doing. it is funny cuase these guys were not really the bi type, they were n2 men but they were so femme that they sometimes like very femme women(i me a very very femme woman). odd i know, i dont understand the who mentailty behind it but what i can say? i know i have met very butch women that like to hook up with men so i gues it is not really that uncommon in the gblt community. i dont know. Joy Joy
