It kinda goes like this, I am 22 yrs old and have had many female friends and no girlfriends. I have had quite a bit of them that have captured my attention and some my heart. I took a chance each time and told them how i felt. Each time the way i was rejected got more and more harsh. For example the first one just ignored me, and by the last one she had someone threaten me just cause the guy she liked rejected her the same day i told her i liked her, which i found out weeks after the fact. Now having said that i am currently courting a very good friend of mine who has become available. I've known her for over two years now and we go out all the time with other people. I even know her ex very well. She confides in me a lot and so do I. We seem to be able to cheer each other up and have been slowly become a little more affectionate or to be more percise she is accepting touch a bit more openly. A few of the previous girls had this same signal and it never went well but on the other hand i didn't even know them or more than 3months. Do you think that this is just in my head and me just being needy?
On a guess you are falling head over heels while they are still in the infatuation stage. Slow down, and don't drop the "L" bomb until she does, or divulge too many feelings until she has. Too much emotion can be a huge buzzkill in a relationship during the early stages. Take it slow, and let things happen.
with most chicks (not all but most) if you don tmake it known within the first, oh, two weeks that youre interested in them romantically, youre going to get shoved into the friends box and never come out now the girl in question either thinks of you as her best friend, or she has a crush on you. its hard to tell. id try and find some subtle way of bringing it up, or even straight up ask her what she thinks of you two together, if yall are friends or potential for something more. dont push it too hard, dont want to damage the actual friendship, but inquire..
