A Little Help Please

So there's this chick that's been really diggin me since the minute she laid eyes on me, i could tell from the moment she met me she had a crush on me. We've gotten to know eachother and we're friends now.

She still wants me to ask her out and she's been sending the strongest signals lately saying things like she can't wait forever for me to ask her and that i have to take initiative and all that crap

the problem is, i don't want to date her. i'm not attracted to her physically at all, she's kind of annoying for multiple reasons, and i just don't feel the same way about her.

how am i supposed to tell her to back off without being a dick or hurting our friendship?

also, there is another chick (there's so many of them) that i'm trying to get with (not even realy having to try cause i know she's trying to get with me, too) so should i just not say anything to the other girl and once i start dating this girl she will get the picture?

 

Tell her the truth. Let her know you wanna be friends, but tell her you're already interested in someone else. I think it would really hurt her feelings if you don't say anything to her and just started dating someone else. Good luck!

 

ok, that's going to be tough but i'll do it. thanks sara

 

Gotta just tell her the truth.. .she'll think you're an asshole for a week or so.. then she'll be over it

 

Plus, if she's annoying and shit anyways it'll be good riddance! Haha
Nah I'm jk.. but for real, it'll be a lot easier than telling this to someone who you like alot more.

 

well, she's annoying but i've gotten used to her and i would hate to never talk to her again. also, i'm going to be living in a house next semester with 5 other people, one of them being her. lol :x

 

Haha.. That might be kinda awkward when you bring the other girl home haha

 

haha yeah it would be
but then i'd just make a lot noise in the bedroom to make it funny... to me

 

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Welcome to the nice guys club greg ha ha. One of my greatest fears is hurting someones feelings even if It's someone I despise. But some times It's not avoidable and you have to go about it in the least hurtful way possible. And I feel Sara is on the right track.

 

the thing is, she works at the radio station so i have to see her and work with her all the time, also, i'm going to be living with her. i just don't want there to be a mess.

if she was some girl that i could just blow off and never have to talk to again then i'd be fine with being like "bitch, fuck off" but i really can't in this situation lol

 

I'm sure if you'll talk to her she'll understand.

 

that's exactly what i'm going to do, when i find the right moment

 

Listen to sara. You'd have to be borderline crazy to get angry over someone not feeling an attraction for them. Or just ridiculously conceited.

 

what i would do is just go for the chick you want and the other one will get the picture. why? because this other chick you don't want is just your friend.. you don't have an obligation to initiate a clear response of wanting or not wanting to date. unless of course you've been "leading her on," and by that i mean giving her strong signals that you reciprocate her desires. if you aren't doing that, why does there need to be a discussion?

friends don't have to make decisions like the one she's trying to lock you into..

i say just get w/the other chick and this one will figure it out soon enough.

 

i only think that she might get mad because she's been crushing on me pretty hard and it's been going on a for quite a while. the thing is though, almost all of the guys at the station thought that she had a crush on them because she's just very friendly and all that crap.

because of this, i thought it was all just in my head... but it's not. i have to be the one guy that she does actually want. being this good looking is a curse

 

haha well i thought about that, too. see i haven't purposely been sending her signals but there have been times that i found myself doing something that seemed very... leading ig. so i'm not sure if she's got it in her head that i like her that way

i'm just going to talk to her

 

Ha ha I wish I had that curse.

 

Did you tell her that you liked her back? Cause if you did then it might be a bit more difficult to tell her straight up you like someone else. She said she can't wait forever and stuff for you to ask her out.. so maybe you can just tell her the reason is because you've been crushing on someone else for awhile and just got a bit more serious recently.

 

ya.. she probably interpreted those things within her vision of wanting you to want her and turned them into you liking her.. not entirely your fault.. maybe it is best to talk with her, but i'd suggest being straight up and not delicate with her. if you're too nice she may just come back for you after you're done w/this one. haha so i mean tell her you are just not interested in her. she would probably want the truth anyway. oh and throw in all that stuff about how she's an awesome friend and whatnot so you can still be around her. haha