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Iv been smoking for about a year now and iv been with my boyfriend for about 2 months. Hes decided that if i dont stop doing drugs then hes gonna break up with me. one side of me says that i love him and hes worth changing for and the other part of me doesnt want to change and wants to keep on tokin. i dont know what to do. i told him i would quit and all my friends are like just tell him you stoped and do it behind his back..but i think i would feel bad lieing to him like that...what do i do?

 

first of all, your 14, so you may think you love him, but your not even old enough to know what 'real love' is. (IMO) of course. But you should just tell him that weed really isnt that bad of a 'drug' and that it is also cultivated for medicinal use, and people wouldn't do it if it didn't help them in some way. I can tell he's not very open minded, eh?

 

teenage love might not be real but its prolly the most emotionally effecting nonetheless. I would say you need to discuss thigns with him more. How far might this conservative oppinion of his stretch? maybe you can jsut make a deal of not smoking while hes around or being stoned when you see him.

 

We have talked about it alot and he is giving me all this bullshit that if i keep smoking im going to die sooner and that he wants to have as many days with me as possible and that drugs arnt his thing and if i cant stop(which i can just dont want to) he doesnt think we can be together anymore. i smoked yesterday and didnt tell him and i dont feel bad at all. hes all worried cause hes dumb ass brother told him that if i smoke at my age that its gonna fry my brain and hes gonna have to take care of me when im 30. wtf? oh and im 15 now this thing still says 14..

 

has he got high before?

but i dont like people who think like that at all

 

No he hasnt. hes grown up around it tho. his dad his sister his bro and his bro in law do and he is always complaining about how gross it smells. i personaly love the smell of it.mmm. hes never even seen me high and i dont smoke when im around him but he insistes hes not trying to run my life he just wants to stear me in the right direction. i told him i was born and i will die and everything in between is mine and he got pissed and didnt talk to me for like a day..

 

ill talk to you all tommarrow i gotta go babysit

 

im supposing youve tried hard to get him to try smoking? get him high dammit!

 

I have a friend whos boyfriend pulled this on her for smoking cigarettes. You need to ask yourself, do you really want to be with somebody who refuses to respect your decisions about your own body? You are your own person, of course, and respecting him enough to not smoke around him should be quite enough for somebody who respects your autonomy. I think that the issue is deeper than marijuana. Maybe you should talk to him about it, and if he still isn't receptive, then I suppose you'll have to choose. If you just go smoking behind his back, he'll find out.

 

yeh but cigarettes are different. people who smoke cigarettes often smell like cigarettes, caus they smoke them much more, and the smell of tobacco is stronger and often more offensive, of course thats subjective. But of course if the person doesnt smoke aorund you then they shudnt smell much aorund you either

 

tell him he's a pansy ass bitch.

then just do it when he's not there so he thinks you quit. what he dosnt know dosnt hurt him...

 

Cook him a brownie with hashish in it so its shiny with resin then soak it in mushroom tea MUHAHAHAHAHHA!! (cough, splutter)

 

Hey Guys im back. lol peace of pizza thats a great idea but if he knew it was druged he would get so pissed at me. we dont live near eachother see i live in alaska and he lives in jeresy. we see eachother maybe twice a year so anything i do here and dont tell him he prolly wont find out unless one of my friends tells him which i doubt. i dont smoke cigs but i use to and all im doing now is weed. i really dont see the big problem in it so i am guessing ill just keep doing it untill he moves up here in a few years.

 

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lol if u live in alaska haha u live farther away from jesey then i do and i live in a different country so wat are u worried about smoke all you want if u see him twice a year dont u ever wonder if he does stuff that you dont know about? im betting he does so who cares if he doesnt like weed its not like he would know if u smoked like tons even.
how the hell do u manage to see eachother twice a year plane tickets are pricey

 

If you buy the plane tickets during the winter they are only about 250 or less..hes moving up here when im 17..he will be i think 20..or 21..i think i will just smoke and when he comes up i just wont anymore

 

thsi relationship seems really wierd.. hes 4 yrs older than you, he doesnt have any friends or at least mutual friends, you onyl see him a few times a year...

 

yeah it kinda is. but its working out ok...he has friends who smoke but everyonce in a while he drinks but hes never smoked

 

:$ i wish he would just get off my back about it. i dont want it ruining our relationship but its not his choice its mine

 

No offense, but he sounds like kind of a drag. Though realize, I know nothing about you or him. I think if you want to continue to smoke then by all means, smoke. He may have your best interests in mind but if you want to keep seeing him, them help him realize that smoking is something you want to keep doing and it makes you happy, and that should be good enough for him.