Well this is my first post here. It's 4 AM and I'm again depressed about the fact that I'm a 24yr old guy and a virgin, and 25 is closing fast. I still live with my parents, as they are my friends, and I can't afford a big enough place to house my theater room . I'm posting here for lack of anyone to talk to in real life, and these are forums no one I know would ever read. First a bit about me. Total movie buff(due largely to lack of friends), into all kinds of music except rap and country, and I'm learning to play electric guitar. The comedian George Carlin sums up all my political and social beliefs, been listening to him since age 9! So anyway, technically I've only ever been on one date(and that didn't even end with a kiss). Thinking of reasons why... My parents had jobs that moved us around, so in school I was litterally the new kid every year, except 2 years in a row in the 5th and 6th grade. So I don't even have friends, let alone girl friends. Everywhere I work, attractive women are with someone or ignore me outright. I'm overweight, not grossy so, just enough to be insecure about it. I've never dressed up as a Vulcan, or Klingon, even for Halloween. Once visiting a Cousin, who lives 800 miles away, had a very promising prospect with a hot girl, but I was leaving the next day. The one date I was on(early last year), she knew I was moving out of state in a month, so no future there, and I'm obviously not one night stand material. I've tried most of the dating sites, with various guises and the truth about me occasionally, only spammers respond to those profiles. So I get junk email now... I keep hoping to run into that magical skank who'll make things easy. Talking to women in a casual setting only gets harder, as I get more and more angry at the opposite sex as a whole. Outside of small talk I have no idea and nothing to say to women, and they never want to know anything about me. It's downright insulting seeing beautiful women going with guys who treat them like garbage behind their backs, and sometimes to their face. Anymore I have the attitude that they get what they deserve. My best hope is when I'm in my 30's I'll meet a same aged woman who's had a couple of deadbeat husbands and might recognize that I'm a nice guy, if I still am one by then. So basically I have alot of junk email and an over developed right arm. I've done a lot of research on escorts. Paying for it seems the only viable solution left. I tried once, but when I met with her, her photo must have been horribly out of date. Getting out of that was incredibly awkward. Still not ready for suicide. So any advice or words of hope? Or females in New Mexico willing to take mercy?
I meet most of my friends at school/work/gatherings not the internet don't fucking kill yourself, LOL you are complete.
Protosam - here are some suggestions: 1. Join a gym, and try to lose some weight through exercising, and you might meet a hot babe you can press your sweaty body against, or shower with afterwards. 2. Join a social club, for people who love movies, etc., at a nearby university. If you meet women with common interests, you will have something to talk about, and a romance may blossom. They may be seeking a guy just like you... 3. Living at home with your parents is not a great place to take a woman to after a date if you want to have sex. Think about getting your own place, or sharing a place with another guy. He may like to have your home theatre in the place. 4. If all else fails, get some sexual experience, so that you have confidence in your sexual abilities with the opposite sex. You can do this with a prostitute (be sure to use protection), or hire a sex surrogate to help you become proficient in sex. Sex surrogates will talk with you about sexual matters, and become intimate with you to the extent you want to. They will teach you how to be good at it, and to become comfortable with women.
Dude, don't sweat. I'm actually alot like you. I'm an outrageous anime/videogame/movie nerd, and I've even got a little extra meat on my bones, but I found a wonderful girl about two years ago. Believe it or not, she's model material. All I can say is find a girl with similar interests, or else there's just no way you'll be happy. working out here and there wouldn't hurt either.
you sound a lot like a friend of mine, we lost touch after highschool but i heard from his mom that he was going to school for filmography and i was proud of him because i know that his love of movies is his life, his house (parents' house) is filled with bookshelves upon bookshelves of movies... but he recently got facebook and i was proud of him in another way, because i realized how many friends he'd made because he was doing something he loved, i saw wall posts from girls who seemed to be really good friends with him, i forgot to check his relationship status, but myu point is, he has so many new friends because of it. looks like you should check it out, it could be just what you need Peace! LoveDaisy<3
Facebook doesn't work for finding friends of the opposite sex anymore. It did a couple years ago, but since the creators allowed anyone to join (as opposed to only college students) and added the news feeds and such, the prevailing view is now that facebook is "creepy," as is any person you don't already know who tries to add you as a friend.
give me your email address and i find you a skank in your area lol..cmon i own a porn business =/ if any one on this matter you can trust me
A suggestion: consider taking up a hobby that gets you outside and moving around, even if it's as simple as going for short hikes to sightsee. Don't worry about doing this alone and gradually increase this newfound activity. And, if you're not already, watch what you eat and drink. In other words, eat healthy. If you do this at least 3x/wk consistently, after a 6-8 wks, you'll notice subtle but important changes. You'll look and feel healthier, and when that happens, you'll automatically feel more confident. No, you won't be getting the J-Lo's of the world knocking at your door right away but the confidence you gain will show and benefit you in all aspects of your life. Good luck to you.
i didn't mean try facebook that's just how i know he has met people there because that's half of his friends on facebook. i meant try getting involved in something you like because you will find like minded individuals. i'm in a relationship but still, i am looking foreward to going to art school to meet people and make new friends that are more like me. peace<3
this is completely normal. dude i seriously hope your not consciously worried about this. 24 yr old virgin aint shit, your lifes prob fuckin busy as it is bro.
I'm 25 (female) and a virgin. I don't think it's a big deal. I thought I would wait until I fell in love, and it took me a while to find a suitable person. I suppose, lol. I'm not in love with him yet, but the potential is there. I'm not worried about it, at any rate. I met him, randomly, online. So, you never know. I wouldn't stress over it. It will happen eventually.
