xxxwell if this color thing does nto work sorry.... anyway...I have tried all the traditional ways to get my bf intrested in having sex, but he jsut isn't but I know he masturbaits all the time. I don't know what to do. I feel myself losing intrest in him sexualy for the most part because he just wont have sex. What the hell I tried to sugest he get taht enzyte but he made some big comment about how he is not going to take soe untested drug to get a hard on when that is not the problem, and that is not the problem he can get a hard on he just doesn't want to have sex at all with me or anyone. I mean I'm not that into sex either but sometimes we go for more then a month. I love him very much but I am about to give up on him sexually. Any advice would be helpful.
I'm sorry. I really can't help... My last boyfriend (not my current boyfriend) became asexual after a while too... I had to break up with him. At 32 I felt that I was too young to live in a sexless relationship. We were great friends and continued to live together for another year after our breakup. And more than a year after I moved, we still talk at least once a month. But, yah, it just wasn't going to work and I didn't want to cheat on him, but I saw that it was going to happen...
There are several reasons people can lose interest in sex... and the hardest part is to not take it personally, unless of course it's meant personal... Anything from stress,(a big factor), medications, problems within the relationship, boredom in the bedroom... The way to fix the problem is to find the problem, address it and find the solution....remembering that the not wanting sex is just a symptom of another problem.... Lynn
I have gone almost a year in the past and not felt the need for sex at all and had very little interest in it for a long time. Can you ask him why he feels this way? It might not be you it may just be a hormonal or med thing.
This is quite common for long-term relationships and the reason why people get counselling and go away for dirty weekends. Guys in particular have a thing for 'something new' and so it's important to go out of your way to spice things up. I suggest you get counselling, or at least speak to a counsellor to ensure it's not something about the relationship itself - often sexual problems are really just symptoms of deeper problems with the relationship...
