Accepting money

People are very different when it comes to viewing money.

Some people take handouts easily and ask for money from their parents/ employers often.

Others don't like to take charity at all. Think of some of the homeless people you have seen. Some beg and beg, and others won't take money if you hand it to them.

How do you guys view taking money? Is it easy for you? Do you think there is nothing worng with asking for help here and there?

Or do you feel guilty accepting money you didn't do anything for?

Give me your thoughts.

 

I at least give a courtesy "no thank you", but if they offer again, then i accept.

 

if it is offerd and i turn it down and it is offerd again I see nothing wrong with taking it. they r just gonna keep asking till you give in anyways. i hate asking for money but if it comes down to my kids needing food or something i wold not hesitate to ask if i knew i could not make enough cash to buy them food ....
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i used to say no and not take it. now i say no as im taking it.

 

It depends on how bad i need the money.... When my car broke and I was offered money... I refused it... I dont Need to drive my car anywhere.. I can catch a ride until i can pay for it and get it back.... But when my wisdom teeth had become impacted and infected to the point i couldnt sleep from the pain... I had to ask my dad for a loan to pay for it... They needed to come out and I had no money to pay for it... So if i really need the money I have no problem accepting it... but if i can wait it out I wont take it

 

I typically feel bad when people offer me money but sometimes you get in a rough spot and you almost can't help it. The fact that there are still people out there nice enough to offer you some assistance just b/c w/no strings attached is amazing. I don't ask for help unless I truely need it. But in a heartbeat I would help someone who needed it, if I was able to.

 

I feel awful because my dad offered me some money. I said I could always use some and he said "how much?".

I couldn't answer. I felt sick to my stomach. It's not as if he doesn't owe me. Nothing for Christmas or my birthday and he didn't call for months. Now he's doing great, better financially then he ever was when our family was together and I shouldn't feel bad, but I do. I said never mind and I didn't need any. I can't accept it. Erik said I should have and there's nothign wrong with it, especially if HE's the one who's offering, but I've never taken any handouts in my life.

I just wanted to know how other people felt. I know a couple who live like kings and queens, spending thousands a week on money given to them by thier rich parents. I know another kid who gets a kick out of begging on the street for money when he doesn't need it.

 

always

 

I don't like the fact that right now I'm so dependant on my parents and their money. I lived on my own for about two years before coming to uni in UK. I worked and paid everything myself. Now... my tuition fees and the rent are so high that I could never manage if my parents weren't paying for it all. I'm so grateful that they're so willing to pay for it and help me, but I also hate it coz it feels like I'm just taking advantage of them. Ohh well.. I know they're happy to pay for uni, so I suppose I shouldn't feel too guilty about it.

 

I believe that a parent has a certain obligation to help out their kids, at least till the kid abuses it.

 

I wouldn't take it from your dad simply because it sounds like he's trying to buy you instead of having been there for you and by taking it your essentially saying that his behavior's okay as long as he gives you money. I have a hard time accepting money my grandparents offered to pay my car off for me last month and I told them no, I owe about 13k on it and I couldn't let them do it but whenever they write me a check I usually have no problem taking it because they write it when I get good grades or do something well at work but if they just write me one out of the blue I don't take it or I don't cash it if they make me take it. I have thousands of dollars in uncashed checks from my grandma back east I know the money came from my dad so I don't cash them.

 

well, my dad really can't be here for me. What else is he supposed to do? He works in Denver, I live in NY. He calls a lot now just to talk to me.

I just want to clear up that my father is NOT trying to buy me.

I just can't accept the money from him because I feel so guilty. I didn't earn it. He says doing what I've done is enough to earn millions of dollars, but I don't know what to say after that. It's hard. Erik's parents won't help us out at all, even if we were starving, so any offer made to him, he jumps on. He thinks I'm stupid and too prideful.

It hurt my feelings when he said that. He pointed out our friends and how they live, and I just figured I would get a general opinion about taking charity money.

 

Your boyfriend wants you to accept money from your parents? That strikes me as odd wouldn't he be insulted and see it as a direct reflection on his ability to take care of you? I would do what feels right for you. if you want to take it take it and if you don't then don't you and your bf both work so it's not really his decision.
and sorry I have personal issues when I posted about your dad trying to buy you that i let get in the way of my response...sorry

 

I have always had to work for the money I get. I dont like taking handouts at all. I like knowing that I am self-sufficent and dont need anyone else to help me out!

 

Erik says we could use the money to get the car on the road because in a few weeks, we'll be down to pennies over the damn car. And that's why my dad offered in the first place, to help get it on the road with out making us broke.

Also, Erik's ego about taking care of me is shot seeing as since August he hasn't had a job and just collected umemployment and now that that ran up, the only reason he has a job is because I employed him where I work.

 

Honestly I wouldn't take it from your dad. I were if I were you single or if you take it I would put it in a seperate account and not tell your bf. That sounds awful but if I were in your situationt hat's what i would do.

 

but then again i can't even write a legible sentence so...maybe you don't want to consider my advice lol

 

hee hee.

that's ok I get what you mean.

I don't agree, but I get what you're saying.

 

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Money 1 broke 0 lol

 

My car has been messed up for a while and I think if someone offered to pay to fix I wouldnt refuse, I would try to pay em back later or do something else for em!