I ususally post in random thoughts. This is the first time i have posted in here. I need help! I am having issues with myself and my wife. I want to swing I want to go out and have fun, but she isn't into it. I feel like I'm dieing inside. Everyday I go to work go home or go to school and then home. We have an 11 yr old so its not easy for me to talk to her about this or leave. I love her and want to be with her, but I want to enjoy myself. our sex has become mundane, boring. WE have been married for 12 almost 13 years help me someone.
well, I don't know what you've tried, but you could send your child to a friend's for hte weekend and add porn, go to a strip club, or try roleplay. Sometimes swinging is not the answer and can cause more problems. Try and introduce smaller steps first. Maybe you need to look at how you treat her. Make her feel sexy, without wanting (or expecting) sex. Make her feel pretty and attractive everyday regardless of whether you get any. I feel kinda odd 'cause I'm so young giving you advice, but I think I made some good points let me know if this has been tried already and still no results.
or maybe it's her. How often do you have sex? For how long and does she seem interested? Does she initiate sex often? Or maybe it IS you. I don't know. If you feel as if you need to have sex with another person to be fulfilled then maybe there is a problem. Or maybe you are just the kind of person that likes sex. Have you felt this way the whole time during your marrige or is this just a recent feeling. Maybe you have an itch because you've been married for so long and feel trapped. I hope that is not the case and you can discover what the underlying problem is. Some people are naturally are polyamorous (I think that's how you say it) and society looks down upon it. that's not fair, but you need to find someone of the same interest because it is not fair to your wife if you have a different life style that she cannot accept. Most people enjoy the love and companionship of one person and others can enjoy more than one without feeling jealous.
I have always felt this way. She cheated on me once, but I was o.k. with it. Now she will not do it with anyone else if i ask her. She feels guilty I guess, it's probably the way she was raised and conditioned by society.
well, I would talk to her more about it and see if she can break away from the "dirty" labels people put on sex. If she can't feel good about it though, I don't know what to tell you. It's not fair to either of you to be with each other when your sex styles are so mismatched. You shouldn't have to feel so trapped and she shouldn't have to feel guilty about herself, or resentful towards you if you decide to seek sex elsewhere. I personally can't imagine being in a poly relationship, but I don't look down on it and I hope you two can work something out. It really sounds as if that's just you and I hope you find a solution that suits everyone. I know divorce may seem terrible, especially with a child in the picture, but it's better not to drag things out if they aren't working. It would be helpful to also start talking to your child about sex and your views so that in the event of something like that, he/she will not hate you forever and think you are dirty or nasty because oyu enjoy sex and don't follow a monogomous lifestyle. Well, I guess that's all the advice I have to give. Sorry i'm not any older or more educated in this sort of situation. Maybe someone else can help better.
Thanks for all of your help! I need ppl to talk to. If anyone else has advise please respond! If anyone has been through a divorce good and bad it would help me out to hear your point of views. If anyone has been in a situation like mine please respond! I really do care for my wife and I worry for her if we split up. She works at target and doesn't bring home much. I haver lots on my mind someone help me!
My boss's parents got a divorce because his dad cheated on his mom and now his dad is married to the mistress and he hates both his dad and new step-mom. If you want to have sex outside your marriage and your wife doesn't approve don't attempt it. Your son may seem young but he knows more than he lets on. And if you love your wife, sex is a horrible reason for divorce but if you are geniuely hurting, I would not advise to stay together just for your child. My parents did and they ended up yelling for years at each other until they divorced three years ago. Good luck and I hope the rest of your life is okay. Peace
Awesome. I help out at the campus tv station alot and write for the campus paper( @ Berry College). I have a Communication major now with a history minor and I am going to add a German minor. Also, I have been talking to this really nice guy George. How has your life been lately? Are you still going to Floyd?
