How to tell Mommy Youre a Communist

Well, I have been struggling with this for a while....I have the most conservative mother anyone could ever meet. She isnt very tolerant. I am very politically open, she will find out eventually as politics are a large portion of my life. But, she doesnt have the empathy to realise that it is my opinion and she cant change it....So instead she gets angry and takes it out on me........But I am torn because well I need to tell her I suppose because I am going to start attending meetings etc and it isnt as if i can hide it.....Any support advice?
Peace

 

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Just tell her...then run, run like the wind...

My parents are like uuber tolerant and on my side with anarchy....so i guess i'm lucky

 

who cares what your political stance is?

 

His mom does...duh

 

if his mum loves him then she wont care...

 

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My friend had to tell her Mom she wasn't Catholic. . .her mom gave her "the talk" as if she was having a sex change or something.

My mom's a liberal, but she has these little ideals, where my sister and I have to be a certian "way" that fits them. You know? Like if I didn't go into an honors college, lived my life as a starving artist or didn't wear a bra she'd flip out. Talking to her is hard, because she's going to blow up over it even though what's being discussed should be no big deal.

But you should tell her. It's gonna be hard, but it would be worse if you go "I'm, um going to visit myyyyyyyyyy. . . boyfriend! right!". Just go "Mom, I've chosen to be a communist, and there's nothing you can do to change me, just like I know there's no way to change your political views. Let's just agree to disagree, ok?"

 

hmmm not sure my parents are both NDP (Socialist) like me. Yah tell her and run. All I can think of. But if she loves you she should let you follow your own path, but conservatives seem to have a problem with freedom of ideals....

 

Well, it really depends on how conservative your mother things -you- are. I mean do you do things already that would be as noncomformist as being communist? I have no idea if you are going to have support from your mother.

If I was a parent and my child's views were so abstract from my own that I thought they were of an outer influence I'd let it pass. I'd let you grow into that phase and see if its even worth staying in it. I mean, we all are curious. Its just a political view, its not like you are starting up some sort of illegal habit.

I don't know man, good luck?

 

My parents found out in 1969 that I was doing dope. Toward the end of 1970, I moved back home, and they had me see a counselor. On the basis of one question ("Who was Wellington?") he decided I was smart (DUH!), whatever that had to do with anything, and recommended a shrink. The shrink couldn't figure out why I wasn't addicted, especially after telling him I had done scag. (Same thing about a year earlier during my draft physical, before I had tried scag: "You say you are not addicted, but you are the type of person who will become addicted," shortly after which a party was thrown in honor of my flunking.)

Around that same time, I had started writing a notebook of my thoughts about why we needed communism, why I thought it could succeed with the right kind of leadership in this country, and why democracy required it. My parents gave it to the shrink, who never returned it to me but asked if he could prescribe me some pills (stelazine and elavil) to "make these things go away." I humored the quack, and eventually he decided that he couldn't do anything "more" for me, so he referred me to a group therapy session.

The group was cool and non-judgmental about dope. Some who did it weren't there for that, but for different reasons. They even got me thinking about forgetting my low ambition to take my dropout status and become a chemical technician and instead finish school locally. After I took their advice and was attending classes during the day and working in a nursing home at night, I began writing again and actually found people (some of the nurses) who saw a lot of sense in what I had written. I have no idea whatever came of those notes, but I've also moved 17 times since then (and will be moving again shortly for the seventh time in 10 years).

I think I had a point in there somewhare.

Maybe you can break it to her more gently by using the word "socialist." Yeah, right!

 

My friend got caught doing x and his parents sent him to drug counseling. The shrink thought he has add and puts him on. . .Adderall. The irony slays me.

 

i realised my views are quite more marxist than regular socialist...cept fot the whole killing people and revolution thing

 

Get a tatto that says in a Arch above
Communism
Then to martine glasses "clicking for a toast"
then in a Marque arching Up saying:
Join the Party


walk around with your shirt off, then she sees it, it works out naturaly, and plus now you have one boss tatto

 

Wear an "I Am An IDIOT" T-Shirt... I think that that should give her an idea.

 

I doubt you should worry. 16 years form now when you have your own wash dry and fold laundry service and you find that you're doing most of the hard work yourself and your employee freinds keep fucking off and dragging ass but keep asking for more of your money, you'll say- "What was I thinking".

 

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How old are you? Do you still live at home?
If you do stil live at home i would give some serious thought to just backing off for a year or so till you get out of the house. If she is really as intollerant as you believe, that could get ugly. Really ruin your home life.
If you are already out of the house or when you get out of the house, just let her know. Calmly, civily, politely. Don't use it as an excuse to throw everything she believes back in her face. Don't wear your hardcore clothes arround her, don't try and convert her or debate politics. Continue acting as you have when you are visiting her and what you do with the rest of your life is your business. Your priority should be retaining a good relationship with your mother.
Unless... You are a spoiled suburban teen with rich parents looking for a way to rebel. Then feel free to have all the shouting matches you want. Don't forget to date a black man. lol

 

I would like to add on another note:

No matter how your mother reacts, her views are dominant in her household. She may accept you or she may not. It all depends really. Don't let some stupid political views destroy your family because this is the absolute bottom line of the corruption of government differences, the breakdown of the family. It won't help to split yourself from the family ties if you get all caught up in this communist thing.

The worst of it could be that you don't like the communist idea and end up having to repair your damage. It all depends man, good luck with the smoothest route. I think you should keep your views to yourself and tell your mother that her own are her rights. Don't let this bs get in the way of any relationships, even a boyfriend. I think that if you quietly practice your morals that things will be alright.

Tell your mother these Communist meetings are for self-exploration and that each human was born with curiosity. Its not always a good thing but it does exist and to be a flexible and understanding parent is the best route. Your mother doesn't have to approve but she can still love you. Just remember, be careful.

 

The mother-daughter relationship is an opportunity to develop one of life's most meaningful emotional bonds.
A bond that can nurture your lives forever.

But,,,
If she doesn't take joy in sharing the most intimate thoughts and feelings of her own daughter, then she's not worthy of the name, mother.

I'm sorry, but if I was you, I wouldn't waste my time sharing a single thought or feeling with such a woman.
She doesn't deserve the truth; she hasn't earned that trust.

Don't toss the pearls of your unique and beautifully individual soul before any creature who wallows in the swill of their own self-interests.
Don't allow this creature, drunk with the delusion that you are on this earth as a mere extension of her own ego, to pollute your emotional life.

A true mother would never allow mere political attachments to wilt the blossoming of their own child's unique sacred-path.
Only a vampire would suck the soul from the innocent.

I feel for your loss. The loss of that special-thing; that thing we get when we have a real mother.