well..iam 18f and i went out with this girl for about a year... the third week that we were going out i got pregnant, no its not hers she stayed with me anyway..i fell in love..she said she loved me too. then she moved in 5 months into the relationship..but i live with my parents so that was stressfull..was going good untill late in the pregnancy..she started cheating on me and crap..we didnt get along because i was so moody,then i had the baby in december and we really didnt get along..i think she wanted all the attention, even though i tried to make time for her, she acted like it had to be on Her time. i didnt know what to do, she just kept drinking on her days off, didnt come home right after work all the time.. then around valentines she started talkin about some girl from work she got along with, even introduced us.. then the girl saw a hickie i gave her and got jealous and mad at her, so i gave her more. then we had a fight because i found out she was with someone she cheated on me with again, and she almost moved out...then one day i wanted to take a shower but needed someone to watch the baby and i asked her but she didnt want to..and she wasnt even doing anything..so i got mad and said I dont care iam only gonna be 5 minutes i havent had a shower in two days watch him...so i got in the shower and when i got out she had all her stuff packed and moved to her cousins place..we decided it would be Just a Break.. and to not see anyone..well after a couple days i wanted to drive her to work to talk a little, but i couldnt find her for days. when i finally saw her she had the biggest blackest hickies i ever saw, all covering the old ones i gave her..they were from that girl she works with..well i drove her to work and kept asking her to talk to me and crap but she wouldnt..and i asked her to get back with me but she said no, and at her work we fought and she laughed at me when i said i LOVED her. well i got so mad that when she looked at the ground and took a drag of her cig i slugged her head. then i just drove off after calling her a stupid used up slut, feeling the worst pain ever. when i got back into town i went to where she stayed and took a knife to everything she owned, clothes and that stupid valentine she got from that girl. i even jumped up and down on her Precious guitar. man i was pissed off to say the least. but anyway we didnt talk for a while..untill i wrote her a letter about how bad i felt..then she called me and told me she was gonna be with me but just that she had to break up with that girl first..so i waited a week and called her and she said she LIED. what a mindfucker. well we talked some on the phone alot almost everyday.. and when she had to go i didnt want her to hang up she would say somethin like I have to my GIRLFRIEND wants me to. like that was supposed to make me feel shitty, and it did. oh yeah, there was a camera watching me when i punched her..she could have pressed charges and shit but she didnt, coulda pressed charges when i "broke in" to the place she stayed at and tore up all her shit,(the door was unlocked), but she didnt. but anyway, we were on talking terms "friends" and she called one morning crying..she said her gf cheated on her with a guy Right in front of her. i knew she was going to hurt her. she kept talkin about killing herself, and i just drove right over to pick her up..she was real drunk i found out. i brought her back to my house and she came in and talked to me but kept saying shes going to leave(die).. but i didnt let her out of my room and she passed out on my bed. she woke up the next day and was pissed still.. i drove her back to her place..i asked if she wanted to talk, told her i loved her blahblah can we get back together, she just got real pissed and said to drop her off right there. then some days later she came over with her bestf(a gay guy) telling me she came over to say bye to me and baby, she was heading out the next day, but she said she was gettin married to that guy! and i was in total shock and all that.. she had a ring on her finger..well that same night my dad started having chest pains and had to go to the hospital, i stayed home and wanted to talk to her for consolence..but she was gone and just her bestf was there..so i asked him if they were gettin married he laughed and said no..what a MINDFUCKER. i told him to tell her what was goin on with my dad, but i havent heard from her since. and now iam thinking about where that ring came from..maybe from that girl..but she left town..she couldnt have broke me any harder. i love her so much. i dont know..Comment please
She's not good for you, you're not good for her. It's just a bad matching - there are a lot of other people out there who will truly appreciate you for you and not mess around with lies and cheating.
Oh, I just want to add too, that I know what it's like to feel madly in love with someone so horrible to/for you. I was engaged to someone else before meeting my husband, and he was a HUGE jerk to me, and very emotionally abusive to me. But I couldn't stand to be without him. Although when he cheated on me, that was the last straw for me. I'd let him walk ALL over me up to that point, but that was the line for me. As it is though, I'm so happy now that it ended before I married him, because now I have the most wonderful husband ever. But before I met hubby, I didn't know what I was going to do with myself after having broken up with the idiot. It's best to move on from a relationship like this as soon as possible though. And I'd reccomend cutting her out completely, because she'd probably be a pretty toxic friend too and would just keep hurting you and driving you crazy. Good luck hon
I think you should write a book about it. Or at least a screen play. And get some famous people to play all of you. Then you can make tons of money off of this story. Then she will be begging you to come back to her because you'll be rich. But you can just say no because you'll be out in hollywood and stuff and you'll meet some other famous girl and you will be with her happily ever after.
since you have a newborn infant to consider here, it would be a great thing to put your attention to this. There is love and affection to provide, stories and games to play, teaching your child about colors, animals, shapes, and all the amazing things that babies so desperately need as they grow. You have a blessing and a friend for life if you are a good mother. You must go within yourself and tune into the deepest highest, most noble part of your true self and focus completely on giving this child the right start in life. LOve love love that baby!!!!!!
I don't think you should have any relationships for a very long time. I don't think you ever did really love her or care because why would you really mess all her stuff up and hit her. Those kinda things make me see a HUGE RED FLAG. I have been in abusive relationships, physical, and I will never speak to them as a friend even ever again. People that abuse don't love themselves in the right way. I believe there are 2 kinds of love, the right kind and the wrong kind. You may say you loved her and even may have felt it, but you are not worthy of the right kind of love if you can't treat someone right. Eventhough I know she did you completely wrong, that does not mean you need to go out and mess up your own karma. I hope you learned from this and her too. For your own sake and that of your child, concentrate on being mom for now and not in a relationship that obviously would drain all the good out of you.Sorry if this seems harsh...
