I'm a really shy girl... even having a guy look at me makes me break out in hives... Ive been in one relationship... and it lasted a while. but I was mainly too shy and it never went beyond kissing (which I'm ok with) I'm very shy with boys I like. and it takes me a long time to get to know them to stop being so shy around them... now once Im friends with them and can open up around them Im my usual outgoing self like I am around all my other friends... and even then... if im alone with a guy I like that im getting to know as just friends at first... im still very shy... Ive been a few situations like this where a boy I have liked and has liked me has tried to kiss me but I just shy away because its too scary for me. Usually the guy will lose interest and we just end up as friends... which friends are great... but im lonely... I guess im just wondering.. if guys are willing to wait to get to know girls that are shy? Do guys like shy girls or do they find it annoying? Is it better for a shy girl to date a shy boy? thanks everyone -Kaytee
Shyness is fine . . . but some shy people, unintentionally, come across as rude. So make sure that even though you're shy, you come across as interested in others, and thoughtful. Good luck.
Thanks for the advice. and loveturtle I hope I dont come off as snotty or bitchy... I love to listen to people i just have trouble telling people about myself... But I try really hard not to come off as snotty and try to be outgoing but its just not me... but my friends are making me go to a party on Thursday night... ive been at school since august and still hav ent gone to one yet... so Im going to try to meet some new people nad have fun... anywya now im rambling so thank you again.
you'll be fine, happy. shyness is ok, but if you dont give your man SOME indication that you like him, he'll lose confidence. Stand close to him, touch his arm, etc. Someone will fall hard for you.
Shy is okay - shy people normally means nicer people who aren't in love with their own voices and who actually notice what happens around them. But shy is also "I'm too busy thinking about how you see me to even try and see you". Shy (as opposed to 'quiet') is about being self-focused. You need to learn that feeling awkward with people is normal - something even outgoing people feel. You have to make yourself accept the awkwardness and keep going. Shy can also be read as 'not interested' - which is probably why these guys back off after a while. SHY IS GOOD - BUT ONLY IN MODERATION
Happy girl -- You seem like a wonderful human being . . . and I like the way you listen to others. Too many people blabber about stuff they really don't know much about, and they never listen and learn. So you seem very wise, too.
lacuna, Thank you for your advice... Ive been working really hard on just letting being akward around people be ok... and I have gotten a lot better since highschool... at least now I WILL go out. In high school I wouldnt... and Im getting better at letting things just be akward or whatever... and Ive noticed that stuff is only as akward as you let it be. And I know I will alwasy be shy or quiet but I suppose at least Im getting better and at least being a little bit more outgoing. so thank you once again. loveturtle- thank you very much! You made me blush! and thank you for calling me wise my Friends always tell met hat they are pretty sure im a 75 year old wise man stuck in a 20 year old girls body. he he And Wideeyed thanks... the guy ive been flirting on and off with all semester I saw thursday and I smiled at him and flirted a little bit just so he would know I was interested an d thank you all again.
I hope you don't take this the wrong way in the least bit, because I really don't mean any harm. But you said that you break out in hives when people look at you. I think that perhaps you might want to see a doctor about this. You could have a form of social anxiety. I'm not one for putting labels on people and giving them a quick fix. But your case sounds more extreme than just being shy. I used to be shy myself. LOL people here would disagree. That is the great thing about the internet and one of the things that helped me to come out of my shell. So use this place as a sounding board, and other places like chat rooms and such too. It might help you to build some confidence so that when you do meet people you won't be so afraid of them. I'm an observer type. It takes me a while to warm up to people, then when I feel comfortable, well then you can't shut me up. Every job I've worked in has said the same thing. I just sit back and watch everyone and listen, taking it all in. Then one day I start talking, and before you know it, I fit in with the crowd and they feel like family. Don't worry though. Like others here have said there isn't anything wrong with being shy. It is a welcome in my life, because everyone I know needs to be the center of attention and we all need some balance. That is why I get along with them so well, because I don't mind letting them have the spotlight at all. Hope it all works out for you. Good Luck!
