Is Your Man Allowed To Just Ask You For a BJ Whenever????

If I ask my girlfriend, she's usually very willing. That said, I wouldn't ALWAYS expect her to say yes or to actually do it. It's up to her (then again, 75% of the time, I don't ask ... I just recieve! lol)

 

Just unzip your pants, give her a wink and say "Who's your daddy?"

Works every time for me

 

Now, that's funny!!!

 

he can ask whenever. whether or not i say yes is an entirely different matter.

 

Of course, he can ask.... sometimes I just offer Sometimes I initiate it... there's nothing wrong with asking for something from your partner in my opinion....

Lynn

 

if i was in a relationship where i wasn't allowed to ask for a bj then there would be some serious problems, i don't agree with your line of reasoning at all. would i get offended if my girl asked me to eat her out? no! i'd be too busy eating her out to get offended. she certianly doesnt have to give me a bj, but if asking for one is breaking the rules then i think there are some serious issues that need to be dealt with. when you're in a relationship where you can't ask for what you want, then you're not with a very understanding partner.

 

he doesnt need to ask

 

If you don't agree with my line of reasoning at all, why did you post a response? I believe that if my man slapped me or we got into an heated argument about him that day and then later on, he asked me to give him a BJ, I would say "NO" because he doesn't deserve it, bottom line!!! Some men, when they are wrong, and don't want to say "I'm sorry" to their lover, try to use sex as an easy way out. And sometimes men, when they are mad at their lover use sex as a weapon. So with that said, if my man ask, it depends if he deserves it or not. If he's not using sex as a weapon or to apologize, then he will deserve a BJ.

 

if your man slapped you, he shouldn't be your man anyway, the bj is entirely beside the point. ;P

 

True, but that was just an example. You would be surprised of the amount of women who stay with their man, even if they are physically abusive! I'm not saying that my man is abusive!

 

my mom was one of those. he ended up leaving her, go figure. anyway, just to carry on the thread, even if you DO have a huge fight, your man is still allowed to ask for a bj, but you're gonna go tell him to fuck a goat. strictly speaking, he can ask any time he wants, but whether or not you will is totally up to you. lol. i feel so silly.

 

I don't think "understanding" has EVER been used to describe me.

You and I, we aspire to different things, my friend

 

depending on the relationship i have with the person... asking can be a turn on or a turn off. if there is suffcient give and take and we're comfortable with each other and our love for one another and i know that he wants to make me happy, and he just so happens to be wanting a bj, he can ask for one... or if we're fucking he can ask me. i don't have to do it... though when i'm having sex and already in a sexual mood i'm much more likely to want to do it, if we're sitting on the couch and he asks for one.. hahaha.... no, go masturbate in the shower. anyway, it is okay to ask, but he will not always get it.... i prefer to ask him if he wants one or to just give him one... (i would never ask if i wasn't willing to give him one though) and i would hope that it would be okay if i asked him to eat me out occassionally as well...

 

lets pretend i start a thread that says 'who hates ice cream?' and you said 'i don't hate ice cream.' i certianly wouldnt question why you posted in my thread.

i agree, though im not sure thats what this thread is about

women float in that boat too sometimes, though i still don't see how any of this is relevent

right, but we're not talking about whether you decide to give him a bj or not, or whether he deserves one or not, we're talking about whether or not your man is allowed to to ask for one. you can say yes or no, i don't care, but if ASKING for one is stepping out of line, then you've got your leash too short.

 

Ok...I tried to avoid this..but its honestly how I feel

I think (percieve, assume, have observed in my lifetime) that us black women are more sensitive about the whole sucking dick thing. For me personally, I know its got something to do with me hearing so many guys use a girl doing that as a reason to call her a ho or disrespect her. This was mainly while I was growing up though. I learned that you have to do it (for lack of a better word) tastefully and with a limited number of guys so now that's how I see it. And I don't think that means that anything is wrong with me or my relationships.

I choose to be choosy

 

I'm with dangermoose. Asking and receiving are two different things.

You would be surprised of the amount of women who need to be abused to feel whole.

 

i tried to explain this to dangermoose (about women in general, not just black women)... that's why i think a healthy relationship is necessary for there to be no offense taken when asked for a bj... because there is so much stigma related to women who suck dick, and who like to suck dick. i've been asked for many bjs by an ex... and it made me feel kinda degraded and i always wondered if he bragged to his friends that his girl would suck his dick whenever he wanted... making me out to be a servant kind of slut... it's a difficult balance (for me at least) to be okay with my bf asking me... and a balance between whther i say yes or no as well.... *sigh*

 

I think it depends a lot on the frequency too. If a guy asks nicely once or twice a month, not so big a deal. If they request it every time you're in bed together, I find it very frustrating. It's one of the few things I want to do at my own pace and be in control of - my last partner liked to push towards me and I nearly gagged a few times, it is one of the most unpleasant sensations I have ever experienced. Especially if you're in a position where you can't really pull your head back properly, and you aren't sure you'll be able to get your breath again.

I don't mind if a guy asks for it every now and then, but chances are I'm going to be doing it anyways, just not necessary that exact moment that they feel the need to demand it. Asking constantly seems whiny and needy to me, and not particularly considerate of what I might want to be doing precisely then, to me at least.

 

I don't have a steady boy friend, and if I did, he wouldn't have to ask. I always give a blow job first, and then get em up again. I find that the fucking lasts a lot longer if I take the edge off first. Otherwise it seems it's a few pumps and he's done.

 

Anytime my guy asks, I give him him a good 'ol sucking as long as I'm in the mood. It never offends me. He can ask anytime. I ask all the time too. I don't think theres anything wrong with asking your partner to give you some pleasure.