For bi men whose wife is still "in the dark".......

This all-too-thorny situation is, again, a perfect example of the old saying, ".....stuck between a rock and a hard place......."

 

I know I've said this before, but, a bi guy who is about to propose to his fiancee, should have, by that time, revealed his true sexuality to his intended.

If she REALLY is "the girl of his dreams",she will, of course, be totally accepting.

BUT, if she is NOT, well, as the old saying goes, ".....there are plenty of other fish in the sea...."

Yes, this certainly could save a LOT of grief, later on.........

 

I have always been bi and have had a number of encounters with both other men and trans girls over the years, although I have mainly been able to keep it in check during my marriages. My present wife has no clue and my ex only found out after our divorce, when she brought a guy home with her after a night out ( I was babysitting) and the three of us had sex together.

I don't want to think what might happen if my present wife ever found out!!

 

...........If you have been this lucky for all these years, hopefully, it's a good sign for sure that you are still "in the clear" for the long term.......play it safe, don't discount discretion and common sense, and just continue to "have fun", reaping the fruits of "the best of both worlds"........

 

Sadly, those days are gone now as I am disabled and housebound.

 

So sorry to hear that, my friend; at the VERY least, you can say you did enjoy "the best of both worlds", in years past.

Stay strong!

 

"Resilience", I believe, is the key word for married bi men, who are trying to juggle their M2M activities with the wife and family duties.....a tight rope act, for sure..........

 

Why the word, "resilience?" "Vigilant" seems to be a better word when walking the tightrope. Perhaps plain old "careful" would work. See, somewhere along the line, I realized that trying to deal with my dual sexual activities and like they were two different things was confusing for me so... I stopped thinking about it being two different things and seeing it as the one thing it really was: I needed to get laid and whoever - and whatever - was available would work. Sure, I had to arrange times and dates when pursuing cock but I think once I stopped messing with my own mind about it, making arrangements was easy because I knew what the daily routines were of everyone in the home and... I still had two women at home who I had better have sex with and one more away from home who was a beast in bed - and that's not counting any 'strange' pussy I might come across like the night my wife and her female date invited me to join them in bed.

Not all bi married men are so fortunate, but the thing not to do is to overthink or overly complicate being able to do their thing in the dark...

 

KD23:

Another insightful response, as usual.

I agree; "vigilant" is indeed the better word, in this scenario.............

 

IMHO.......

A bi married male (especially one that is married) would do well in ALWAYS remaining vigilant, and NEVER letting his guard down.......

 

IMHO, if a married bi male's wife not only KNOWS of his attraction to other men, but is TOTALLY OK with it, said fellow is indeed far more fortunate than he realizes.......

 

Though we have discussed this awhile ago, you still think of those men who, unrealistically, believe that once they are married, with "pussy on call", 24/7, that their yearnings to have sex with other men, will simply abate, and, finallym disappear.

Ain't gonna happen, pal, for too many reasons to count, let's face facts and be realistic about it......

 

......for those who are gullible enough to think that homosexuality/bisexuality can be "cured", this is just as totally misguided in that thinking heterosexuality can be "cured".

Never ceases to amaze me as to how some people think.....and, in turn, what they believe.........

 

NO pun intended, but.....

They often say that there is "....a sucker born every second....."

BTW, buddy, I have a bridge for sale, that I can let you have for a song....."

 

Sadly, even many "mature" adults have no conception of the word "discretion"; believe me, I worked with more than a few, over the years.............

 

On the "flip" side", think of how many bisexual (and straight) married males are indeed "in the dark" as to their wives having affairs outside of the marriage, perhaps (in the case of a bi married male) that the wife feels that she is not "getting enough" from hubby, as it seems he is craving M2M relations more than anything with her...........

 

I used to wank a friends cock after a night out with him and I sucked his cock a few times. He would ejaculate into my mouth. But that was years ago, and I've not seen him for 25 years. Then I married a girl. Sex was, and still is fantastic with her. However, quite recently, I started talking to a male friend of mine in the pub. We always end up talking about cock.
I've now been sucking his cock and having anal sex with him on a regular basis. He does the same to me. It hurt like he'll at first. But it's beautiful now. I swallow his cum every time.

 

It is often said that experience, in itself, is an excellent teacher; good advice, but do so with discretion and common sense.............

 

KD23:

Another excellent response; thanks,once again, for taking the time to share your views, expoeriences, and honest opinions here with us.........

 

KD23:

Thankfully, you've always had a strong sense of "what was what" and "what was not"; when,in your much younger years, you, at least, KNEW that your peers could not "out" you for getting it on with other dudes, as THEY were doing the SAME thing (and obviously enjoying themselves!)

"Safety in numbers".........