It is cheating, plain and simple. Easy to understand how eating/sucking ain't cheating because it's not intercourse and as we've been told it is and has to be. I've known men and women who've said, "Well, uh, okay, as long as y'all ain't fucking, I guess it's okay..." but having the, um, orally cheating partner having to explain why they're not going down on them. I've known men and women who were "caught in the act" and the only reason why they didn't break up or no one got beaten up or killed was because of the cheater saying, "We didn't fuck - we just gave each other head!" And, yeah, I've known men and women who went totally fucking ballistic over the act of infidelity and "we didn't fuck" isn't an excuse for cheating and things did not go well. Harder to explain this away when "Tom" has been discovered to be giving head to "Jerry" who lives next door - but some would say that as long as they're not fucking each other, eh, no harm, no foul, no cheating... but "Tom" and "Jerry" might have some explaining to do to their wives/girlfriends. If "Grace" and "Heather" have been going down on each other (and after a few glasses of wine), it's cheating if they're in a relationship but as we all know, women get pass on this... as long as they're not really lesbians who hate men and their evil penises . Some husbands/boyfriends would lose their fucking minds to know that their woman was doing this but, eh, some guys would give her a pass... as long as she's not fucking some other guy. Now, if you don't want your partner being out there giving and getting head from someone else and in direct violation of your marriage vows, you might want to consider upping your head game with them because if you don't, they just might start doing it with someone else and that might not be all that'll jump off. People cheat when their wants, needs, desires, etc., are being ignored and not taken care of. If you're doing this shit to your partner and they cheat on you, sure, they might be wrong for cheating but if you hadn't dismissed their needs or, worse, act like they're not supposed to have them with anyone other than you, well, you get to share the blame in this. Which isn't the same when a partner does everything they can to tend to their partner's needs and... nothing they can do is good enough and their partner cheats on them anyway. Maybe this is the point where a more open relationship could take place or... you can kiss the relationship goodbye.
I guess it depends on if you are eating / eaten at home......I think denial of sex could be just about as bad as cheating.
Like kdaddy says and adding my bit Kissing beyond how you would with your relatives and children, masturbating someone or mutual, touching. All cheating And I agree with twogigazh
Denial of sex is a damned good reason to cheat. I've had oral sex with men and women because their partners weren't giving them the head they needed; same for good old sex. If your partner isn't providing sex for you, what are you supposed to do? Do without it? Which is what some people do and... some people ain't trying to hear being made celibate so... eating ain't cheating. Or they hope that's how it'll be perceived when things come into the light.
The statement is only an excuse for having sex outside a closed relationship. Oral, anal, a hand job or fingering, any form of manipulation of a body part in order to bring about orgasm is cheating. The partner in the relationship is cheated out of the joy of doing it themselves. Then there's reverse cheating where the partner in the relationship isn't fulfilling or refuses to fulfill their commitment to satisfy the other sexually.
Indeed, it is an excuse and one that some people find... acceptable. I know what our definition of cheating means: It's cheating if you're a guy and you get with some other woman and... you fuck her. Now, in my own mind, before fucking her comes... some oral sex even though there are exceptions to this part... and maybe those who believe that oral sex isn't sex aren't prone to getting upset if their cheating partner says, "We didn't fuck - we just gave each other head!"
If you do not feel able to do it with the full knowledge and consent of your partner, then it's cheating. I don;t care if it's a hug, a kiss, or something more intimate. If your partner wouldn't be happy, then it's cheating. Now, if your partner is abusive or controlling and views ANY interaction with the opposite (or the same) sex as cheating, then the issue isn't definitions, it's your partner ... leave them. If they are not abusive/controlling, then don't do ANYTHING that would make them unhappy.
It's not cheating according to my long time friend. Vaginal penetration is. Sucking, eating, tugging, mutual masturbation is all just taking care of needs. When she's steady with a guy, that's all we do. When she's not with someone, the options open up. That's us.
So many people say that it isn't cheating and from a sociological standpoint, could they be right? Morally wrong but "socially acceptable" as long as no penetration is attempted?
Look at it this way. I got out to lunch with person B. You, person A in my life, love to go to the place I went to lunch with. Whatever the depth of lunch is, be it just a sandwich or a full blown meal, I submit that I cheated my person A out of having that lunch with me by having lunch with person B. But I sure enjoyed my lunch with person B.
Is this kinda like it's OK for Catholics or other overtly religions types to agree that indulging in anal sex will keep a girl a virgin until her wedding night?
So according to you a married man having solo sex is out of the question. (Unless the wife lets him fuck himself)
Duh. Talking about sex with other people, not yourself. I've seen pictures of men sucking themselves, assuming it wasn't photo shopped, but never seen one of a woman eating herself. Call me nuts, old fashioned or a dinosaur but I stand by my beliefs. If my wife has oral sex with someone else and I haven't agreed to it, it's cheating and we're probably heading to a divorce.
If you wrote in response to my last comment, know that it was in jest, a little sarcasm as one having an orgasm from masturbating I agree with your other comments
Cheating is a highly subjective term that depends solely on the structure of the relationship and what is agreed upon, in advance, by all parties involved. Most people enter into a relationship assuming it will be monogamous, especially once vows have been taken. I think as a baseline, the expectation, unless otherwise discussed, is that you will only have relations with your partner and anything that falls outside of that is cheating. I think whether or not orgasm is achieved is irrelevant, touching someone other than your partner in a way that cannot be considered platonic is cheating unless the partner agrees that it is acceptable. Self pleasure, while I wouldn't consider it cheating, is a difficult and often sensitive gray area, especially if it interferes with connecting sexually with your partner. Healthy and open self exploration should always be acceptable but often it becomes a habitual thing that can become problematic. Furthermore, cheating can also happen without any physical touch whatsoever. In a monogamous relationship, having an emotional affair with someone else is a form of cheating, also having a digital or phone based sexual encounter is also cheating. If a partner consents to any of these things happening, then it is no longer cheating. Consent is the key. Society has long taught us that a relationship is only supposed to be a specific way but it's a lie. A relationship can be any way you want it to be as long as everyone is ok with it and that changes are respectfully addressed along the way.
