Do your partners like or dislike mutual masturbation?

I wouldn’t say my wife dislikes it but it’s not like she as willing as I am. I was edging myself silly last night in bed while she was out watching tv.

 

Such a shame

 

Both my wife and I enjoy it. She’ll often get herself off and then we’ll have sex, because that’s what we’re both really looking to enjoy. But I do love watching her masturbate.

 

That's not good.

 

So very sad for most men it’s a huge turn on

 

I love it. But currently in a newer relationship and he just wants to get right to it.

 

:-(

 

Something I can do anytime so it’s kind of a waste of time. Rather we do it to each other
If and when I am with someone

 

Wife gets bored. Sometimes she'll talk about something extra kinky to get me over the edge.

 

Perhaps take on the role of patient teacher and initiate him by degrees.

 

Sounds like you need to train him.

 

God Yes! Love and Sex can be expressed and enjoyed in many ways and variety keeps things alive and interesting. We love sex in many positions, Sometimes I masturbate her until she comes and sometimes she does me. Sometimes we Masturbate ourselves at the same time, sometimes we masturbate each other at the same time, she masturbates while I watch or I masturbate while she watches. To be exciting and fulfilling sex must be loving and generous.

 

I've never dated anyone who didn't masturbate with me. Two women seemed not as into the mutual aspect of it as most. They did it with me. They enjoyed it. But they were very much in their own world while they did it. Didn't make much eye contact or look at my junk or position themselves to let me see them playing with themselves either. But they were just weirdos and very closed up when it came to sex until they weren't and then would get upset we didn't try crazier things. Like I said, they were weird.

Other than those two, every woman I've slept with, mutual masturbation has always been a very standard part of foreplay/sex/sexy-fun.

 

I think my wife dislikes but partly because she genuinely likes my cock in her pussy. Every time we start something like mutual masturbation she will get wet and then come and either beg for me to put it in or she will climb on top and take matters into her own…space lol

 

Sharing masturbation is one of my favorite forms of sex play. Watching and being watched are both hot to me. It can be awkward to introduce into a sexual scene at times, so I usually have broken the ice be 'getting caught' in the act--deliberately creating a situation where my partner walks in on me masturbating. The reactions over the years have varied, but most times it led to a shared masturbation session--if not right then, at least soon after.

I had one GF who was as avidly into masturbation as I was. On road trips we would take turns driving while the other masturbated in the passenger seat. We dared each other to get ourselves off in risky places. We did all the other sex things too, but we really enjoyed seeing each other getting naughty with ourselves.

I suspect that your BF has not adopted that view. At a glance, it would seem that he may have internalized the still-widespread propaganda stigmatizing self-pleasuring as a substitute for 'real sex.' After all these years, it amazes me how much this nonsense is still believed. Betty Dodson, the godmother of masturbation, said Masturbation is sex, and never stopped saying it. Is he reluctant or embarrassed to admit that he masturbates? Maybe it's time to leave a copy of Betty Dodson's book Sex for One: the joy of Self-loving laying out where he can find it one day.

 

My question Is what is your BFs aversion to it? If nothing else, it could be a good learning experience for him to see what you like, and what he could do more/better to please you.

As a guy, I can only speak from personal experience. my first girlfriend (both trying to remain virginal…. at least temporarily), a couple FWBs, and my ex-wife were all into it. Ex-wife was a bit of an exhibitionist, and we had nights of mutual sessions. Nothing like watching her either with fingers or toys. Of course that got me off. Sometimes that was the desired result, and others. It was just a form of foreplay. my present wife of 25+ years swears that she has NEVER masturbated. Thanks to her righteous mom, I believe it. She has only watched me a couple of times, and said not again. Even now that she is sexless (age and a physical issue) she hates that I masturbate at all. What else am I supposed to do? it is not like I am flaunting in front of her… I keep it as private as I can.

Good luck convincing BF to opening up.

 

Can’t find women big on mutual . If I find one who is and will get off to same porn as me I’d have to marry her . Love sex but the synchronized masturbation and focus I find an amazing yet different kind of eroticism . made a game once where we decided to play who could catch the other masturbating . Lost getting caught in living room while she made dinner and I pretended to be napping on couch . What she didn’t know is I never admired I caught her long before cause I loved the bed shakes knowing she was jilling off to erotic literature on her phone thinking me asleep

 

Like—we fucked last night and then masturbated together. It was a good night!

 

I love it and take sex to a new level. I've had some GF's that liked it and some that were lukewarm.

One of my ex's loved it. I used to buy her toys. We were very open about masturbation and would routinely do it together until completion. Always would kiss while we had our orgasms.

 

I had similar experiences with a coworker. She would play with herself too.