It turns wife on, so I do it for her.

Mine too.

 

In the heat of the moment she wanted me to suck a cock with her in a MFM threesome. I of course did

 

I'm ardently sex positive and not shy about admitting my personal turn ons to my significant others. It honestly bothers me when a girlfriend is too vanilla. But like anyone else, I have things that just don't feel quite right. I don't judge anyone for them but part of being so positive towards kinky or dirty sex is that I think the most important part of good sex is that whatever you're doing, both people need to be turned on by it and 100% into it.

But not everyone is into the same stuff. So, what I've found over the past few years is that there is always some version of almost anything I can get down with, even if the initial request would make me uncomfortable. One example is the first time a girl asked me to choke her, I couldn't do it. And one time in the heat of sex, I decided to suck it up and do it if it was important to her. But within a second of gripping her neck and seeing the look on her face, I was absolutely horrified and whipped my hand away. What I've since realized is you don't need to actually cut off someone's ability to breath. Just gripping their neck forcefully but not actually squeezing it is enough. So anytime someone asks me to do something that I'm uncomfortable with or if someone isn't comfortable with something I like but wants me to enjoy our sex life, we just discuss some watered down version of that thing that still manages to scratch the one person's kinky itch while helping the other person explore a sexual gratification they otherwise would have never given a chance.

Whatever you do, absolutely do not force yourself to do something you know you're not OK with and don't let someone else do the same. One of the worst sexual experiences of my life was someone forcing themselves to pee on me just because they knew I was really into it and they wanted "to give me what I like." But once she was on top of me in the bath tub and started trying to do it, she felt way too self-conscious and weird about it. And couldn't relax enough to let her pee go. I told her it was fine, and I appreciated her even trying but we didn't have to do it and we could just table it and maybe try another time if she become more comfortable with the idea. But the more I told her she didn't have to do it, the more she doubled down on this very unsettling determination to "do it for me," yet also kept remarking on how hard it was for her. I don't think I'd ever been that uncomfortable in a sexual situation. It felt very rape-y after a point. Both in that I felt like she wasn't letting me tap out of the situation and forcing me to endure this weird head game she was playing on herself. And also putting herself through the same. It got the point that I was begging her to stop. I finally just snapped and told her to get off of me and let me out of the tub.

 

My wife has the same belief. It has gotten difficult to think of new scenarios. I have mentioned about bringing in another person male or female. She likes the idea but is afraid of somebody else finding out and jeopardizing our reputations.

 

Fun couple07

As difficult as it may be, don’t give up.
Not trying harder to introduce new sexual adventures when we were younger is something I totally regret.

In hindsight It would have been worth risking our happy relationship to be more aggressive with introducing new sexual adventures.
We got so close a couple of times to bringing in another friend of ours to at least watch us have sex. I really feared that she would think of me as being a psychotic sexual deviant. And I didn’t want her to feel that way. So I sequestered away my true desires to not cause her any anguish. What a mistake. There’s a chance that she would have enjoyed it.

Here we are now several years later and ii really hate to admit it, but sex with her has really gotten boring. Sadly I think I’ve gotten to the point where I rather just please myself to porn and fantasize about what could have been. Or maybe I’ll start hanging out with our friend more. That friend knows how I’ve felt about including them.

I’m not completely giving up yet that’s not in me to quit, but the odds are really against us to have more exciting sex in our future especially with her health issues.

As difficult as it has gotten to think of new scenarios don’t quit on the ones you have. Just try to be more creative on how you can introduce them.
Best of luck.

 

My wife was much the same way, so we had weekend get aways to keep it more discrete.

 

My wife progressed from putting a finger in me while giving me a blow job to using a dildo on me. After seeing how much I enjoyed it, she told me that the real thing would feel even better she suggested that I find a guy and try it. I was sure about it but after much discussion I went ahead. She was right, and she doesn't let me forget it. I get together regularly with my friend and when I get home she gives me that "I told you so" smirk. I would hate that look but she was right.

 

My first wife of 25 years had been a traditional sex partner for the first ten years of marriage without complaints from me as we always orally pleasured each other before intercourse. Then one evening after we were done having children we were out with friends, and she had a number of drinks and when the evening was winding down, she whispered in my ear, take me home and fuck me. She'd never said that ever. On the drive home she proceeds to open my pants and starts sucking my cock, another thing she had never done. I had to ask her to refrain herself until we got home because I was unable to focus on driving. Our kids were staying with her parents for the night so once we got inside, she immediately took her top off and started shaking her 36C cup tits at me. She pushed me down on the couch and proceeded to suck my cock hard as she was removing the rest of her clothing. Once she was fully naked, she says "Take me upstairs and fuck me"! We made our way to the bedroom, and we were going at it like animals as she had her first orgasm while partaking in some great oral sex in 69 positions. She eventually climbs on top of me to ride my cock real slow telling me to suck and nibble on her tits which I gladly did. Within 15 minutes she has her second orgasm, screaming rather loudly during which she'd never done before. She then climbs off me and assumes the doggie position and once again says "Now fuck me good and deep" so I position myself behind her and as I open her ass cheeks, I see her pretty little rose bud of an asshole and messaged it with my thumb as she moaned out in pleasure, I spat on it and continued as her moaning became louder before I just got down and ran my tongue over her bung hole and liked it gently to hear her say "Yes", that feels great. This rimming I'm giving her is a first for both of us as she began bucking her hips and saying "yes", "yes", "yes"...OMG! After about a ten-minute rimming of her asshole she says, "Put your cock in my ass baby"! OH SHIT, this is yet another first as I eased the head of my cock into her lovely asshole, she moaned out how good it felt as I teased her asshole with short strokes only going in an inch or so to hear her say "go deeper baby" to which I did. I'm amazed, out of the blue she wanted me to fuck her in the ass, and I was really loving it too. After about 10 minutes she really screams out as she had her third orgasm about a minute before I released my load deep inside her ass. She says very loudly, keep going babe it feels great as the cum I deposited really loosened up her ass as I continued to fuck her ass as she screams out very loudly now to have had her fourth orgasm as she gyrated her ass against my cock as I slipped out and she collapsed face down on the bed. We had a great night of sleep to be woken up to a blowjob the next morning, she is off the hook as this too was another first. Yes, she wanted fucked in the ass again that morning and her evolvement into an anal queen had begun. She loved her pussy eaten but from that evening forward was wanting anal sex over vaginal sex as she said the orgasms were 10 times more powerful and it all started with the first rimming of her asshole.