Daughter in law is horrible parent

With their 3rd child now and she has yet to become a nurturing mother. My son is the main caregiver and she basically does nothing. I have had it with her, my son is surprisingly the best father I have ever seen. He puts me to shame in that category. His wife is very lazy and used to giving orders. She has a salon and hardly has to work there at all, although she acts like she is very busy with work she is not. She stays on my son’s ass non stop. I have had enough and I’m ready to give her some parenting. Her parents according to her dumped she and her sibs at grandmas everyday, doing this several times a week so they could go to the casino. They were not real gamblers just nickel slot players. I’m close to letting my d in law and her family have it.
She puts every bit of the children’s care on him. It’s like she wants to run him off but that would be the last thing she would do. I have way more money than this bunch of trash all put together. I am at the point where I’m ready to tell her I will spend every dime I have for my son to get full custody.

 

Good advice. Not sure she'll take it.
If the son doesn't complain to you about her, then it's nona your biz.
Maybe he enjoys being her slave.
Maybe a little S&M dominatrix thing going on.
Yes or no, nona yo biz.
Take my mother-in-law.......please!

 

You should refer your son to George Bruno on Youtube, he's a fine gentleman who will give him some practical manly advise. What you want to do is to create a situation for your son where will be able to lead the relationship and create a sense of harmony at the same time. Refer them to some couple's counseling with a local pastor or friar or even therapist and see if that works. What your son should do is to create a dynamic where he can be the dude to quietly make the decisions and foster a sense of love and devotion in the household at the same time, if that means getting a more lenient schedule where he can easily take care of household affairs at a more efficient rate then so be it. Try to talk to his wife and hear her side of the story and get some common ground here.