Wife with another man.

After 18 years I would guess you have a strong relationship. I would ask what her reaction was when you told her your fantasy, and if she is willing. We were not married at the time and less complicated for us. I was seeing other women so she was free also. As far as finding a guy her girlfriends had told her about a man, and all said he was a great lover. I admit I felt funny watching the first time but soon got over it. And no regrets it added a spark to or sex life. But once it's done no turning back.

 

We Bypassed this issue by seeing each other having sex with others prior to our marraige. I watched her sucking and fucking her bfs and she watched me with her gf. We were adult about it and enjoyed our voyeuristic exploits. It was just sex, nothing more. Love and caring for each other dominated our feelings and commitment. After getting married, we were free to enjoy a special situation, should it arise.

 

Same for us we started playing with other couples and singles before we married.

 

Agreed, my wife and I played with other couples in the lifestyle and I found it hot watching the other guy fuck my wife...and my wife thought it was hot to watch me fuck the other woman...

 

We truly enjoy the watching each other. It’s our kink.

 

That is the way it should be fun for all.

 

Tomorrow, I will see my wife get fucked by our swapping friends. She will see me fuck his wife. It’s hot, intoxicating and erotic, all rolled into one. All four on a king size bed.

 

lucky you.

 

A two couple full swap in one bed is soooo hot..

 

Yes, all 4 on one bed being able to reach over and touch each other, and look into each others eyes.

 

I still find it amazing that you guy's are able to have all these experiences. Its all so obvious on internet but in real life maybe not so. I wonder how it feels to see how the wife spreads her legs for a strange man, how she lets him fuck her from all positions with passion. And if the guy has a bigger dick. I read some men don't want to see that. I read here about swaps going well but none about situations going out of control.

 

That's because it's not "a lot of fun" to talk about the times when things go off the rail and head south. I've heard of too many of such stories and was a part of a few of them myself. I know the first time I watched my wife getting her head handed to her by another man, I wanted to kill both of them because I thought I could handle it... and found out that I barely did and thankful that I got myself under control. I've had boyfriends and husbands stop me in the midst of making love to their woman because they're seeing her with me, seeing her reacting to me in ways she didn't react to him, or it just hit him that nope, he couldn't handle something that he thought he'd find enjoyable.

Relationships have been ruined; people have gotten beaten and badly injured, and I once heard of a guy killing his wife and the guy he invited to screw her and in a fit of rage. None of this negative press fires the imagination, gets dicks hard and drooling pre-cum, so on and so forth but this side of things is part of the reality that exists. One guy I know almost committed suicide because he watched another man fuck his woman silly and she ran away with him the very next day. Stuff like this might not want a guy to suggest to his wife that she let another man fuck her, so no one really mentions it.

 

Couples need to communicate with each other and maybe talk with experienced couples. No matter how much you talk about it, when you see another man sliding his dick in your woman it's a shock and lots of mixed emotions. We got along fine and sparked our love life. We went through the hippie free love era of the 60s. Some of those parties were wilder than lots of swinger parties.

 

For us… It was not something that we suddenly decide to do. It took us 2 years of research and talking together. We both went into our first swap very prepared emotionally. When I saw the joy and happiness that we both received it made the wait worth it to our relationship. We both went into this with our eyes wide open. Seek quality, respectful connections and keep jealous in check. You can prevent problems. It’s not about the size of the anatomy, but more about the friendship you create with the right couples. The dynamic’s of finding a proper couple to swap with is more of a challenge than the actual swap. Once this happens, it’s pure erotic magic.

 

Yes indeed…communication is key!!

 

I couldn't agree more with the statement of "the dynamics of finding a proper couple to swap with is more of a challenge than the actual swap " , and looking back on that time, we never found a couple that we could TRULY connect with.
We did find a couple or two though, that the husband was obviously trying to push his wife into something she didn't want to do.
We eventually put a plan in place that if one of us suspected that was going on, one of us would excuse ourselves saying we needed to go to the restroom, then return saying we had a phone call and were needed at home and make our exit.
The lifestyle can be a blast but it's not without it's risks.....

 

We always use her Ex for fun. We overlapped at the start. She was still seeing him and started to see me and that turned us both on. After a while of exclusivity we missed the fun and he is allowed to have her every now and then. Sometimes I watch sometimes I don’t. Always super hot in either case.