There is nothing wrong with trying it, to see if you like it.

How else do you know unless you try it , at least once? Have you tried and enjoyed the experience or discovered it's not for you? Maybe you tried it more than once, to be sure.

 

How else would you know? That would depend on whether or not you believe what other people might tell you about it. I know guys who have said that they don't have to suck a dick to know that they wouldn't like it and I've asked them, "How do you know?" and when they don't get pissed off about the question, their answers usually start with, "I heard that..." and usually what they hear is a horror story and whether it's real or imagined by the person telling the story.

I've told many a guy and gal, "If you really want to know what it's like, try it yourself and don't take anyone else's word for it. Then do it more than once to make sure that the first time wasn't a fluke." It's easy for us who have tried it and liked it to speak the truth in that there's nothing wrong with trying it... unless you've been told all of your life that there is something wrong with even wanting to try it. There's some really interesting psychology behind this...

 

After I received my first blowjob from a guy I rushed to some boards where guys posted about how to hook up, and I shared a - ahem - blow by blow account. To a one, the comments on the board included shock as well as declarations that I was gay. Nobody banned me from the group but no public support whatsoever.

HOWEVER, I also immediately got double digits of DMs saying some combination of “awesome thank you how do I get that” and “let’s meet up I want to blow you” haha

That was one step along the way to finding ShyBiGuys and other like-minded boards. I still go back to the other one and check in to see how the straights Bi and curious are doing.

 

SBG was great, wasn't it? If someone wants to try it, then they should try it but not before being "educated" on the pros and cons of trying it that have nothing to do with liking it. Like all those guys asking what giving a blowjob feels like and get bombarded with so many diverse answers because we all have our own thoughts and feelings about what it's like to suck a guy's dick, let alone suck him off? I will still say, "If you really want to know what it's like to suck cock, then gather up your courage, find a willing guy, and suck his dick and find out for yourself what it's like."

They're either going to like or hate it. Or they hate it the first time but try it again and now they like it. My generation grew up hearing, "Try it - you'll like it!" and, um, well, I liked it a lot and so did a lot of my friends and some of them didn't like it. In the adult version of the game, you let the person who maybe curious about it make their own informed decision about finding out if they're going to like it or not. A guy asks, "Am I gonna like it?" and my answer is, "I don't know and, really, the only way you're going to know is to do it." Some guys are afraid to try it because they seem to know for a fact that if they try it, they're going to like it... way too much.

But it remains true that the only way you're going to find out one way or the other is to gird your loins, ditch your fears and inhibitions, and suck a guy's dick. Maybe you'll find out like a lot of us have found out... or not.

 

Many years ago, while in conversation with a guy I knew to be gay he said, "Don't knock-it until you try it". A couple years later I did try it, and he was 100% correct. I wanted to try it to find out as the voice inside my head was saying I wouldn't like it but actually loved it as doing so triggered something inside me. I was wanting to suck dick as often as possible as my entire outlook on the subject totally changed for the positive. Isn't that how "cocksuckers" are created? One must indulge to find out.

 

Indeed - one must indulge to find out. I'd say that "most guys" firmly believe that (a) they shouldn't do it and (b) they're not going to like it and maybe (c) ask themselves if they're really gay if (d) they do it and (e), fuck, they like it! You just cannot know one way or the other until you do it. Then do it again and maybe even a third time to prove that the first two times weren't flukes or "happy accidents." But if you can't convince a guy that it will be okay to try it, he'll never know...

 

After having been sucked off several times, I lined myself up with another guy for a selfish massage and blowjob all for my pleasure. Stomach on the table and my head nestled under his briefs-covered crotch, I just knew I had to try it. I reached up to feel him, he didn’t pull away and I slipped off his briefs and pulled all 5”? 6”? of his delicious cock inside my mouth. I devoured him and licked his balls and all the time my brain was saying “he likes it! he likes it!” meaning me.

That cock fit inside my mouth and hit the back of my throat like we were made for each other. I tried it, and very much liked it.

 

I had no choice but to do it. I was overcome with uncontrollable fantasies & desires, and out of this world orgasms while watching gay porn, all that just drove me out to wrap my mouth around a real cock. It's a desire that I've never been able to control ever since. And once I inserted my cock into another guy's asshole 20 years later for the first time, I've had an uncontrollable need to keep doing it and enjoying everything about a guy's body. I never knew it would change me so much, now actually very joyfully accepting the gay side of myself that I had buried so deeply.

You know, it's not so much about how much I love sucking a cock and fucking a male ass and how much enjoyment and pleasure I receive from it, even though I do very much so. No, it's more about the pleasure I can give another guy using my mouth and cock. It's giving another man that kind of pleasure that will blow your mind.

 

When cocksucking acolytes have asked me why I suck cock, I tell them, "Because it makes me feel incredibly good!" Some purists have flamed me because I'll say in a heartbeat that I do not suck cock just to make the other guy happy because it makes sense to me that if I'm not going to get pleasure out of doing it, then something's not right here. I've always despised guys who've made me not like what I'm doing and I'm sure they weren't feeling warm and fuzzy about me when I stopped sucking them and went on about my business.

 

Well yes I tried it due to a many year Curiosity, I liked it …a lot! So I had to try it again to be sure. Yep, I liked it again. It’s been a 15 year long experiment. And every time I come to the same conclusion.

 

How did you arrange your meet?

 

I’ve met men many times since then. Typically one of the online dating apps for gay or bisexual men is how I have met them.
There are many men in the same situation as I am in not getting any sex at home. I usually start out chatting with a guy online to get a sense of what he is looking for. I find if I can engage him In some conversation first it helps I seeing if we are compatible.
The rest comes naturally, take you clothes off and have fun.

 

When I began my journey to explore my curiosity to suck another man's cock, I found myself browsing the Craig's List Personals section. I responded to the ads which provided a photo of their cock (soft or hard) because those caught my attention first. I'd try to keep the email exchanges brief but long enough for the two of us to share our desired interests. At the time I was only interested in mutual oral sex so those who were searching for anal sex I would politely inform that I was not interested. However, I was able to connect with a number of men (approx. 30 or so) for oral sex. Some were gay men that were a bit more uncomfortable for me to be with but always provided an enjoyable time. The majority of these men were married to women like me and were so comfortable to be with. We'd exchange blow jobs on the living room couch taking turns sucking each other's cocks. It was very enjoyable and then as time went by, I found myself wanting to be fully naked in their bed with them to fully enjoy the experience. I was amazed at the number of married men that wanted to engage in oral sex with other men that were within a 10–15-minute drive from my own home. I felt I hit the jackpot as I was engaging with 2-4 different guys each week while also enjoying repeat visits with many of them. We were all being sexually ignored by our wives' and quickly found we could provide each other the oral satisfaction we were desperately needing in our lives. It was a wonderful time in my life as I met and sexually engaged with these men and formed some really good friendships with them. Sometimes only being together for 20-30 minutes but with a number of them we found ourselves enjoying each other's naked bodies for a couple of hours.

 

LowHangers said, "Some were gay men that were a bit more uncomfortable for me to be with but always provided an enjoyable time."

Can you tell me what made you uncomfortable being with gay men?

 

There is nothing wrong with trying it, to see if you like it
It took a longtime to come to that realization, twenty years and a kinky girlfriend in my case. Seems obvious now, amazing how society can run a game on a person.

Live and let live, from a song many people know. As well as “see and let yourself be seen”. A line from a less well known song from back in the day. That’s the way I see life.

 

I had only ever been with two openly gay men (a couple times with each) and both of them once behind closed doors became very feminine with their body language and how they spoke to me. It was something I'd never experienced before, and it took a while for me to get used to. I enjoyed their company and what we shared with each other, but I just couldn't seem to get past it and stopped hooking up with them. Maybe deep down I was afraid of becoming more feminine myself. Both of them loved being with a guy that was married to a woman. The one guy I was with on three occasions, he had a big cock (close to 10" in length) and I really enjoyed sucking on it for 30-40 minutes. One evening he asked me to kiss him to which I did spontaneously as we were making out for a good 20 minutes before I returned home. The intimate kissing was enjoyable but was like a "scared-straight" moment and he was pushing for a relationship. That was the uncomfortable part as I was not seeking a relationship with a man, I just wanted to share some enjoyable oral sex with a man and eventually return home to my wife.

 

Thanks. Yeah, I know what you mean. Way back in the day, the majority of gay guys I had sex with were disturbingly feminine in their behaviors and pushing for a relationship and most were being pains in the ass and not unlike the real females they were imitating. Even as an adult (married with children), I ran into maybe two or three masculine gay dudes who were annoying in a different way - they didn't seem to understand that I wasn't going to be their bitch and cum dump - while the greater number of effeminate gay dudes were pressing me to dump my wife to be with them. Then my gay boyfriend came along, and he was so effeminate and submissive that he drove me insane with the way he behaved - but being in love with him and we had a great relationship changed a lot of things in my mind about love, sex, relationships, and gay men. After him, more effeminate gay men who drove me insane with pushing for a relationship, but I had decided that I could exclude these men when looking for opportunities to get and give head or... I could finish growing up about their antics and focus on the "important" part of things. Their feminism is just them being who they want and need to be and just like everyone else, they could be looking for a Mr. Right more than a Mr. Right Now.

 

That is my fantasy

 

Just a thought......

Maybe it's the fact that they feel and fear that they are somehow giving away their masculinity by kneeling in front of someone and "submitting" to them putting their erect cock in their mouth and then subsequently cumming in their mouth like a submissive woman?

 

I don’t consider sucking cock or taking cum in mouth “submissive”. There’s a lot of power in controlling how, when and where a man achieves orgasm.