Hey! well my boyfriend has been annoying me lately, i havent really felt 'attracted' to him lately either. sometimes im just like 'ew' to him..ah i dont know what it is! its just that also when hes drunk/high he gets mad at everything, so we always have arguements about the stupidest things. however, maybe i just have been on pms and i have been like stoned out of my mind the past few days so im really just confused on everything! but my b/f is a great guy, he adores me tremedously, it actualy kinda scares me. im a real indepdent person and i like my space. theres nothing wrong with him, hes AWESOME, so i dont know what my deal is? I think maybe the closer he comes, the farther i want to push away? i dont know! then the other night i was at this place where local bands play, and i was tottaly fucked up and i met this one guy there and he just seemed SO cool. and we were flirting and all and we exchanged numbers and we hugged..i ALMOST kissed him, but i remebered i had a boyfriend. i just felt a connection there. i dont know if its cuz i was kinda messed up or what? but so we have been talkin on the phone the past few days, and hes prettty cool and he seems like he really likes me. but the thing is i kinda just think he wants to just have sex with me or something. i mean hes already 20 i bet he had sex alot already and im still a virgin and i honestly am not ready for sex at all yet. ah i dont know...sometimes i think i shud just dump my b/f..and maybe go out with the new dude..and t hen i think 'but i dont wanna give up something that i have so good(because my b/f is so good to me) just for some guy i met a few days ago..' and then also i think 'maybe i shud jus dump my b/f and not even talk to that other guy because i want to be single now i need my space' well uhh if anyone wants to give me their opinon..it would be great! thanks!!!!!!!!!!
It sounds to me like you kinda answered your own question. If that's how you feel about your boyfriend, then what's the point of being with him?
you have to sort out your feelings and if you really dont like your bf no more let him go when it gets to the other guys be careful who you meet in a bar most of them really just want to fuck
I gotta agree with Joanna on this one... if you're actually aware that your boyfriend makes you go "ewww" then you've answered any doubts you have about your relationship. Send your boyfriend on his merry way, and perhaps take some time out for yourself - discover what you really want in a relationship... but if you think that guy #2 just wants you for sex, then he probably isn't the first place you should run.
Don't dump a guy that treats you so well, believe me they are a rarity. It will be hard for you to find another guy like that.
The same thing happened to me like a month ago. I realized I didn't feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore so I decided to just take a break so I could sort out my feelings and stuff. You might want to think about doing something like this, but the only problem is if he is not willing to wait for you. But if he's not willing to wait than it wasnt meant to be anyway...
hey..kindwoman..i know wut u mean, he treats me real well...but thats the problem!! hes like..really good but for some reason i jus dnt think i cud be with him for that much longer..not sure...
If you feel that way break up and stop leading him on my ex did that to me, first we broke up or a few weeks because she didn't love me but then we got back togeather and it turns out she felt the same. for his sake don't lead him on it is the only nice thing to do and if he is nice as you say he is he deserves the truth
It sounds like you'll both be happier (though maybe not right away) if you break it off soon. Coming from your point of view--it's no fun being in a relationship that you're not satisfied with, no matter how good of a guy he is. And coming from your boyfriend's point of view--it's no fun being in a relationship where you're not as appreciated as you should be.
yeah..no point in leading him on just because he is good to you. sometimes someone is really good to you, but you just don't have those deep feelings for them. if you don't, it's a waste of your time and theirs to be in a relationship. but, don't just leave him because you want this other guy. leave him because the relationship is unsatisfactory. i personally always thought it was a waste to be in a relationship when you're not even in love with the person you're with anyway. you're only 17, anyhow. if you break up with him it'll give you a chance to really get to know yourself, which is good for anyone at any age.
to dump ot not to dump - that is the uqestion!! Ok, my advice is to dump... if you want to see what that other guy is after, then keep him at arms length for a couple of months, if he's just after sex, you should know by then. Remember you have the choice and the power to have sex when YOU want it, dont ever forget that, if anyone put a condition on sex (ie give me sex now or I walk) then give em the flick cos they are not woth it.. Sex should be a giving thing, no a taking thing. Goodluck :]
