Question for Men about Erections

I can easily achieve an erection at age 47. I can either be with my husband, thinking about something or just touching my penis and he’ll respond very quickly! He’s always quick to have an erection and hasn’t lost any of his ability. I make sure to have at least one erection per day to exercise his abilities and keep him in shape…

 

In my sixties now and when I am tending my garden, nude, I do tend to become erect. I usually read the hip forums after gardening, perhaps my penis has become conditioned to know that soon after gardening I will be reading these posts. Good times.

 

It's more challenging now than it was when I was younger. But, two of my friends are also getting older and it takes longer to get them aroused than it did before. So, the foreplay is longer which is fun. And they are all open than ever before to trying new things which is great. It all works out.

 

It sucks getting old/older. When I first discovered what my penis would do when I was 12/13ish, I could get hard at the drop of a hat, Either with somebody or solo, it did not matter. In my late 30s, I am married a woman that I felt was my sexual soulmate. We had sex all the time up into our 50s, And I had consistent Solo sessions when I traveled. One way or the other it seemed like every night was a good night. The last few years have been a drought/famine. I experienced a couple of significant injuries, and subsequent surgery. I think the last two times I had sex with my wife. I fought through the pain long enough for her to get off a couple times, but I could not finish. It just hurt too much. Throw in that, and her “change”, and sex stopped. 5-6 years now. Even now with solo sessions, it takes a bit of mental or visual stimulation to get me going. Can’t remember the last time I had a REAL hard on. Yeah, hard enough to get the job done, but somewhat disappointing. Age health are big factors.

 

Golden years aren't so Golden. Wife has lost interest, and my lack of sex adds to my softer erections, not being what they used to be. I try to be thankful for other thing. I still have fond memories of our sex together, and with others.

 

Yeah, memories are what can usually get me going. Like you said, those of us together, or of us having our MFMs with our special “friend”. The one thing that always seems to work is the memories of the first time she guided him into her! I was like OMG she is actually doing it. BARE! Her multiple orgasms, him coming in her a couple times each session. me going down on her for tasty cream pies while us guys recovered. Gawd I miss those carefree days/nights! Just thinking about it now has me at about half staff. Maybe I should take advantage of it and get some lube.
I need a Time Machine to go back to those days. Absolutely no problem getting a raging hard on. My 40s and 50s were the best sex of my life.

 

That is a fond memory for me also. I remember her looking over at me and smiling as he buried his dick deep inside her.

 

My friend hasn't failed me yet. I do take some L-Arginine as part of my daily regimen ... earlier, it was touted as the poor man's Viagra since it aids in nitric oxide production, a vasodilator. Not sure if it really has that effect, but I'm not willing try and find out either....

 

Depends on my mood, health, stress level, etc. But generally speaking, I probably get boned up at least 5-8. Obviously it happens when I’m thinking about something sexual, but it can also happen naturally from morning wood, a pee semi-boner, or something accidentally rubbing against it. If my phone is sitting in my lap and I get a text that vibrates against my dick, it’s probably going to get hard, .

 

My body and my beautiful penis are getting older and my health is not the best (47) and my penis is definitely showing his age but I can have an erection any time I want and can ejaculate easily when I choose to take my time and masturbate.

I definitely take the time to exercise my aging sexual abilities and achieve at least one nice erection each day.

 

If I'm horny or I see a woman I think is very sexy I can get hard in seconds and it often lasts a while, very often at home I'll think about my partner doing something and me going up behind her and I'm fully hard before I finish the thought. It's even worse when she has small shorts on that reveal a lot when she is bent over.

 

I'm 60. I have erections every day. I had three ejaculations (manual) yesterday. I climax 5-10 times a week and have done so since I was a teenager. It takes a little more concentration or stimulation to get me started but once the ball is rolling, look out.

 

At 60, I can still get an erection at the drop of a hat. Quickly and easily. The problem is maintaining it without stimulation.
During sex, if there is pause or changing positions etc. - he starts faltering and needs to re-stimulate. Same with masturbation, if I quit for a bit - he begins deflating pretty quick. At least he reignites easily.

 

I think as I get older, there has to be a little more mental stimulation. When I was younger, I was hard all of the time. Just seeing a picture of a hot girl would do it. Now if I see pic of that same hot girl, it's not going to make me hard until I start thinking of maybe something sexual with her. I can stay hard for 2 hours while I masturbate or even a really long time when I have sex, so my alternator is fine. Maybe my brain battery just needs to crank a little more energy for my starter. Ha.

 

Although I am 79, I have no problem at all getting an erection. Watching my wife undress makes me hard. However, maintaining an erection is sometimes an issue. My erection seldom lasts longer than 10 minutes or so fucking my wife. She then usually sucks my softening dick until I cum. I typically will get hard again right before I cum. I wish my dick were 30 years old and would stay hard but it's not!

 

I am 60 and still have the equipment working. I constantly exercise (Masturbate) to keep my cock operational. New games, toys, and forums give my mind ample food for inspiration.

 

62 & on prostate & anti depression meds...not at all easy to get hard and without constant attention I can watch it just droop & shrink. However I enjoy both ruined & denied orgasms & put pleasuring others first.

 

I think it's as important as exercise.....think of it as cardio

 

It's tougher at my age (40s) than before. But only in a way that I don't just see a woman's vulva or a guy's penis and immediately get an erection. Something has to press the right button about the person's physical appearance, or what we're doing sexually, or a dirty thing they say, or the circumstance.

As far as the third thing, I can get an erection quite easily under certain circumstances. One such circumstance being the more inappropriate it would be to get an erection as far as "society's rules," or the more attention I feel is being paid to whether or not I get an erection, the more prone I am to getting one just out of overthinking it.

A prime example being showers with family or if I'm showering or nude for any reason with someone who explicitly mentions the possibility of me getting an erection. Once I feel like a person is eyeing my penis to see whether I get hard, or if they mention it out loud, I'll start getting at least a soft-on within a second's time.

To be brutally honest, I don't mind. It leads to very open and healthy convos about genitalia. I've learned so much from getting erections and/or seeing my mom get physically aroused when we shower together. Once that's happened, it's silly to be shy about anything else.

We've talked about so much we might never have asked or said to each other if it wasn't already silly to try to hide the fact that my penis or her inner labia and clit were just totally hanging out there in front of the other person. I wish everyone could be the same with everyone. It's so healthy. The rules of shame we place on ourselves makes me so mad sometimes.

 

SandBook, are your family nudists by any chance?

I only ask because you wrote, "To be brutally honest, I don't mind. It leads to very open and healthy convos about genitalia. I've learned so much from getting erections and/or seeing my mom get physically aroused when we shower together. Once that's happened, it's silly to be shy about anything else.

We've talked about so much we might never have asked or said to each other if it wasn't already silly to try to hide the fact that my penis or her inner labia and clit were just totally hanging out there in front of the other person. I wish everyone could be the same with everyone. It's so healthy. The rules of shame we place on ourselves makes me so mad sometimes."


Wow! Just Wow! So you're saying that as an adult male, you take/or have taken, showers with your mother? Or is it the case that when you were a young boy you showered with your mum, and she saw you getting an erection and you saw her getting aroused as well?

It's an amazing thing to write about and I find it absolutely intriguing reading about it. I was brought up by my mum (I was born the wrong side of the blanket!) and my only memory of seeing her unclothed was when I must have been about 4 years old, and she took me to the local swimming baths. They had individual changing stalls, and she took me into one while she changed into her swimsuit. As such I discovered that women have hair where I'd never have guessed they would, but I only remember seeing her on the one occasion. It must have made an impression though, because I can still remember it 70 years later!

Regarding the erections thing. I used to get them all the time when I was young, but now I'm in my mid 70's, overweight, and struggling with an autoimmune disease called PolyMyalgiaRheumatica (PMR for short) that robs me of much of my energy and stamina, I find it much more difficult to get hard than I used to.