The Great Big Anal Sex Thread!

and no hot mexican food.

 

lol...no i'd can imagine not!! any other foods to avoid or eat more of?

 

Hey all...don't get to a computer too much these days. In answer to the last question, I have never been uninterested in the slightest bit, getting "plugged," as you've put it, so gently yet so firmly -kinda like how it's supposed to be. I think the case may be that I was designed to love it in the ass, by nature and nurture. I've also never been "skeeved" about it either because I always make sure that I get with beautiful boys who respect and admire me for the magical creature that I am, and wouldn't want me to have anything but the best times.

 

what do you gay guys do when they get hemmeroids? like, with anal sex n all.

 

But actually I only get them for a day or two after a night of hot & steamy sex. It generally goes away on it's own without doing anythng.

 

wouldnt they like, make anal sex impossibly painful?

 

To be honest I haven't had hemeroids before I had anal, often after though. I only get out maybe once a week or less so there is plenty of time for it to clear up. I'm not talking about the bleeding kid anyhow, just itchy & puffy. I suppose if I had a live in male partner it woulld be different but I also suspect that If I were getting it closer to daily the hemeroids wouldn't react that way. I also think that using some good lube could make another go at the back door possible even if I were to be expereincing them as they come to me.

 

do you all think my question was stupid or waht?
thanks for replying, snowdancer

 

If you walked up to me in the street & asked me this I may verbally make you think that you were receiving what you indirectly are asking about. :X

I assumed though that you had a curious question on your mind so I answered it as such. Isn't that what newsgroups are for anyhow? I can't see your face or hear any inflections in your voice so if you have other intentions I couldn't really tell so I chose to think that you were being sincere.

Anyhow, one of the cliche` things that I heard teachers said when I was in school that actually makes sense to me is this "The only stupid question is one that isn't asked." I hope you keep asking questions. Keep asking here, ask everytime you have something that you want to learn no matter where you are. No matter who you are talking to. Questions that come from the heart with the intention of learning are the best thing to make sure that things improve from generation to generation. I could rant on for a while more on this but I just wanted to let you know that I don't think that it is a stupid question.

BTW- Hemorrhoids don't always get inflamed with anal activity. I forgot to mention that earlier.

 

haha yeh you replied again but like, i wanted more oppinions, otherwise i may as well have pm'd you, you know?

 

listen, im not putting this one down, i would very much like answers

 

what the hell is with teh stubborness

 

I'm not gay, but maybe I can help somewhat.

When I was expecting my twins, I had horrible hemmorhoids. After I had my babies, the hemmorhoids became even worse. Every bathroom trip was sheer agony, and I was bleeding when I'd go. Ouch.

What I did was increase my fiber and water intake. I also used aloe wipes after going (I actually used baby wipes) Also, do not, do not, do not, strain when you go. If you can't go, don't force it, because you can cause tearing and more pain. After a while, things cleared up, and I honestly have not had problems with them for close to year now. Thank goodness.

As far as anal sex goes, I have still been nervous about resuming anything there again, but my husband doesn't mind. He prefers the "normal" route. So I can't tell you how it would feel once you've had the hemmorhoids, but I wouldn't try it until you're feeling better or else you can cause yourself a lot of misery, plus the risk of infection from tearing.

If you try those suggestions it may help matters for you. But if not, you really need to see a doctor. They can prescribe medications to help and/or you can have laser surgery. You need to be sure that the cause of your pain, and bleeding if you have any, is indeed from what you think it is.

Hopefully you'll feel better soon. I know it's far from fun.

{{{Hugs}}}

 

Recently I've been getting intimate with a very good friend of mine, marking my first homosexual experiences. We are both excited and I am ready for penetration, but don't know how to start.

I know there's more to it then just sticking it in. I know you're supposed to train your anus and all of that. What's the best way to get ready? I live with my parents, so I can't just go out and buy a dildo or KY Jelly. What other ways are there to prepare myself? Are there any lubricants you can use that are seemingly innocent.

Please help. Thanks.

 

don't 4get the condom. try using ur finger up ur arse to see how it feels. take it v slow. any water based lubricant is safe, but these are specially manufactured 4 sexual intercourse so i dont know how u can make it look 'innocent'. can i ask u a question? do u wanna be fucked yet?

 

Train your anus?!

Do you offer it a Beggin Strip when it is good? Rub it's face in it when it is bad?

 

Go slow. Be gentle. Lots of lube and lots of patience.

After my gay support group meeting broke up last week, a few of us were talking about anal. These other guys loved it, while I'm not too crazy about it. One guy was talking about an ex-bf of his who made anal a wonderful experience and he said that rimming (oral stimulation back there) was key.

Does your very good friend live in a situation where he can buy and keep dildos or lube? James Q is right; condoms are important.

 

yes

Not really. We can get condoms though.

 

happy fucking

 

I know nothing about any of this myself, sorry.... lol