what put the desire into your head?

If you never had a gay or bi thought in your life, what put the idea, or desire, in your head? The thought never entered my mind until my wife planted the seed . I was always blessed with the ability to fuck so many different women, there wasn't downtime to make my mind wonder in that direction. The last few years have been a combination of strapons and bi pleasure. Basicly , my wife made me comfortable enough to try the alternative of Bi , as a solution for my horny desires. It was a good idea. No regrets after convincing myself to Just Do It.

 

My first serious girlfriend and I had threesomes with a couple girlfriends of hers which led to her suggesting a threesome with a guy. Seemed only fair but the suggestion freaked me out.

She then played a video with two guys and a woman. Certainly looked like fun at first while they shared her. Then they began touching each other. Between the visuals on the video and her coaxing I suppose it was a forgone conclusion that I would give in. And I did.

 

Having been looked at and hit on by gay men over the years while at the beach with my wife I eventually gave in to a gay man who offered me a blowjob when I was about 36 years of age. It was the best blowjob I'd ever received to date. I was visiting him at his apartment a couple nights a week for after work for hour long blowjobs. Then I just ask him if I could suck his cock, I was pretty much hooked from the start. This very man said to me once when I asked what it was like to suck another man's cock. Part of his response was "don't knock it until you try it". He was right! I grew to love it.

 

For me it always there it was the labeling and accepting part that took a while.

 

Fir me, first reading about gay sex in a psychology book at the library at age 18, that described it. Then in the same year at college stumbling on a bi MMF video cover at an adult bookstore, seeing how much fun they had, made me realize you could have sexual fun with both men and women! And I did not have to be gay to like it, despite all the bullshit talk that you must be all straight or all gay.

If they had described the ability to be bisexual and hetero-romantic, without being bi-romantic or homo-romantic (which I was neither) , I would've explored it more in my 20's, & 30's?!
The lack of that and pop culture references, plus the fear of death from HIV until the early 2000's kept me from trying much beyond stroking or receiving oral.

I wish there had been a more distinct term then in use, like heteroflexible, that clearly implied being only hetero-romantic & having a stronger preference for women, but being open to sexual play with guys?

 

Many years ago, one of my wife’s high school boyfriends visited us. While they had fucked in those school days, he is now a gay man. After his visit, she told me she had considered asking him to have a threesome with us. She said she would have wanted him to fuck me while I fucked her, and for me to fuck him while he was doing her. I still wish we’d done it. Still haven’t had sex with a man, but that definitely started me thinking about it a lot

 

I've had the pleasure of fucking my buddy's wife while he fucked me in the ass. It's a pretty intense feeling as his thrusts into my ass are forcing my cock deeper into her pussy or ass. It's not always the most comfortable to do so but once he begins really fucking my ass I relax and enjoy the ride as he's driving me into her.

 

Yeah that would get the urges going lol

 

I think I want always

 

It just came to me spontaneously one day in my early 20s as a few of you might already know. It was a Sunday after a night of drinking and I was hung over. All of a sudden I thought of giving head and to my utter shock it really turned me on! Post nut clarity was brutal. Just as I was very turned on, I was also very ashamed and embarrassed afterwards, and swore this would never happen again. Several months later it did.

Edit: just saw the initial post said "If you never had a gay or bi thought in your life..." Sorry if this post is not appropriate for this thread. This is how I started to realize I was bisexual. It was all by (bi?) myself, though many, many people online over the years have been very, very supportive and I'm very grateful for them and I'd love to give them all a big kiss...and do more if they're open to it lmao!

 

it was my wife who got me to wear men thongs ..as she found them sexy and erotic ..,which slowly started me to check out men in thongs…also combination….wife also liked watching gay porn….that took it further …as i began to check out certain type of men in the gym ….,I was getting huge urges …the turning point came when I was seduced in the locker room..by this exceptional hot looking hunk, I couldn’t resist the moment…he forever changed who I was …brought out the deep bi/gay that I had in myself ….your first experience is so important, he we simply ticked off everything I enjoyed in mm sex and he was type of hunk i was craving and having urges for…
I’m thankful to my wife and my first bi partner who forever changed how I viewed sex and importantance of having intimate sex with both gender is normal

 

To answer this question, I first have to acknowledge that I did have tons of oral and anal sex with my same-aged best male friend from across the street from 8-13 years of age. But at the time I never even thought it was gay at the time, nor did I thinking back on it in high school and in my 20s--mostly because I never thought back on it and instead had repressed it all, and never had a gay thought (OK, sorry, I was in the change room once at a pool after swimming practice, and I had a momentary very desirous feeling for my classmate (we were probably 15) when I saw his naked ass and cock, but I immediately repressed it).

I always got rejected by girls and women, and only lost my virginity at 27 with my first girlfriend. It was when she broke up with me for the third time at 30 that sparked what I consider to be my very first gay desires. I was on a 5 month road trip around Canada and the US to break my depression and find myself, when a massive ton of gay desires, thoughts and fantasies rushed up from my unconscious mind. It was desire like I've never experienced in my life, and started me on my very bisexual journey of sucking hundreds of cocks and even massively enjoying some anal play with guys over the last 32 years.

 

The continuous need for sex as I got older and the availability of interested males as opposed to females got me into sex with other guys. I had wondered how it felt to be on the receiving end of what I had dished out to girlfriends and my wife over the years. I wasn't finding any success with females but guys kept wanting to do me. And, it's been great.

 

Sorry things didn't work out with your girlfriend...but I'm so happy you discovered the guy loving side of yourself, and got to share that with tons of guys! I hope to be able to say I've enjoyed guys over the last 32 years someday. It must've been magical.

 

I have always had the desire. From puberty forward. It started as a fascination with cocks and grew from there. It did however a long time to shed societal pressures and labels. I am attracted to both men and women so I can’t say I “ feel gay” I suppose the best I can describe it Is I am sexual, period. I am comfortable and turned on by both men and women. And really I can’t point to a single event that made me feel this way.

 

Preteen and early teen male play it was kinda forgotten about I never considered that gay didn't know what gay was back then. Fast forward many years and my GF asked about a FMF three way I said sure didn't happen lol She admits I really want a MFM three-way I say ok maybe...but she said there are conditions you have to let him touch you DAMN really yes I REALLY WANT YOU TO SUCK HIM. I was shocked so that opened the door to talk about it she asked if I ever touched another man I said no...oh hell I forgot about this when I was younger I did lol She loved that! seeing how turned on she was starting make me think. The next girl I date we got on the subject I told her that story shes like hell yes that would be so hot you need to do it. I think damn there everywhere!

 

Wow you attract the openminded women. Usually women don't like that.

 

there have been many I have been shocked by that. Never imagined that but as one put it wouldnt you like to see me with another woman I said of course it'd be hot. She said would you consider that gay? I said hell no she most women feel the same way about 2 men its just sex and its a turn on for us to see it.

 

Thanks so much for commenting, @soulpoker! Yes, I consider myself very fortunate to have found the guy loving side of myself. It has been so much fun. I discovered early on that I'm a very sexual being, so having been so very gay in my bisexuality has fit perfectly right in, because OMG there's no end to how many bi and gay guys there are out there: you can truly have as much sex as you desire if you're hot for cock or male ass, and my desire has been huge.

I absolutely love not just personal nudity (including outdoor naturism), but getting naked with other guys just like me. And yes, for me anal play with other guys is the "magical" that you speak of. Don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed cunnilingus and fucking a woman in the past, but nowhere near to the extent I have enjoyed rimming, tonguefucking and cockfucking a guy's asshole. I have just never felt anywhere near the same intimacy, closeness and connection when I'm inside a woman than when I'm inside a man--not to mention the huge overhead there is in fucking a woman. Fucking guys truly is a magical experience for me, and I am so lucky for that.

But I just need to greatly increase the frequency of anal play with men now. I think that's very close in my future finally, now that I have accepted and have fallen in love with my gayness. I hope you, @soulpoker, and every man gets to experience magical fun times with many men.

 

what do you mean by this exactly? i think i know what you mean, just want to hear your expanded thoughts