Are You A Romantic Or Lusting Bisexual Male?

My wife doesn't know although at times I wonder if she suspects something. We have a fairly good sex life considering she's lost a lot of her libido but when we do have sex she enjoys it. I would like to come out to her but terrified of the risk that she'll lose respect or attraction from me. But my ideal would be to be open with her and being able to have a regular fwb to satisfy my gay side while I'd be happy for her to have a lover too if she wants to. But I don't want to divorce, I still love her and remain attracted to her. So it's a tricky situation.

 

I fall into the "Lusting Bisexual" category.

I've tried body contact and kissing and it didn't turn me on.

I am a cock addict. I want to look at it, stroke it and suck it dry. I can also appreciate a nice ass, but I don't do anal either way.

 

I guess I'm lustful I actually think there's something wrong with me. I'm honry like 24/7 married to a woman who's pure straight vanilla and we haven't had sex for a long time.. I just want sex all the time.. exlspecislly receiving anal sex. I love it ( only used a dildo so far) would love to feel a real man blow a load in me.. but alas its not happening while I'm married. Guess I'm gonna die without knowing..

 

It's all in the name... lol

Seriously tho, I enjoy the touching, kissing all over the body and a lot of foreplay, but I don't look at men as being romantically attractive. Attractive sexually, absolutely!

 

Lusting. I was kid romantic and lusting.

 

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I do love being intimate. I am a married man In a sexless marriage who hopes to get romantically with a male partner

 

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I hadn't made out with a guy until I was in my 20s and found myself in love with a gay man. Before him, sex with guys was more about lusting than being romantic; get together, get our dicks out, let's do it and leave the romantic stuff to the gay dudes and not all of them were of a mind to be romantic all that much so that just worked. Having a boyfriend and making out with him was... different. Making out with girls, well, that was one thing but bringing that sexual energy to making out with him was hot and exciting and we usually didn't make out for very long before romance gave way to soul-searing lust.

We'd have plenty of body contact, not so much hugging and we'd kiss during sex - and he was the only guy I actually liked to kiss. I learned a lot being in love with him, having sex with him, being emotionally intimate with him and he changed the way I looked at other men - and men that I wasn't all that romantic with because lust was the order of the day.

 

I'm mostly lustful. I will occasionally run my hands over my boyfriend's chest but that's it. He often plays with my nipples and even sucks on them and kisses my body all over. Ir gives him pleasure but does nothing for me. All I'm interested in is getting his cock into my mouth or ass so he can cum in me.

 

I've kissed and licked a guy's body and especially his nipples and I don't call that being romantic - that's just plain old lustiness...

 

100% cock lust.

 

Since 1992 when my gay desires resurfaced at 30, having been repressed since a 5 year gay childhood friendship and sexual relationship ended, it has all been powerful gay lust, mixed with romantic fantasies that never manifested in real life. After 21 years of sucking hundreds of anonymous cocks, I fell in lust with a young guy's ass in a bathhouse and finally lost my gay virginity (as a top). Even though it was super lust-driven, actually having my cock inside another man's ass woke up a special feeling of gay connection and intimacy in me that was touching on the romantic.

After more than 10 years of more anal intimacy with guys, though casual, I now find myself fully accepting what turns out to be the 90% gay side of myself like never before, and I've even developed two romantic crushes on guys, though unrequited. I now find myself getting tired of all the effort in casual hookups with guys, and I'm very much open to a romantic relationship with another man, a close sexual and love relationship, based on both lust and romance. Even though I would at least love to have a close fuck buddy/friend, I'm definitely very open to falling in love with another man.

 

I love sexy fit looking men. I used to think I only like the sexual act, but as I get older, the idea of a loving a man is more appealing.

 

I feel the same way, but I’ve only been topped once.

 

When I hook up with most of the men I’m attracted is full romantic intimate love making …sex is nothing if there is no kissing cuddling , intimate conversation etc

 

are you hurting her by finding a fwb and at least exploring/satisfying your bi side? is it the self-imposed guilt that prevents you from being 'you'?

was she perhaps drawn to you in part because there was 'something' of your suppressed desire for a man/men that made you 'different' from other guys? perhaps more intriguing? more attentive to her needs?

do you fear experiencing sex with a male friend would threaten your love for your wife? or her love for you? would you change?

those are probably questions a lot of married (and formerly married) guys struggled with; some more than others. I know I have, and continue to do so..

I've decided that - if I had a buddy and discovered he was gay/bi - I'd go ahead and nibble at the edges.. I made sure my wife knew about my sexual encounters with guys before I met her.. she never seemed too concerned.. but I buried that part of me for about 45 years now.. It wouldn't change who/what I am.. but I'm not in such a rush that I'd be careless.. if it happens, it'll be with a guy she wants me to get out and do stuff with (she just won't know precisely what it is we're doing)..

anyway, if/when you decide to act out your bi side, move with deliberation.. you don't want things to blow up and hurt yourself and others.. like in 'Nam, it's not in anyone's best interest to be too hasty when setting up a Claymore mine..

 

I haven’t fell for a guy yet, but I like the kissing, body contact and the sex. I like kissing it makes it more sexual, I had sex With a guy Monday kissed his body sucked his toes, cock and nipples I wanted to kiss him so badly but he wasn’t in to it. He did fuck me good, I came hands free and I was sucking him rubbing on him I wanted to go a second time he was in me for a little bit snd I rode him but I think he was getting sore and wanted to stop. He didn’t cum cause of viagra. I’d like to see him again I really liked him and think we could have more but not sure of what he wants, I’d love for him to kiss me so I guess I’m becoming more romantic then just sex, I wouldn’t run off with him but would like a more fwb relationship

 

Perfectly fine to be romantic when wanting bi/gay sex …I found that when both partners are romantic and passionate about each other the mm encounter is priceless and absolutely hot ….when both crave each other sex becomes that hot