Masturbation, Sex and the Over 50's

Hello
I am a straight male aged 75, married and living in the EU. I am robustly sexually active both with my partner and masturbation. I decided to join HF after visiting it over several months having noticed that there have been threads of sex and masturbation and older men (and women) but not a lot of follow up discussion so I thought I would post on this and related topics such as sex and getting older, attitudes towards our generation, masturbation and gender, masturbation and shame as well as wider sexual and health topics. I hope you will feel like responding and building a helpful discussion. To get things started here are my opening thoughts on sex and masturbation. I will post a more detailed profile soon so that everyone knows where my posts are coming from -

Masturbation and Sex with a Partner are just two alternative forms of sexual engagement and gratification; both, (contrary to persistent condemnation) normal, commonplace, and healthy irrespective of gender, sexual orientation and age. Neither should become routine or follow a single groove. Despite what some cultures and religions claim, masturbation has numerous health and well-being benefits, and is universal . Recognised benefits of masturbation include masturbation include reduced sexual tension, reduced stress levels, aids and improves sleep, can improve self-esteem and body image, is therapeutic for sexual problems, reduces menstrual cramps in women, lowers the incidence of prostate problems in men, strengthens pelvic muscle tone and helps prevent incontinence and is essential in understanding your own sexual needs and what pleases you. All that and more and, of course, it is incredibly enjoyable, free and carries no associated risks such as unwanted pregnancy, STD's and HIV! One UK study (among many world wide found that 95% of males and 89% of females reported that they have masturbated and, given the persistence of anti-masturbation attitudes, these figures are likely to be an underestimation. as one US joke goes - "90% of men masturbate and the other 10% are lying!" In partner sex sometimes you want to take things slowly and othertimes you just want a quickie. Sometimes you want lovemaking to be romantic and sometimes you just want to fuck. Sometimes gentle and sometimes rough. You may want lots of foreplay or you may just want to get on and screw. How you engage, what you do and say, what position you choose will vary with circumstance and mood. So it is with making love to and with yourself. Solo sex may be a long slow process or a quick wank. I may involve foreplay with yourself or just need to reach a quick orgasm. You may touch yourself gently or handle your genitalia like meat. You may use sex aids or not, assume different positions, masturbate naked or clothed. Masturbate with porn, watch yourself wanking or get lost in fantasy or fetish. The possibility for variety is immense and should be embraced. Masturbation can be an alternative to partner sex but in a relationship the two do not compete. Sometimes you will only want orgasm with your partner and just as often prefer to do it yourself. Masturbating does not mean you reject your partner (if you have one) and often sex with your lover will involve masturbation both mutual where your masturbate your partner and/or masturbating yourself while your partner watches or masturbates. The governing factors are that sex alone like sex with another should be enjoyable, uplifting, and (assuming it does not involve anything illegal or socially unacceptable) guilt free. Here's to the magic and power of sex and masturbation!

 

About Me and this Thread
As I'm new to the site and have started by opening a new thread I thought it right that I let everyone know a little about me and what I hope the posts and replies will achieve'

I am a 75 year old male originally from the south of England born in 1949 now living peripatetically in Europe. I am a white, middle class professional educated to post grad level and happily married to a woman I love and desire feverishly. I am straight sexually but have no prejudices about sexual orientation. Contrary to prevailing attitudes which are often voiced here, I do not believe that passing 50+ means that you become stereotypically 'senior' especially when it comes to enjoying every aspect of a sexually active life. We enjoy a vigorous monogamous sexual life, which is varied and highly orgasmic contrary to popular misconception. Whilst age has inevitable impacts and challenges (which i intend to visit on HF), my own sexual appetite has not diminished and I make love with my partner several times a week (on average) and masturbate regularly. I have found that my appetite for sex in both respects, though not as hormonally charged as it was before my 30's/40's, has actually increased in the last ten years and every few months I go through a phase of a few weeks in which I am hypersexual and think about sex constantly, am easily and repeatedly aroused and masturbate furiously, another topic I would like to investigate with your help.

The topics I want to raise include what we have all learned about and from masturbation, our attitudes toward it, the impact (positive and negative) on sexuality and sexual activity resulting from advancing years, shared advice and information, ways to maintain an active and imaginative sexual and masturbatory life, pornography, sexual fantasy and fetishism, the impact of our generation and background, masturbation and guilt, and much more...

 

Welcome!!

 

Hi dear friend, send me PM if you like to chat about fantasies and masturbation.

 

Masturbation is a major part of a person's overall sex life.
For me, it has changed over the years.
As a teen-20s - it was all about getting off. Pull down the pants and furiously go till I came.
30s-40s - Here came internet porn. Fap-Fap
50s - porn is boring. Started to get into being watched on cam, now almost always nude and it is a whole body thing. Not just the dick.

My wife also "assist" once or twice a week - that is always awesome

 

Nice thread, Peter. Although some of us may slow down as we get older, clearly for many things ramp up a bit. A common theme that I’ve noticed — in large part because it describes me — is that age may diminish the “hormonally charged” libido (as Peter accurately put it) but that the mind can show its tremendous power by taking up much of the slack. I have more time for masturbation than ever, and my intellectual interest in sex and masturbation and erotica means that I want it more than ever.

 

I haven’t passed 50 yet, (about to turn 48) but I have definitely noticed some hormonal changes in my sex life. I’ve always been obsessed with my penis and masturbating has always been my favorite form of sex. Now as I’m getting older I want to spend more time touching my penis and treating him to lots of love and affection so he can ejaculate and orgasm regularly. I find that most times when I sit down and take my time to relieve myself, I automatically reach down to pleasure my penis and bring him to a nice erection.

 

It is a natural desire, when you get older, you feel more inclined to think about your sexual feelings, and try to explore more and more to find out what sexual behavior or action gives you more pleasure. Imagination and fantasy is the most important factors to combine your penise feelikg with your though to create a perfect sexual pleasure without fucking. If you like, PM me for more details.

 

This is very true! As I age I spend more time with myself and pleasuring my aging body and taking care of my sexual needs as I explore and get to know myself more.

 

I masturbate more now then I did in my teen years.

 

Same! I like nothing more than to relax and slowly masturbate gently until I can’t hold myself any longer and ejaculate so easily!

 

Pushing 60. Everyday is different. Sometimes I edge myself all day and come home from work and have a session of hot sex with my wife.
Other days i may cum three times at work with toys i carry with me. I have metal cock rings that I wear all day to stimulate my cock while I work.
I am getting worked up just thinking of the work day and where I will be alone for a little play time.

 

A great day for me is when it’s quiet and I don’t have any place to be so I can relax naked and take my time to make out with my penis, gently rubbing and touching him as he wakes up and becomes fully erect.

My body communicates very well and sends out signals of pleasure and appreciation as I gently masturbate and lets me know when to slow down so he can last longer and not orgasm too quickly.

 

52 here. I have found myself exploring.every other means of self satisfaction in the last few years. Discovering anal play and prostate stimulation has been life changing. I tend to reserve penis stimulation for time spent with my wife; and I feel more sexually charged now than I have in the last 20 years.

Sharing that sexual charge with my wife has brought us into a new era of sexual experience together.

 

I agree with you. Normally I would have reservations and sometimes regrets when I was younger. Now it a whole new frontier. Why can’t we pleasure ourselves and try new things? To “H” with that. I have done so much reading on sexual pleasure I am ready to apply for Dr. Ruth’s position.

 

The human body has a ton of potential for providing pleasure. If more people felt free to explore themselves completely, there would probably be a lot less drug use (legal and illegal!)

I have had orgasms that seemed impossible a few years ago. It isn't sexuality, just anatomy! Explore it!

 

I’m 55 and I masturbate more now then when I was a teenager. I masturbate a lot now and I do use toys anal toys and masturbating with both and wow I shoot really big loads of cum and I eat my own cum . I masturbate at least 6 to 9 times a day I can’t get enough.

 

I’ve never had sex. Masturbation is my only outlet….. glad I’ve gotten over the guilt!

 

To me masturbating is the best sex. It always goes the way you want and your penis gets to enjoy himself as much as he wants!

 

AND you don't have to buy jewelry, flowers, dinner, play games, put up with a lot of shit...or beg....