Hello all, new to the forum. Was hoping to get some advice. So I have been with my wife for 12 years. And the only way she is able to have an orgasm is when we are having penetrative sex. I have tried oral and fingering etc, she says it feels good but she can’t climax from anything else… any advice???
Hmm, it's usually she can't from penetration.....I say live it up while you can. Do you just want to widen her experience or do you want something other than penetration? I think as anything, it take patience and practice, but after 12 years, what works reliably, works. How about nice vibe / clit toy?
I second that. If she is open to go along for the ride take your time enjoying the oral and manual stimulation and do it in a way like your goal is giving attention and stimulating her. And if she orgasms it’s a new thing for both of you. And trying a toy as mentioned above Communicate as you do, she gives you feedback
Thank you for the feedback! Mainly want to broaden the overall experience for her and give her pleasure in a different way besides just penetration with me. Obviously as a male she has several different ways to make me climax other than being inside her. And for the few times that I might climax too quick or not b able to get/maintain an erection.
Get a good vibe with all the bells and whistles and give that a go. Failing that, I’ll get up on my soap box yet again and sing the praises of moly. It might just flick the switch for her. If it doesn’t, you’ll both still have an amazing, loving experience.
As you know orgasm with only penetration is rare and it is fortunate she can cum that way. My wife needs clitoral stimulation via oral or digital first then penetration. My fwb and fb can cum multiple times both ways in fact it is amazing that after oral first they can cum countless times with pounding penetration which I enjoy as I can go until they have had enough and then will explode inside. After a bit they are ready to go again! So you are fortunate actually she is.
Intense foreplay as worked for me some of the girls that I have been wet before I have penetrated them.
I don’t know what advice I could give. My current wife is the only woman I have been with that will only orgasm through penetrative sex…V or A. I don’t understand it! All of the others were just fine, and loved my oral attention. The very first time I was with my wife I am going down, and she gets right to the edge and has me stop. WHY? Then I will continue and again just about there, and stops. Why won’t she let herself go? I think it is all in their heads. I love what I do, And when you love what you do, you are good at it.
@6Sailor9 kind of beat me to it. Your wife may actually know what it is. Your first mistake is to say you know what's in her head. Lol There could be historical things that she has never mentioned which are her reason for stopping you. She may want to let go but can't. I knew one FB who stopped me one time. She said she needed the bathroom and I said it might be something else going to happen. She stayed and let me start up again. Sure enough, when she came, I got soaked and it was lovely. It became quite a normal/regular thing. Next time, when I needed the bathroom, she said nope and explained that all is sterile until after it meets air. So she took my pee and then carried on until I came. The other one, a GF, took a long time before she would talk. She knew what it was. As a 19yr old, she had gushed lots of juices when she came and the stupid fuckwit of a BF thought it was all his doing. He bragged about it with mates who were equal on the fuckwit scale and they embarrassed the life out of her. Eventually she relaxed with me and let it happen. Fast forward a few years and we had split up. She was with a new guy and couldn't talk to him about it. She was still open with me and we continued a few times with it when she wanted it that way. So, a lifelong trauma for her caused by immature boys. She could only open up to me and not even her husband. I hope that isn't your wife's issue but it reads similar to my ex. B
