The problem with the job where I work is that there is a certain amount of bullying from management and supervisors. Most days are okay, but a lot of other days I come home very upset. I'd be going over it in my head wondering why I didn't stand up for myself. On the other hand I enjoy the company from the other work colleagues, which I wouldn't have as much of in the new position I'm thinking of taking. The new position is a bit better paid, but the work there is a bit more solitary. I don't know as much about the new company but due to the nature of the work, it wouldn't really be possible to bully someone there anyway. What do you guys think?
I'm sorry that you're getting bullied by management. I think it would be hard for anyone to advise you about this, because only you know how bad the current situation is, how well you'd tolerate being solitary in the new job, how important the better pay would be, and how much you value your relationships with your current work colleagues. I will say though that if you're able to deliberately maintain a relationship to your current work colleagues and you can tolerate being solitary at your new job, then going to the new job sounds like it would be good. Is there a way you can get an inside information about the new company?
I get new jobs almost every week. The problem is that no one wants to pay me for doing them. Even this one virtually ended up as a freeby.
I made the move and regretted it. A friend of mine also moved over from that same company I was with 2 wks after me and he regretted too. He was a nice guy and it helped that he moved over but he handed in his notice to leave yesterday! There's a good few a-holes in this company and the union rep is a disgrace. This rep would've sat in on a meeting with management to represent me, but now he's unwilling to testify to harassment and proof of bias in their investigation against me. I've been thinking about going back to the old company and so has he, but I asked him again yesterday if he'd go back and he said that he "wouldn't give them the say". I do know one or two people in my ex company that I'd be comfortable approaching about coming back, and that's what I'll do eventually, but I don't know the best way to go about it yet. They should want me back as they've lost so many bus drivers that they needed to change the bus frequencies for the entire city. A driver at the time did advice that I should go sick long term, and if I did I'd be able to figure it all out in my head. But I wasn't sure if it would've have felt right for me to get my doc to sign me off as sick when I technically wasn't... or perhaps I would've been. I was quite likely never more depressed. I would have got roughly 70% pay if I went sick long term. I'm 6 weeks away from being made permanent in the current place and I want to wait until then to see if they fire me when I reach the 6 months probation. My plan in this place is to make a formal complaint against the manager who harassed me, and then take it to the work place relations (WRC) after they fudge that complaint. But I must go up the union ranks to see if I can get the rep to testify. I'd still remain in the same union if I moved back to the old company, but the problem is that he mightn't be obliged to testify by the time the WRC hearing comes up if I've moved companies. Part of the reason I moved was because I was embarrassment at revealing my indecisiveness after I'd signed the contract. When initially taking a while to decide about it, my dad said "do you know your own mind?". I could've changed my mind weeks after that as I still hadn't handed in my notice. Having signed a contract means nothing but the fact you've signed is psychological somehow.
What a shame to be compelled to pay union dues in an outfit where they are of little no help. Betcha that the Union excells in propagating DEI and climate issues, yet, when you need help to maintain your" Dignity of Labor" that they are MIA. Pls re-visit in 6 weeks to tell of this outcome.
I'm sorry it turned out like that. I guess there's always a risk with a change, but sometimes the risk is worth taking.
So it seems I have been made permanent, although I haven't received confirmation. In my country they retain the right to keep me on probation for up to 12 months max even tho the contract says 6 months. But given that they didn't tell me otherwise I think I can now assume I'm permanent. I'll be making my formal complaints shortly.
I can't say that I know much about your circumstances. You made a mild reference to your country, and I have no idea what it's like to live or work there. I guess you'll be following up with the complaints, and I hope things will smooth out for you. I've had numerous jobs in my life, in quite a variety of different fields. I only had two jobs where I felt the overbearing manner of someone in a position of authority was messing with my emotions... making me sometimes feel "this job stinks". Given my experience, I can reflect on my personal condition and development during those periods. My life had originally opened up when I was real young through the use of psychedelics, and I was pretty dependent on cannabis to de-stress, uplift my mood, and have some laughs or enjoy some music. But that didn't make dealing with the problem guys at the job any easier to work with. What did help me in that way was learning to meditate and practicing meditation daily. That changed me, over time, on a deeper level and more permanently. I could still enjoy a toke with a friend, but was no longer expecting it to deal with the serious situation of my work life. That's my experience. In any case, I wish you the best.
