What was the biggest age difference between you and your partner? I am 25 years old and my partner is 61.
I had a nice meet with a 16 y o guy in N.Zealand when I was 68, and last month met a few 19 y olds in India at 72. Sex can pass age differences Simon
16 is not a child. At 16 U can marry go to war and know your mind ..sex with both sexes is legal in N.Zealand, UK and many countries. And I'm a bottom so only receive. Simon
16 is, in fact, a child and it only shows how sick people are when they have to resort to the "it's legal in XYZ" argument to justify their pedophilia. I'm 27 and I wouldn't sleep with an 18 year, especially if he's still in high school.
Glad you asked because I've been dying to tell... I am in a new relationship with a 27-year-old man, and I am 68. We met only a few weeks ago. He pursued me and told me he had been observing me for awhile, and finally a friend of his set us up to meet. It has gone amazingly well. He is so handsome, and kind, affectionate, and loving. I don't know why he wants to be with me, but I am so glad he does. I have no issues with his age, but it does bother me that looking to the future he would still be so young when I am very old.
I'm so glad, Papa Smurf, that you had a chance to share this with us. Thank you. Yes, you're very fortunate, but so is he. I've always said you're an amazing guy, and would make any man, of any age, a very lucky man. I hope your new relationship is a long and rewarding one for you, with great sex, friendship and meaning. I hope to find the same in my life with a man, and soon. At 62 my time it's running out as well. What, we've only got 30 years left?
Thank you @RisingBi - that was certainly a very kind thing for you to write to me. This is a very new experience for me. He has had a past serious relationship with an older man - it seems we are just what he prefers. I find myself asking why. I have never been a person who would think of pursuing a person so young. I know a lot of guys do love the younger one - but I can tell you one thing that is wonderful. Life gets stale and dull as we settle into our mature years. Being with a much younger person brings light, and excitement and freshness to everything we do. It is really quite fun - no matter what we're doing.
I've already met quite a number of married gay men out there had at least 30 years age difference between the husbands. But I discovered even more at a naked gay men's potluck party last night, where five of the couples--only one whom I always knew--had the same 25 to 35 years age difference between the young twink and the old man in the relationship. And these are long-term marriages. I don't know what's going on. Is it a sugar daddy kind of thing? Or is it a daddy-son thing? Because I got to say, though generally for a boyfriend I've always been thinking someone around my own age, I am very very sexually attracted to young twink men as well, and I wonder whether such a relationship is more than possible, because each fulfils something in the other.
It's working pretty well for me, but I find myself thinking about it - I find myself trying to keep jealousy out of the picture - but dang, he is so attractive and even though I trust him to be loyal, I can't help thinking about that. I also find myself feeling badly - as I project into the near future - I am already old, even though I am in pretty good shape and have good health - he is so much younger than me. If we stay together, he will face a time when I die and he is still a young man. Seems profoundly unfair. I never thought I would fall in love with anyone, much less a man who is so many years younger than me. I am just taking it one day at a time, and enjoying the thing that is developing between us.
I think your last sentence is the best. I can't tell you how much I rejoice in your happiness and having found love, having actually fallen in love with another man, period. Super young or old makes no difference. For 30 years of gay desires and gay sex, I never thought gay love possible for me, or even desirable. But things have changed very much for me in the last few years, that I've even developed romantic crushes on a couple different guys, though unrequited. I don't know whether love will happen for me, since I'd already be very grateful to find a special gay fuck buddy/friend (I am so tired of working so hard for casual hookups). But I am definitely open to mutual love with a man: I think that would make so much sense to me, having denied my actual homosexuality for most of my life (90% gay). So whether your boyfriend is young or old, I would just feel gratitude for feeling love for him and from him. God, that is so beautiful. And I believe true love is truly wishing the other person to be happy. So even though jealousy is so easy for all of us, it really doesn't make sense when you're selfless and just wishing for the other's happiness. I'm not talking about an open relationship at all, because I think that only leads to suffering. Just focus on his happiness, and the jealousy will dissolve. And don't worry about a long-term life relationship with him, and your dying when he is still so young. First, you never know who is going to die first, because young people die all the time. But most importantly, just having loved, for however long, that's what is important. And I bet that he's not thinking about his loss down the road when you die of old age. He is just enjoying the amazing relationship you two are forming with each other. One I definitely envy.
@RisingBi Thank you for replying. That means a lot to me. We continue to be doing well together as we approach 6 months at the end of February. I never dreamed I'd find someone of the male persuasion that would love me as this man seems to. There are times when the age difference shows. The music he likes I've never heard before. He relaxes by playing video games online with his friends - I would prefer to watch a good documentary on TV. He hasn't experienced big world events - he was only a kid when 9/11 happened. I'm sure it made some kind of impact on him. I remember the Kennedy assassination and funeral that followed, and I was just a kid then. But - most of the time the age difference is not noticeable - unless my friends see us and pull me aside with their mouths falling open... Several times when we've been out for dinner or at a bar - total strangers, like waitresses, will ask - are you guys a couple? I don't know how they know or how they feel bold enough to ask. And yes, we have made a commitment to one another - and I trust him. He is a flirt, and I see others think they may get a chance with him - but he and I have a strong determination to be our ones and only - After years of less than satisfactory attempts to meet Mr. Right - when I least expected it, and no longer was looking, this man walked into my life and told me he had been trying to get up the nerve to ask me out. That was almost 6 months ago now - and we spend every weekend together and at least one-night mid-week - whether we will decide to live together remains something I think we'd both like, but have agreed to give it some time, so we continue just as we are.
Great news papa smurph.Here's my two cents on your age gap ,dont think of it as a gap but a learning experiance for both of you.You learn his lifestyle and he learns yours.I wish you both the best of luck.
Thank you @iowaguy51 I am learning new music, for one thing. Thankfully, he likes my music, but I stopped moving forward with a lot of music sometime in the late 80s when I started having kids and was otherwise distracted by life. It's funny how much I've missed. He often says, as he is playing some song - "tell me know know this one?" and we laugh - or at least I do, when I tell him no. Never heard the song or the artist. It's a little embarrassing.
