I don't know how

I want a mmf threesome but I don't know how to make it happen. I'm totally in love with a fantastic guy but he's not really into having another dude in the same room. It's a thing I've wanted for a long time. Any thoughts ?

 

If he is keen on having fun sex with another couple in the same room, He will get use to seeing another man. Take him to a life style club or a nude resort.
Some Fantasies should be explored. Good luck.
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Feel free to pm me Kimberly.
Panama Jack's suggestion can work but, if it doesn't, it could cause issues in your relationship. Not knowing your man and his personality, we can't be sure.

An alternative would be to do it with a really trusted friend and a guy he trusts or do it with total strangers on holiday.

I can explain better if you do me.

 

Is the problem that he just doesn’t want another guy in the room or that he’s not into being in a sexual situation with another guy or that he’s not into you being with another guy?

I’ve been in this situation and I was all of the above and wouldn’t go there.

Careful with this one.

 

That’s really unfortunate, that would be something I would do

 

Just have open and honest conversations with him and make sure he understands exactly how you feel and what your desires are. People change. I would NEVER have considered it a few years back but would have LOVED another woman. Fast forward to now and I'm completely open to another man or another woman. Certainly the gender makes a little difference on how the fun happens but my attitude is very different now. Make sure he knows what you want if it were to ever happen. I bet there's some jealosu. Some disliking of same sex. All that. A normal concern is that he wouldn't want you to be more satisfied by another man than himself. And, of course, the excitement of you having two men...at least the first time...is probably going to make it so that you WILL enjoy that other man more. That's something you both have to talk out. My FWB gets very jealous so although we talk about another woman, she won't have a stranger join and gets jealous over friends. Even a mutual friend who I have sex with gets her jealous. But we continue to talk about it and I'm pretty sure it'll happen one day. Oh, and she is NOT attracted to a woman at all so that doesn't help but she does enjoy watching sex. It's a journey. Keep us up to date! I've enjoyed it a few times and it can be much different than you would expect. PM if you want.

 

Yes, talk it over. Since you stated mmf I guess you want to see him with the other man.

 

Ooohh...good question. When one of my friends asked me years ago to join her and another man, I said no. Stupid me. But she made it clear that she wanted it all, including the guys to suck and stroke each other too and I wasn't up for that. Curious as to what you want....

 

We did mfm which is what she wanted. We are older now, but at the time she loved the attention of 2 men. We, or I should say she ruled out friends. So it was hard to find someone.

 

It still is for me. She hasn't completely ruled out a simple, two girl blowjob..both nude so I'm working on that. At least for starts. But we talk openly about it all the time.

 

Don't give up, we talked about her being with another man over a year. I had been with other women, so I was fine with her having another man. This was before we married, and I'm glad we did.

 

We'll get there. As mentioned she isn't attracted to women and doesn't want a stranger and gets jealous but if we find the right one, she's up for it. In the meantime, she gives and takes great oral and it gets us going just talking about it. I wonder if she'd do MFM. I should ask.

 

If you are in love with a fantastic man. That doesn't mean you can't have sex with others. Just tell him your desires. Actually, the first guy my girlfriend was with was such a smooth talker. I was happy for her to be with him. She and I were both able to have sex with others and never effected our love for each other. It was just sex.

 

Yes if you can be with another woman, she should be with another man. Maybe a couple, would be good.

 

Don't want to hijack the thread but I'd love to hear about the MFM sometime.....

 

I am no expert by any means, But did you mean MFM Instead of MMF? Just because your fantastic guy isn’t into having another guy in the room, it doesn’t mean the guys have to sexually interact with each other. MFM Is all about pleasing the woman…… Well, for the most part anyway. My wife and I had a few MFMs With a close extremely straight friend. She loved them! He and I had no issues being naked around each other. Yeah, there was some incidental contact between us guys, but we just threw it off and kept going. I hope you find the right guy and let yourself go!

 

You are correct…. In a MFM incidental touching is going to happen. No need to be Homophobic about it.

 

Such great suggestions and community here! I'd only add that besides considerate and flirty encouragement, perhaps 'If you will help me fulfill one of my long-time fantasies, I'll help you fulfill one of yours' direction may be one to explore. If his objection isn't so deep-seated that he just won't respond at all, ever, it may be worth a try.

 

I would ask, then talk about wants and limits

 

Try talking around previous experiences and gauge his reaction. Try to make him see that it wouldn’t threaten him and just be sex. Perhaps watch some porn together and say “that looks fun” at the right times. Getting a sex toy involved could work as well.