How should a person handle a sitiuation, if their loved one is stating that they're going through something and they're feeling really depressed and is having suicidal thoughts? What would you do or say?
Let them know that i'm there for them and if they ever need anything or to talk to someone that i'm always available - Keep track of their moods though and if they started to get really dark and if they began to show signs that they might try to committ suicide i'd seek professional help asap.
I would try my hardest to find them some sort of help and def lend my support thru it all. I was with a guy once who was suicidal.....we had only been together a short time and I was with him constantly just to make sure he didn't hurt/kill himself. He made it clear that if I left his side for a day that he wouldn't be able to "make it". And this went on for a long time.....he refused to get professional help and was content to just take drugs all day and I was so afraid of him killing himself that I stayed....I wouldnt have been able to handle the guilt if something happened. But then I just realized that all the help I could give wouldn't do any good as he didn't want to help himself. He wanted a chick to do drugs with and mother him at the same time. So I just left....I was really of no use....I had tried to help him. That was almost 2 years ago and a few months ago a friend of mine saw him in the emergency room with his arms slashed from his wrists to his elbows.
I guess I'd just talk to them first...try and develop a better understanding of what their going through and then counsel them in my own way....then if I realised it was really serious try and convince them to get professional help...I'd also probably communicate with them as much as possible to let them know I'm there for them...
i'd probably freak as to why they were choosing to tell me, and imagine it was my fault somehow. i'd freak. i have no idea how to deal with that.
hey, im going through a similar situation at the moment. ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. a few months before he met me he made a suicide attempt. for the first year or two i loved being the only person who made him happy. i just listened to him, and talked to him about it. encouraged him to get help and anti-depressants (although they're not really working) if i were you, i would also try to figure out if it was things in his life that are making him depressed (i.e family issues, cant get a job, worried about life...) or whether no matter what changed in his life and how well things were going if he'd still be depressed. in that case, he needs medication. nothing you can do or say is really going to change his biochemistry. id really love to talk to someone else who is in this situation, because after 3 years im kinda losing my patience a little and im so tired of looking after someone else all the time. pm me if you wanna talk more about this p.s talking about suicide is not going to make him committ suicide. so dont be afraid of talking through all the details and implications of it with him
