Poll: Did you have sex with your spouse on your first date? Did it help or hinder?

Nope. We were virgins until we married. Both 25. It was wonderful learning about everything together. Have been faithful ever since. It's the way God designed it.

 

No we didn’t, it was a few dates before we had sex, just a good night kiss on the first one ;-)

 

My wife approached me in our local pub she was a quite recent widow and I was a divorcee. I had been married 29 years and was making up for lost time and sleeping with just about anyone I could. I got into the pub not long before closing time on my way home from work. She was a bit tiddly and we danced a bit and messed about. She asked how old I was and I said about 12 ( I was 59) she went and sat with her friends and I was stood at the bar alone. She came over and asked if I could ever be interested in her.
So, like the true gentleman I was said " I can take you to my flat and fuck you, then we can see how we go from there" she turned round and walked off and I thought I would never see her again. Not long after she came back with her coat and handbag and said ok let's go. So we went back and she spent the night at my flat. I walked her home the next morning. She asked me to come for tea the next day. I did. I moved in with her within days. We met 19 September and got married February 14 we have been together 10 years now and are very happy.

 

Good luck, I am so happy for you and your wife. I did like you walking her home. Nice to know romance and good manners can still be found out there.

 

Yep, my game was STRONG back then! .
Some friends of ours hooked us up. We had sex that night and have been together for 25 years since.

 

I would say that it helped because she married me.

 

Since we have been married 45 years I have no opinion. Dont know if it would have been better or worse. If she hadn't been a virgin and took off like she did. Probably wouldn't have been avilable. She turned out being one of those you really wouldn't want to get away.
My wife was a virgin when we met. I was in the Army and completed a tour overseas and far from. Tried several times while dating, however sex was limited to petting, figering and hand job and we married within 6 months.
Dont really know if it was love or thought of finally having a cherry to bust..However still together after 45 years..On our wedding night she was nervous and held back until next morning. She was scared and begged to be easy. I did that and took her cherry. She loved it and turned into an instant fuck machine. Fucked her three more times before wearing her out and was morning, afterwork and before bed after that. She couldn't get enough.

Was a few months before she let me go down on her, she didn't know what to think of it, however came and came pulled my head in and wouldn't let go.and still same even today.
It was a few more months before she came around to giving a blow job which she mastered and couple more years before I got to take her back door and turned out to be like my personnel call girl.
She was beautiful (still is) and nothing was off table.

Fast forward.

Had a few ups and downs thru the years and worked it out. Wife also had a female problem for a couple years and fina lly got thru it and back to fantastic sex.
She is one of those looks like a older average lady until she sports a short dress. heels and stockings,.she still has her thin model legs and a beautiful ass. She still gets her share of looks and flirted with by 20 year olds.and up..Its a turn on knowing knowing they would fuck her anytime if given the chance..

She will dress In a short mini, hose and slut heels at home for the long intimate nights. And after all these years together cant keep my eyes and hands off her. and will put most 30 year olds to shame. She still gets wetter than all out just rubbing her pussy or back door will cum 20 times or more and could prob easily wear 3 men out.

I do halfway manage to keep up and take her all the way and will finish her up with toys. I think she is still the greatest making love to as anything still goes to keep it interesting and still is my personnel call girl.

 

Thank you for sharing!! Welcome to HF!

 

We had sex on our third date. Yes, that sounds cliche but it was true for us. We had known each other for about 7 days. I was in a fraternity (TKE at San Diego State and she was about to join the KD sorority). I lived in the house so it was difficult to find privacy at first. We went to motel rooms quite a bit and did it in my room when my roommate was out of town (or at his girlfriend's apartment).. Then we said to hell with it and went into my room after one of our house parties. My roommate had already gone to sleep. We walked in and quietly got into bed. We were quietly fooling around when Ann noticed that my roommate was watching us in the darkness. She turned around and straddled me in a reverse cowgirl position with her legs wide so he could get a good look at the penetration. I as now aware of what was going on with my roommate as we could see him masturbating while watching us. Soon he said that he couldn't take it anymore and came over and stood next to us while he still masturbated. I will never forget it when Ann said, "Oh my god......what are you doing?". He bent over and stared fondling my future wife's breast and kissed her full on the lips. He then said, "I can't watch anymore, I have to fuck you.". "Then fuck me.", Ann said, She got off my cock and laid down on the bed, Lauren, my roommate, immediately got on top of her, pinned her legs back, and penetrated her. They kissed deeply as he piledrove her repeatedly until Ann maned that she was cumming. Lauren busted his nut into her while I jerked off onto the mattress. This was a first for Ann as well as me. The next day she said that she did not want to do that again. She had been drunk when it happened and felt guilty. Except the next weekend, at a hotel on El Cajon Blvd, it happened again, only it was a full-on threesome (no gay action). Lauren and I took her in all ways possible. We spit-roasted her and dp'd her with each of us taking a turn fucking her ass. We also took her individually. It was heaven. With some rest breaks, we were at the hotel for several hours. We were in our early 20 's and had stamina to burn, lol. Ann, myself, and Lauren continued our secret trysts for the next month or so when we decided to call it quits as Ann started to think this was going to end badly with her and I breaking up and afraid this would get out to the rest of the fraternity (it didn't, thankfully).That next summer, one of brothers in the fraternity was getting married up in the bay area (Concord). a Lot of people connected with the fraternity went up but I was not able to go because I could not get out of work. Ann went up because she was good friends of the bride.....and yes, Lauren went to the wedding as well. Of course, I was concerned that they may hook up. Our threesomes were long in the past and Ann and I were doing great together. We were engaged and looking forward to a long life together. When she got back, I questioned her about Lauren and she said nothing happened, and that he didn't even try anything. I believed her because she had confessed in the past that she and an old boyfriend (Doug) fucked her while we were dating early in our relationship (he had bought Led Zepplin concert tickets months before they broke up and Ann promised she would still go to the concert. She went back to his apartment after the concert and spent the night. After smoking a joint they had sex.). Anyway, about 10 years into our marriage she admitted that she and Lauren had intense sex after the wedding reception. She got very graphic about what happened and said that Lauren took her in positions that she and I had not thought of. She said they wore each other out. Nothing continued with Lauren after that time. After graduation, we never saw him again. We are still married and have been for 43 years. Having sex early had no adverse effect on our marriage.

 

Hey gorgeous

 

Nope. In fact, my wife had a “policy” where she didn’t sleep with anyone for 3 months. I cackled out loud when she told me that.

She lasted 3 weeks.

 

I have found that having sex too early in a relationship is potentially a hazard to an extended relationship if the sex is unfullfilling. I prefer that we get to know each other better so there is a broader connection outside sex thing.
This is actuallly me being cautious due to too many one night stands or very short hook ups if the main initial attraction is mostly sexual. I have a very small penis and unreliable stamina and it has relegated me to 'one nighters ' or just friends relationships. I have upped my game as far as foreplay goes but some gals just want a good fuck as well.

 

Yes. We were already in our 40's, and knew each other online for a few months. When we finally decided it was time to meet, we did everything we taught our kids to never do at a first meeting

 

I've fucked every girl I dated on the first date.

 

Just the one then. LOL