the older i get the more i want to be with another man

Same for me except I didn’t become curious until my 50s

 

It must be a natural thing. I've been having sex with guys for a lot of years but even now as I'm aging I find I fantasize more about the next guy and less about the hot babes I see in town. Some of those babes, well, I can't help wondering about what she'd taste like, feel like, but mostly I check out gay porn on the internet and hope I meet that cock (uh, I guess, that guy).
Now instead of thinking of cocks and balls half the day, I'm in that mode all day long. Fucking my wife, I still think of how it's more fun when we have another guy, cock to share.

 

Me too but these days there's no sex going on with the wife.

 

Wow! So many of these posts resonate with my own aging experience!

I think I was naturally sexually interested in other guys from an early age, but societal conditioning was pretty strong in those days. Also, it seems like once puberty hit I developed a strong sexual interest in women (like my sexual preference was hijacked by hormones). But no matter how many women I slept with, I never felt satiated, and always had this self-consciousness about being naked and intimate with them. In my late 20s/30s, I had some longer times without girlfriends, and my thoughts once again began to turn toward guys. I've had girlfriends since then, but privately I started fantasizing more and more about gay sex. I started watching gay porn, chatting and sharing pictures with guys on the internet, and occasionally even video chat where we masturbate together (remotely). My interest in pussy is now lower than ever, but I still hesitate to get with a guy partly because I have a girlfriend. I'm not attracted to 99% of men, but once in a while some gl guy will really turn me on, so that's kind of confusing. I sometimes fantasize about a gay lifestyle, but I fear how difficult a transition that would be. Still, I feel like at this point in my life, the need to know is very strong. Until that happens, I guess I'll just keep daydreaming.

 

As we get older and wiser, the field of opportunities narrows. Towards the bottoms, Bi Opportunies were more opportunistic than finding horny old women. I will gladly admit that it was something that I gladly embraced. Discression was a priority and when our wives , half jokingly , suggested we should just go downstairs and take care of each other, my very close friend and took them at their word, litterally. There had to be a starting point somewhere. At one point they both watched us suck each others cock. The only thing they said were that we were too timid in our aggression. I told my wife that the next time I will do it with determination, which she wittnessed .

 

To quote my wife," lighten up, it's just sex" and "if youre going to do something, do your best at it and enjoy it" Her words helped me to help myself

 

I was curious as a teenager but resisted the urge to explore my gay side. I convinced myself I was straight. I met my wife and enjoyed good sex a few years. In my mid thirties I began to fantasize about gay sex. I began to jo to naked men and chat on a gay site. My craving to be with a man only grew stronger and I began to consider myself gay. I still find women attractive but given the choice I would chose a relationship with a man. I could easily live without having sex with my wife. We are moving quickly to a sexless marriage anyway. This only reinforces my desire to become an exclusively gay man.

 

"...I feel like at this point in my life, the need to know is very strong."

Okay, so you may be Gay. Try sex with a guy and see how it makes you feel.

Or you may be Bi, perhaps you and your GF can try a threesome. Besides the pleasure you could attain, the novelty, additional erotic energy, and taboo-busting might make you perk up with women, too.

In any case, don't keep waiting. If it would help, have a drink or smoke a joint before you try. (Just don't get shitfaced.)

You have a girlfriend, but she's not attached to you by a chain. You can involve her or do it without her, but do it.

Someday, each of us will run out of tomorrows.

 

I have the same problem, I tried sucking a cock and loved it now I want to try a real one instead of a Dildo in my back door. Makes me hard thinking of it

 

Even though my desire to suck a man grows stronger as I become older, I also want to have sex with my wife. The two sides of me need the 'both...and' instead of the 'either...or'. With my wife, I am more of a take charge person which she loves. When I am sucking (and someday hoping for anal) I always take on a more submissive role. Her naked body still fills me with lust and a dick fills me with a desire to make it cum.

 

Been curious for 10 years or so, but haven’t acted on it. Interested in sucking off another guy, and also both topping and bottoming. But I don’t want to do it myself, hoping my wife will be involved, or at least pleasuring herself as she watches. Someday…

 

Only sucked one cock. Did not get him to cum in my mouth. Told him it was ok. Sure want to try it again!!!

 

Did he cum in your mouth??

 

Now at 62, I'm so much in a similar camp as so many of you: the older I've gotten, especially after 50, the "more gay I have become." In the last 10 years especially, my jerking off to women in porn photos and videos (and really just lesbian), has dwindled to nothing. It's been pretty much exclusive to men and gay porn for a number of years now. And with the exception of an on-again-off-again 3-year relationship with my second girlfriend of my life, from 2016-2019, all my sex has been with guys since 1995. And after we broke up, I was instantly only interested in sex with men. Like so many others, I'm still attracted to women, but I now have zero interest in ever having sex with a woman again.

In contrast, in my spare hours, all I pretty much think about, AND HAVE, is sex with guys. I now identify as gay, and I can't tell you how happy that makes me ("gay" is such an apt word from old English, isn't it: sex with guys makes me so happy). I finally feel so free to live my truth (though for the most part I'm still in the closet). And as I continue to age, month by month and year by year, my gay desire just keeps getting stronger and stronger. Over the last 30 years, I've gradually progressed from only being interested in cock to now being attracted to guys on the street, fucking and rimming guys as a top, actively looking to lose my bottom virginity too, passionately kissing guys, and even developing romantic feelings for guys I've met (unrequited so far). I am even so open to having a monogamous boyfriend for God's sake!

I wonder: am I BECOMING more and more gay? Or am I just more and more accepting my 95% homosexuality that's always been there? That's the one thing that comes with age: you stop giving a shit and allowing society to dictate the terms of your life. You also become better and better at self-analysis and seeing the lifelong demon of internalized homophobia inside you, and have developed the tools to destroy it. And mortality staring you in the face has a way of shattering all your inhibitions. You don't want to waste another minute, and you have a lifetime of full-on gay sex to make up for in the few short years that you have left. It's time to have the greatest fun a man can have--having sex with other men as much as possible. It's what all of us were destined for to begin with.

 

Perhaps it's more like taking the path of least resistance? I once heard an older man say that after a lifetime of dealing with women, being involved with men was like going on a nice vacation with all expenses paid. He had told me, after sucking me off, that he was actually happy that his wife gave up on sex because it opened the door for him to experience sex and intimacy without all that "girl shit," as he put it. Later, and as I was deep inside of him, he had me stop to share with me how being in this moment felt to him, what it meant to him and he had simplified it by saying, "It's good to know that you know like I do when it comes to what a man needs - and has nothing to do with women."

I'm 69 and I don't feel or think that I'm any more "gay" than I've been throughout my life to date. Yeah, the wife is going through her changes and she's not happy that her fire has gone out but she didn't have a problem blowing my brains out or enjoying having me eating her like my life depended on it - and I have permission to get busy with anyone I care to and, honestly, I can't imagine myself only being into men but I can understand why some guys are and/or are finding out that this is the case with them. Perhaps it's because, as a lot of us have learned, men are just... easier. Less complicated; not all that fussy.

 

Yes he did, but I didn't swallow. I let it fall out of my mouth as he finished in my mouth.

 

Since my initial post, I may have changed my mind about being with a man other than just sexually. I've had intense dreams about being fucked in missionary and kissing (and I don't mean just on the lips) while doing it. Never had any interest in kissing at all until recently.

Its never going to happen, though.

 

That would be great!!

 

It has been a very long time since I was with a man but ever since I was it is all I think about. At 76 years old it has occurred to me that I may never get another chance to suck another or even perhaps persue my Bisexual fantasies.

 

I know how you feel I’m not as old as you I’m 54 going to be 55 next month but I think you will find someone just keep looking.