Gay? Bi? Straight? (which would you choose)

I didn't choose to be bisexual; I just found it very much to my liking. If I had to choose, I'd still choose to be bi because, if nothing else, it's a lot of fun. Having said that, the problem isn't sexuality: It's our rather childish beliefs and behaviors about sexuality that is the problem or, as I learned, the fear of the other and if you're not like us, you're against us... and you will be dealt with. Now, you do have a choice: Either be who you want and need to be or let other people dictate that for you and I don't know about anyone else but no one gets to tell me how I'm supposed to be. No one. The things that scare so many bisexuals do not scare me; if someone doesn't like that I'm bi, well, too fucking bad - this ain't about you, is it? And then, all they can do is not like it and trying to really fuck with me about it, well, that's been tried before... and I'm still very damned bisexual.

I don't know what it's like to have lived a straight life and then discover bisexuality down the road and then feeling like being "forced" to make a choice when it seems sensible to me to go with your thoughts and feelings and not get all caught up in the moral and social stigma because despite this shit being around for as long as it has been, people are still bisexual! or whatever sexuality they find is working for them. And if I've learned nothing over the 59 years I've been bisexual, it's that being bi is only a problem if I allow it to be - and why would I do that to myself? The problem isn't being bi: The problem is all of the people who don't and can't understand that morality and religion... has it all wrong and I remain living proof that it is.

 

I once read that "people fear what they do not understand"; this easily explains why being gay or bi in a largely straight world still is NOT a "walk in the park"----"ignorance is bliss" for certain-sad to say---------BE YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

We do fear that which we do not understand; it's part of the nature of what it means to be human. But a life lived in fear is a life that's not worth living and I don't know about anyone else but I refuse to live in fear or to be affected by the hatred displayed by others because they believe some shit that we have long since proven not to be all that true. I chose to be who I am; I chose to embrace my bisexuality and revel in it and in spectacular fashion, too. Ignorance, however, isn't as blissful as the saying insists; ignorance is still ignorance and it's one that been ingrained in us - and because we fear that which we do not understand. Oh, my goodness - this shit really starts to get deep, doesn't it?

 

Being a 66-year old gay guy (totally straight acting) who has been celibate for those 66 years-I will tell you that I certainly did NOT choose his sexuality; I knew I liked guys only at an early age and had NO interest at all in ladies; it has NOT been easy I'll tell you- to "go solo" all these years but despite the great frustration I feel in not being able to connect with another guy (in any way)and this REALLY sucks-trust this writer on this- I DO know that I do not fear rejection (or worse) staying alone and-at least-I can stay safe and not worry about any sort of hurt-It ain't FUN friend- but at least I can assure that no hurt (of ANY sort) will be in the offing----------------

 

At the end of any day, we all have to do what's best for us... even if it means doing nothing. Or being alone to avoid the hurt and pain that comes with humans interacting with each other. Sometimes, it's not about choice: It's about that which we must do.

 

KDaddy23: Well said-I can truly relate to your words "Ya gotta do what ya gotta do"-and that's what it all boils down to in the long run------------

 

It always does.

 

I feel that I’m Bi, because for one I’m Married, still look at Women, but the occasional Hot Guy revs me up!

 

When you let others steal your joy, you're fucked and never in a good way. Like some famous scientist said, the only abnormal sex is not having sex at all. We're all born to do it; we've developed different "flavors" for doing it and mostly based on sex - straight, bi, and gay. You chose one or it chooses you but we're all supposed to be straight by social contract and religious mandate and... there are more than straight people in the world. I face intolerance simply because of the color of my skin but if humans are good at anything, they're good at hating and you have a choice or two: Don't let their hatred steal your joy or you allow them to do just that. Me? Not even feeling that shit. I love having sex and I love being bisexual and despite all of the negatives I've ever heard since I heard the first one handed down by adults who were supposed to be smarter and wiser... and 100% ignorant about sex and afraid of religious retribution themselves.

People have fucked with me about being bi; they've broken my heart and in more ways than one and, well, let's say many learned not to try to assault me because I play for keeps. And I'm still bisexual. So are a lot of men and women I know.
Are straights really fortunate? Maybe some are but I've personally turned a lot of straight men into bisexual men because... needs always must. No one said that the world is a nice place and if you believe in the fairy tale of love, sex, romance, and happily ever after, I'm thinking you need to be reeducated into some realties that our morality and social contracts do not want any of us to know about, let alone be indulging in.

Try to steal my bisexual joy. I triple dare you. I hope no one is going to miss you.

 

Right on friend! Screw those who are too ignorant (or just too #@!@*#! bigoted) to understand what the lifestyle of a bisexual guy REALLY is like-------could there be "straight" guys who are scared of an encounter with another guy----and think that they will now be thought of as "gay"? (horrors!) Hell yes! Just toss the labels and the worn-out stereotypes into the trash and DO YOUR OWN THING----it IS YOUR life-after all!

 

NO ONE has the right to tell ANYONE how to go through life----WHAT to do-and WHAT NOT to do; who are they to tell ANYONE else how to conduct their life? Do what YOU want-WHEN you want-with WHO you want------

 

You are right friend you are right

 

if I had a completely open-minded and participating female wife, I would choose bi. Otherwise it is strictly straight. I love my wife’s body. The only thing on a guy I want is his cock!

 

I love being bisexual I think. It’s the best of both worlds you can have sex with men and have sex with women or both at the same time and I don’t regret being bisexual

 

I think you speak for quite a few bi guys here----why should you-or ANY bi/gay guy regret being what he IS? Be proud of yourself AND your sexuality!

 

I'm bisexual and if I had a choice I'd still want to be bisexual. It's art of who I am. I wouldn't want to change. I'm happily bi.

 

That’s awesome and I do know how you feel I really feel the same way

 

im glad you are comfortable with your sexuality.

 

Yes I am comfortable with my sexuality and I’m glad you are to . There’s not a lot of bi males that are comfortable with their sexuality

 

True many aren't. But I've always been at ease with my sexuality.