Secret Sex Life

I've had about 20 one-time sexual encounters, and they all remained secret. I like it that way. All my casual sex has been safe, so it's nobody's business but the two (or three) people directly involved.

It has not caused problems with my long-term primary relationships, and probably has done just the opposite-- making me more sexually charged and more sensitive to the sensual needs of my partner.

 

In our younger days my wife had a scout troop of about 10 girls. She took them on campouts many times. I never thought any mischief happened with her in charge of these girls, except. The other day we were watching a TV show about wilderness training. She started to giggle. She then reminisced the time one of the campground rangers stuck himself with a knife during a safety talk. I remembered the tale and mentioned that she thought he was a hottie. Nope, not him. It was the other ranger she had a liking for. She then revealed her secret about him. Once the knife ranger got taken care of and the girls had settled down for the night she and hottie ranger ended up by themselves at the campfire. She told me from there they spent the night in his cabin. I asked "Did you and him? . . . . you know". Her reply, "Why do you think we went to his cabin." I patted her leg and told her that it was a good memory.

 

Definitely don't have a secret sex life, but want one. After the second kid, my wife has zero sex drive. She suggested that she didn't think it was a horrible idea if I got sex somewhere else, but I kind of don't know how to get started...

 

So she's given you a hall pass. Sometimes that deflates the issue and the mystique of having a lover outside the marital bed isn't as exciting. But if one still needs to have sexual experiences there are ways to accomplish it. One way is pay for play. An escort is one way to fulfill the void. Another way is finding a fuck buddy through a dating website.

 

My "sex life" = 75 percent secret

 

Good advice. I’d kind of like to start out with some sexting / pic exchange, if any ladies want to PM me…

 

Hasn't everyone at some point or another in their life?

 

I'm 52, bi male, married and in the closet.

Wife has no clue that I occasionally look for guys to play with.