how did you and your SO first talk about extra sexual fun with others,

Anne here. I met my husband while at school, while we were still girl and boyfriend when he joined the Navy. While he was away it only took me a matter of weeks before I did the dirty and cheated on him for the first time and continued to do so with several guys. He eventually found out throught he grapevine and ditched me. I subsequently became engaged to one of the other guys thinking he was the one. He wasnt. Ironically I ended up cheating on him with my ex (my now husband) and eventually broke off the engagement. Some while later me and (my husband) decided to give it another go. By this time we were wiser and we both realised I was a serial cheater so we discussed a solution and decided between us that as long as I didnt lie and he had (not a veto) no serious objection to any guy in particular then I could have sex outside of the relationship. At this point he was very brave and admitted that when I'd first cheated on him he had found it a masturbatory turn on but just coudnt bring himself to share me, but that had changed. He suggested we experiment with a cuckold style open relationship with ALL that may entail, which to be honest I found exciting. We experimented, found his boundaries and its worked. I have had quickies, short term flings and longer more involved relationships - but think its worked for us because weve both been honest with one another, brutally so at times. We've had our ups and downs, I wont pretend otherwise, but we got through them together and I've made sure he has never ever felt he's anything but my No1. Although we dont broadcast the type of relationship we have, I have of course been 'seen' when out with other men. My sister knows as does his as do my closest friends as do our grown children. As far as our children were concerned we kept it simple and just said froma early age that mommy was going out with a friend, we expected to have to have that talk but young people being young people I guess our eldest figured it out for herself, the first inkling she had was the time she first said,' you look nice mom' when it was clear I was going out on a date. One rule we dont break is - I dont date any of my husband friends or my friends husbands or the husband of anyone we know socially - a BIG no no. Apart from the extra marital sex, we are best friends and I am his stalwart supporter as he is mine, and I'm definitly a loving (passionate) wife and mother as he is a loving (and romantic) husband and father. It has worked for 30 years.

 

Welcome to the adventure of HF! Thanks for sharing!!

 

This is ancient history, well before the days of the internet.
As a young married guy I was an avid reader of the Penthouse Forum magazines. I especially loved reading the readers letters that dealt with what was known back in the day as "wife swapping". This became my most significant sexual fantasy. My wife and I never discussed our fantasies at all, our sex life was fairly mundane, getting tired and in a rut. She knew I read the penthouse forum mags, she read them herself from time to time, she also read erotic fiction but we never discussed it with each other.
Anyway, one day I discovered an adult contact magazine. This was a magazine where people place personal adverts for all sorts of sexual meetings including a few from our own local area. It also had letters from subscribers and articles on sexual topics. So I purchased this and took it home. I showed it to my wife and while mildly interested to find such a thing existed she said "You needn't think we are going to get involved in that sort of thing". Of course I agreed, saying it was just like the penthouse mags as far as i was concerned, just a bit of fun.
However, long story short, this magazine started us talking about our sex lives, we started sharing our fantasies, being honest about how the thought of sex with other people affected us. We were high school sweethearts and neither of us had ever been with another person. We started role playing, our sex lives took off, lifted to another level and we started talking about "what if we did meet others...", talking about how we might make it work, what sort of ground rules we would have.
Then one day I came home from work and she told me that she had sent an advert into the magazine requesting other couples to get in touch with us for fun erotic times. Her idea was that we would experiment with same room sex in front of other couples without swapping. We started meeting couples, and it all go from there, within a couple of years we had evolved to an open marriage. We live that lifestyle for another 18 years and I loved every minute of it.

 

No matter how many times you talk about it, when it happens it happens fast.

 

While hubby was in the Coast Guard I would read his Penthouse magazine's and would get really Horny reading about the guy's that shared their wives!
I enjoy dressing Slutty and flirting with other guys!
I guess I liked the attention and couldn't control my Hormones!
Hubby didn't seem to mind and enticed me to flirt!

 

Alice, the same for my wife too! Yes, Growing up… My wife had 5 brothers and Penthouse/playboy were in the house too. She read them as well. Still today, she is a sex women and dresses in clothes that are very sexy and very inviting. I have always accepted her as she is and have never tried to change her. For her, if sex happens with others, it happens! But she is all it. I love her just the way she is.

 

Semper Paratus “Always Ready” ;-)

 

when i was married to my first wife we were very sexually active with each other. about 4 years later i asked her ifif another guy could do her while I watched.eventually she said yes but wanted to know what he looked like
I told her blonde hair and blueeyes.
then she says she wants to have a blonde blue eyed baby, I told her go ahead as we had no kids yet
he would come over for dinner as the 2 of us were going to a tech school together

One nite after supper she went up stairs and came down in a sheer blue nighty , nothing underneath. he wasnt watching at the time
and got on the couch next to him and started rubbing him and trying to kiss him
he jumped up and said he was happily married and left
about a week later we got ananyonomous call asking if we were interested in wife swpping. asked the wife and she said yes and made a date
we did go but to seperate rooms, I really wanted for each of us to watch each other
we did are thing but nothing special and we never did it again

 

For us it wasn't that long into our relationship. It was the 1980s, and we'd grown up in outwardly quiet Dorset. I drove to London for the first time for shopping and sightseeing and these two hicks from the country had a great day, doing all the things you hear about, like Oxford Street, like Harrods in Knightsbridge, like Leicester Square and Covent Garden and Soho. Soho! The name screamed naughty to us and although there were things you don't see in Bournemouth often, it didn't feel that outrageous. It did have sex shops, selling toys, clothing, magazines and videos, and we both went into one and had great fun browsing and buying. In the end, A's first vibrator and some magazines for us both.

Some of the magazines were distinctly tame, censored horrifically, but one had better stories as well as pages of adverts from couples looking for other couples. We were really intrigued by these as they were often accompanied by pictures of the couples and, together with the words, were far more exciting than the Readers Wives in Fiesta. I found A often browsing and masturbating as she read and reread these adverts and she was the one who broached the subject first. She had found 3 ads that really excited her and she started talking about us writing to them. I was amazed, turned on and didn't think it was wrong in the slightest. You wrote to a central address with a sealed envelope with the relevant ad code on the outside and waited. And waited. And waited!

Then suddenly we got three replies. One just wanted pictures of A and didn't feel genuine. The other two were much more positive and gave their phone numbers. I remember both phone calls well, the nervousness, the excitement and the relief that both couples sounded as good on the phone as in their ads and letters.

We arranged to meet both, in a pub in both cases, and not near to where we lived, and went back to their home (one couple) and to an awful cheap hotel with the other. The rest is history.....!

 

Interesting. How did that lead to discussing sexual fun with others? Did you outright tell her you'd like to have a real dick in your mouth? Does she pegs you, and if so, has she ever mentioned wanting to see you take another guy's cock in your ass?

 

During the 2020 covid scare, we joined a clothing optional resort. My wife and I both learned about the Lifestyle at the resort. We both entered the Lifestyle fully aware of what it is? Eyes wide open and never looked back.

 

We had just come out of a cool period as far as how often we were having sex. I told her I had a fantasy but I wasn't sure how she would take it. Then I told her that I had been thinking about something and that I think I would like to see her with another man. When she asked why I told her that I wanted to masturbate while watching her have sex with other men. At first she thought I was introducing the idea so i could sleep with other women. I told her that it wasn't the case. I like the thought of her coming onto men in front of me. Her flirting and her doing things in front of me. Knowing that i'm her husband and her doing it anyway. Her having sex and being gratified by someone else. Hell, even her having sex with someone and i'm not there. Her coming home late and telling me that she was late because of what she had been doing. I love the thought of all of it.

 

Read and learn about “Compersion”. It is life changing when applied to all areas of your marriage and more so regarding sex with others. Both of you need to read a short book “The Ethical Slut” as well.

 

Yeah part of the reason why my wife is ok with the idea of a poly relationship is to have a guy that wants to do things that I don't. Like i'm not an outdoorsy kind of person. We aren't having her look for another guy actively. Kind of a if she meets a guy she will see how things go but she's not on dating sites actively trying to find someone. At the moment, we are enjoying talking and fantasizing about what could happen.

 

That’s a good plan. We have been on the lifestyle sites and very hot and miss. Once you find what you are looking for there, it’s best to let things develop organically. And I can’t stress enough to throughly vet them. We keep a very tight circle ⭕️ of a few playmates only. It’s much safer that way. You must always put your wife first, make her feel that your relationship is strong enough to invite others into your bed. Women are emotional creatures as you know.
FYI, We played with a new couple last night and had a great time. We play with couples only.

 

In 1972 I met my first wife in the Philippines she was a waitress in a supper club and we moved in together in a 2 room dinky little house and she had a teenage girl move in with us to help her out and one room was a bedroom and the other room was a kitchen, dining room and bathroom all in one and the girl slept on a mat in the kitchen and one night I woke up and the girl was laying on one side of the bed naked and she was whimpering a little and told my wife that her pussy hurt and she was laying on her back and I could see her small titties with huge dark areola and her nipples were hard and she had a little hair on her pussy and she pointed to a big bump at the top of her pussy and my wife told her to pull the skin back and her clitoris popped out hard and throbbing and my told her that she needed to cum but she didn’t know what it meant as she had never had an orgasm so my wife told her to rub her clitoris and she started rubbing it and I could see it and my dick was hard as a rock and I watched her rub her clitoris and her dark areola wrinkled up tight and her nipples were poking out hard and she started humping her hips up and down and she was crying a little screamed a little when she reached her first ever orgasm and I raised up and looked at her pussy and a lot of white creamy cum came out and I started squirting my cum on her stomach and pussy three times and my wife was masturbating her hairy pussy watching us and brought herself to orgasm and I jammed my head between my wife’s legs and ate her pussy to more orgasms and my dick was still hard and I fucked my wife and shot my load inside while the girl watched us and afterwards my wife said the whole scenario made her so horny and gave her such intense orgasms

 

when me and my first wife were married she had no problem doing it with someone else.
after kids that stopped but later on as i had become more Bi, she wanted to watch me get pegged by another man

 

First off she liked my friend, so I wasn't asking her to fuck a stranger, When I asked her about fucking our friend she didn't hesitate and said ok. We had a night out with drinks and wound up at our place. We had several more drinks when my wife said its to hot in here and removed her top, no bra just bare breasts. Our friend smiled and said wow! I said the wife must be feeling horny to which she replied you bet you ass I am, she then went up to our friend and grabbed his cock which he seemed to enjoy and kissed him. He started to suck on her nipples and she removed the rest of her clothes, I asked our friend if he wanted to fuck my wife and he said "absolutely" so she took his hand and led him off to the bedroom where she fucked him good, returning with her pussy filled with his cum. It happened much easier than I ever thought it would. She was so turned on I don't think there was anyway to stop her., she obviously had thought about it and acted out her desires. It was hot to watch.

 

We started out with me asking her if she would have sex with a mutual friend. She surprised me when she agreed to. She got excited taking about it. She didn't get upset or offended that I was asking her to fuck another man but enthusiastically embraced the idea. She admitted that she really liked our friend and had fantasize about fucking him many times.
We made plans to have him over for drinks where she would seduce him. The plan worked out extremely well, with my wife getting her pussy stuffed, exceptionally filled, seems our friend had a big cock which was a nice bonus for her. She was super excited afterwards and wanted me to fuck her cum filled pussy which I did with with great enthusiasm. Needless to say when I asked her again if she was open to fucking other men with big cocks, she smiled and said she certainly was and was more than ready as the thought really excited her. So began our journey to her sexual liberation and lots of fantastic sex.

 

How we began this journey



In 1982 we were planning a trip to Australia to visit my wife’s sister. We knew the beaches were topless and Jill wanted to try being topless in public before the trip. Friends had told us about a small series of gravel quarries about a half hour from our home. Jill only wore her bikini bottom and a muslin top.


There was no beach area but rather some trees with small grassy areas just off the path. Once we were settled Jill removed her top but when she heard people walking down the path she would roll onto her stomach. A man then came into the grassy area where we were sunbathing and laid his blanket less than 30 feet from us so back on her stomach again.


As time went on she became a little more casual and not so diligent in hiding her breasts. I decided to swim across the quarry and upon my return, Jill was sitting upright on his blanket drinking a beer and sharing a joint. He became bolder and while Jill was on his right he would pass the joint with his right hand to her right hand with the result of his hand brushing against her breasts. I was surprised by how excited this made me.


On our drive home, we discussed the possibility of opening our relationship.